Wife wants a house cleaner instead of preschool

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My wife isn't cool with getting rid of weekly house cleaning so we can pay for preschool. She has a part-time job on the weekends as a concierge. She's been a stay-at-home mom since our oldest was born. I am on board with her working or not working. Our first child was invited to public preschool because he was in an early intervention program. The second child's preschool won't be free. He goes to the YMCA at least four times a week for two hours a day, and they swim for another hour. My wife thinks gym childcare can provide a preschool experience.

I am so confused. Does your wife work as a concierge or is she a SAHM?

How old is kid number two?

I assume you'd clean the house if you stopped the house cleaner, is that correct?

She works on the weekend.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why would DH clean when he works full-time, and DW doesn’t and has been given the option not to?

Because he is a part of the family and contributes to the messes.

[Anonymous]

Find a cheap church daycare and switch from weekly to bi-weekly. Your wife is wrong, but someone has to clean the house.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My wife isn't cool with getting rid of weekly house cleaning so we can pay for preschool. She has a part-time job on the weekends as a concierge. She's been a stay-at-home mom since our oldest was born. I am on board with her working or not working. Our first child was invited to public preschool because he was in an early intervention program. The second child's preschool won't be free. He goes to the YMCA at least four times a week for two hours a day, and they swim for another hour. My wife thinks gym childcare can provide a preschool experience.

I am so confused. Does your wife work as a concierge or is she a SAHM?

How old is kid number two?

I assume you'd clean the house if you stopped the house cleaner, is that correct?

She works on the weekend.

A SAHM is one who doesn't work for pay. It has nothing to do with what days of the week she works.

If she's doing things with your kid, such as taking them to the pool, and your kid is interacting with the other kids, then preschool is a luxury for mom, not something that the kid benefits from or is hurt by. She should get to choose the luxury she wants. I'd totally pick homeschooling over cleaning in that circumstance.

[Anonymous]

So she takes care of the kids all week and then comes home to your weekend messes after work? She probably works to afford help!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why would DH clean when he works full-time, and DW doesn’t and has been given the option not to?

Because he is a part of the family and contributes to the messes.

She’s home more often than he is. The gym is not replacing preschool. If nothing else preschool will get him ready for structured class and given him interactions with his peers.

Sad to miss out on that because mom doesn’t want to clean her own home herself on occasion.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So she takes care of the kids all week and then comes home to your weekend messes after work? She probably works to afford help!

One of the kids is in school for most of the day… She also was given the option to not work …

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why would DH clean when he works full-time, and DW doesn’t and has been given the option not to?

Because he is a part of the family and contributes to the messes.

She’s home more often than he is. The gym is not replacing preschool. If nothing else, preschool will get him ready for structured class and given him interactions with his peers.

Sad to miss out on that because mom doesn’t want to clean her own home herself on occasion.

YMCA is fine. They doing use tv, and she has more of an idea of what's going on because she can pop in a see the child. I think she sounds smart. She's saving her mental health. A lot of kids hate preschool anyway.

[Anonymous]

What kind of weird budget do you have that *only* housecleaning can be sacrificed to pay for preschool? Why don’t you start bringing your lunch to work instead of buying, for example, and move housecleaning to biweekly?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So she takes care of the kids all week and then comes home to your weekend messes after work? She probably works to afford help!

One of the kids is in school for most of the day… She also was given the option to not work …

Either way, she works. Do you think her DH is giving her a break all weekend?! Sahm doesn't get breaks.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why would DH clean when he works full-time, and DW doesn’t and has been given the option not to?

Because he is a part of the family and contributes to the messes.

She’s home more often than he is. The gym is not replacing preschool. If nothing else preschool will get him ready for structured class and given him interactions with his peers.

Sad to miss out on that because mom doesn’t want to clean her own home herself on occasion.

The play based preschools fo little to prepare kids. It’s good enough except if they go to a more structured one with academics.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why would DH clean when he works full-time, and DW doesn’t and has been given the option not to?

Because he is a part of the family and contributes to the messes.

She’s home more often than he is. The gym is not replacing preschool. If nothing else, preschool will get him ready for structured class and given him interactions with his peers.

Sad to miss out on that because mom doesn’t want to clean her own home herself on occasion.

YMCA is fine. They doing use tv, and she has more of an idea of what's going on because she can pop in a see the child. I think she sounds smart. She's saving her mental health. A lot of kids hate preschool anyway.

Preschool is a good transition to Kindergarten.

A lot of kids hate school period. Doesn’t mean you don’t send them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What kind of weird budget do you have that *only* housecleaning can be sacrificed to pay for preschool? Why don’t you start bringing your lunch to work instead of buying, for example, and move housecleaning to biweekly?

Maybe they are saving for a house? Some people have the money, but they want to save it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Child needs preschool. You can move to bi weekly cleaning and everyone keeps the house cleen

That is seriously wrong. Preschool is bogus except for kids who are in home environments that are deficient. If having a house keeper will enable your wife to be caring and intellectually engaged with the kid - talking, reading, building, playing, exploring, and especially providing emotional security - it's definitely worth it.

OP is a troll but this response is totally whack. Absolutely nuts.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So she takes care of the kids all week and then comes home to your weekend messes after work? She probably works to afford help!

One of the kids is in school for most of the day… She also was given the option to not work …

Either way, she works. Do you think her DH is giving her a break all weekend?! Sahm doesn't get breaks.

If both kids are at school she does. Monday through Friday.