If you could be more attractive or more intelligent, but not both, which would you choose?

[Anonymous]

I would have answered differently in my 20s but now that I'm in my 40s, mom brain and utter burnout have done a number on me and I feel like I'm a big faker at work who can't put two words together articulately. My husband still finds me attractive and my clothes still fit so I would choose intelligence. Attractiveness eventually fades with old age anyway, even for the people who start off as 10s.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I get to keep my current level of intelligence? More attractive, no question.

Definitely plus one here. I already make a lot of money and do well professionally. Would be nice to be a show stopper. Attractive people make more money anyway.

[Anonymous]

I’d like more executive function; then intelligence before looks.

[Anonymous]

Can I be effortlessly skinny and in perfect health ?

[Anonymous]

More attractive. I’m fairly intelligent already.

[Anonymous]

I think I'm already very intelligent not to sound stuck up but I do but I could really use some help in the looks department, not all my fault as I have a autoimmune disease and medical conditions that really did a number on me physically.

[Anonymous]

Does a sharp brain = intelligent? Because I feel like I’m intelligent—I can speak eloquently on a large breadth of topics, I ask intelligent questions, I can synthesize information from different sources, and I can remember things I learned decades ago. But my brain is also a little friend and I forget multiple times a day what I’m supposed to be doing. Like, you know, getting dinner ready before I have a crisis on my hands.

I’d get substantially uglier to get rid of the brain fog. But if wr are talking about IQ, I’d go for hotter.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:More attractive. I am highly intelligent, but have lost much of my youthful good looks.

This. I was an 8. Now I’m a 4 at best. Seriously have not she’d well at all. Generally I’d choose intelligence over looks though. It’s just that I have plenty of the former and none of the latter.

But you can fix "ugly" with a huge makeover, maybe even plastic surgery. Harder to fix "stupid".

Agree, which is why I said I would generally choose intelligence over beauty. But I am very smart already. And also pretty ugly. A lot of it is weight and I bust my ass to lose 5-10 pounds and then gain it back. What I really need is willpower to eat less.

[Anonymous]

Can I choose higher EQ?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:More attractive. I am highly intelligent, but have lost much of my youthful good looks.

This. I was an 8. Now I’m a 4 at best. Seriously have not she’d well at all. Generally I’d choose intelligence over looks though. It’s just that I have plenty of the former and none of the latter.

But you can fix "ugly" with a huge makeover, maybe even plastic surgery. Harder to fix "stupid".

Agree, which is why I said I would generally choose intelligence over beauty. But I am very smart already. And also pretty ugly. A lot of it is weight and I bust my ass to lose 5-10 pounds and then gain it back. What I really need is willpower to eat less.

Yes, so it depends on how "smart" and successful you are.

If you have $$$, you can get plastic surgery, hire a personal trainer, etc.. If you are reasonably intelligent, but don't have a lot of $$, but if you were "smarter" you could make more.

If you are more attractive, that might mean you can find a rich man, but IMO, I'd rather make the money myself, and then buy myself a boy toy in my old age

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:More attractive. I am highly intelligent, but have lost much of my youthful good looks.

This. I was an 8. Now I’m a 4 at best. Seriously have not she’d well at all. Generally I’d choose intelligence over looks though. It’s just that I have plenty of the former and none of the latter.

But you can fix "ugly" with a huge makeover, maybe even plastic surgery. Harder to fix "stupid".

Agree, which is why I said I would generally choose intelligence over beauty. But I am very smart already. And also pretty ugly. A lot of it is weight and I bust my ass to lose 5-10 pounds and then gain it back. What I really need is willpower to eat less.

Yes, so it depends on how "smart" and successful you are.

If you have $$$, you can get plastic surgery, hire a personal trainer, etc.. If you are reasonably intelligent, but don't have a lot of $$, but if you were "smarter" you could make more.

If you are more attractive, that might mean you can find a rich man, but IMO, I'd rather make the money myself, and then buy myself a boy toy in my old age

Smarter doesn’t mean you can get more money! Some of the dumbest people have high salaries.

[Anonymous]

Another vote for attractive.

[Anonymous]

Neither. I would want more capacity to be content with what I have and cherish the present.

[Anonymous]

I'm not the sharpest pencil in the box, but honestly, I'm cool with who I am on the inside - I'll take hot any day!

[Anonymous]

More attractive, because I'm already smarter than most people. But I'm not that attractive, alas.