How are you ruining your kids
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Anonymous
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I mean this tongue and cheek. Of the 10000 things are “should” be doing to make perfect adults, what are you fully punting on for now
For me it’s getting them to be not picky eaters. They’ve gotten so picky but will still each a couple fruits and vegs so I just feed them the same things over and over and over. I rarely try to expose them to something new or make food fun so they’ll try or talk about new cultures to tempt them to taste a new flavor. I’d love to have more adventurous / not picky eaters but in my stack of things to work on with them, this isn’t the priority and I’ve finally just accepted I’m punting on it for now. It’s both guilt inducing and freeing. Curious about what areas others have deprioritized |
Anonymous
| Teaching my kids a second language. I really thought I’d be able to teach my kids French since I was a French major in college and lived in France - but it’s just too much work!! |
Anonymous
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Too much screen time
Not making them do enough chores |
Anonymous
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I am simultaneously ruining my kids by neglecting them, and by being an overly anxious helicopter parent. The same person has told me both these things, so I'm sure they are true.
For example, if I help my kids with their homework, I am "hovering" and "tiger parenting", but if I don't help them, I am "not valuing education" and "settling for mediocre", according to the same person. |
Anonymous
| So much tv. They're so smart though. Idk. |
Anonymous
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I think I make plenty of mistakes with them and I am hard on myself (too strict, not strict enough, impatient, scream to much, etc.). My kids are however great! All 3 for now have friends, are doing great at school, do sports, speak multiple languages… I wish we had the money and time to play the piano… I think that is the one practical thing I wish I could give them.
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Anonymous
LOL, that is a ridiculous assumption. I am fluent in a second language and speak it with my parents, but I'm still not able to teach my kids. |
Anonymous
Was. It was a ridiculous assumption and I’m sure she understands that now. |
Anonymous
| Worsening their inherited anxiety by being academically demanding. |
Anonymous
| Gave them my genes for anxiety. Let them play video games and watch whatever they want on tv. Discipline inconsistently. Allow junk food. Simultaneously hover and ignore. Also, pretty sure I dropped both of them more than once as babies. |
Anonymous
| Corn dogs at the pool |
Anonymous
| Packing a fully-disposable junky lunch for summer camp: individually-wrapped packages of Doritos, Oreos, Capri Sun, Lunchables... |
Anonymous
| So hard to choose! Not having family meals, too much screen time, allowing picky eating. Somehow our kid is still sweet, smart, and happy. Just goes to show that nature > nurture. |
Anonymous
| Another “not having family meals”. |
Anonymous
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Same about picky eating! And it’s a double whammy because I *gasp* make separate food for my 10yo. But it’s rather that or he politely goes hungry.
I also laugh when they say inappropriate things. I’m the worst. |