UMC lessons to teach my children
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Anonymous
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How to swim
How to downhill ski Get them great orthodontics Those are the only ways I know if someone grew up with money |
Anonymous
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Please and thank you.
Written thank you notes. Eating with mouth closed. Men holding doors. (I know, I know, old fashioned, probably sexist, but it is a sign that the man has been taught manners at a young age.) Being able to carry on a gracious (not braggart) conversation with an adult. |
Anonymous
| Save money, invest time into education. |
Anonymous
| If someone proposes new housing in your neighborhood, be against it. |
Anonymous
I grew up UMC and many of my friends are UMC. I am a single mom and am in a “helping profession”—which is a nice way of saying I don’t make good money. So, I live in a poorer, blue collar or no collar at all neighborhood. The only kids who put their feet on my furniture and use bad manners in my house are the children of my UMC friends. I do agree with a PP’s comment about teaching your kids to advocate for themselves. Being assertive without being aggressive or angry is something UMC people are able to do. |
Anonymous
| Teach them how to speak up and address concerns they may encounter in their lives. Being passive aggressive is a sign of what we used to call "poor breeding." . How to take perspectives of other people and not just assume that what they believe is the only possibility. How to value the feelings and values of others, rather than believing the universe revolves around them. |
Anonymous
+1 Read for pleasure. Visit museums for fun. Attend concerts and plays - there are plenty of lower cost local ones. When your child is invited out to eat, tell them they are only to order something similar in cost and type to what their host orders ( in this case the child they are friend's with) or something smaller. Don't ask people how much money they make, how much their house or car cost. Inside voices Appropriate dress for the occasion and place |
Anonymous
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Whichever gender your kids are, their underwear should never show.
Teach them to make eye contact when speaking with someone Teach them not to mumble when speaking. |
Anonymous
These seem like old-fashioned middle class lessons. MIL insists on written thank yous. |
Anonymous
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socialization
conversation with adults drinking |
Anonymous
These are called good manners, something that is lost on some of the younger generation but never lost in wealthy circles. |
Anonymous
| Most of these things are just basic parenting skills, not sure how they’re umc unless it’s an activity that costs money. Every kid should learn majority of these skills. |
Anonymous
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How the stock market works
How to earn and save money How to be resourceful and use your own skills to make money How to budget How to make a grocery list How to meal plan How to grocery shop How to stay in a budget How to plan a party How to be a good hostess How to wrap a present with a fancy bow How to have nice handwriting How to touch type without looking Basic math, money, and counting change from $1 How to tie a tie How to clean well How to use basic tools How to assemble furniture How to apply basic first aid How to pitch a tent How to pick good fruit and vegetables from a grocery store How to grow a garden How to hunt for food How to preserve food How to identify common plants and animals in your immediate surroundings How to cook How to fish How to swim How to have good table manners How to be grateful for what you have How to not look down upon others that have less or envy those with more How to respect your elders and authority figures |
Anonymous
I don’t think this is necessary..: |
Anonymous
You seem to be positing that the wealthy are all well-mannered. This is demonstrably false. Frankly I think that lower middle-class children from Black and Hispanic homes are better reared in terms of manners than your typical white UMC child, who is inculcated with entitlement and privilege from birth. |