Surrogate without a medical reason?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I gave birth at 45 to a baby conceived by donor egg as well as having several other children conceived without medical intervention in my mid to late 30s.

The pregnancy at 44-45 was no problem.

Dealing with a teenager in my late 50's is the only part that has been really hard.

Well that was irresponsible so too bad.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You need a valid medical reason. I had to use a surrogate and my doctor needed proof of my misshapen uterus to proceed. Once my surrogate got pregnant her OB also asked for all my uterine hysteroscopy records and the notes from the experimental surgery I had to reshape my uterus. You need to ask the doctor and/ or agency or lawyer you are using

Wait, really? I didn’t know this. How are all these celebrities using surrogates with no medical reason? I just assumed if you had the money and a willing surrogate, you were free to go.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. What I'm asking is that technically I could try DE IVF and carry myself. However due to my AMA now, I don't want to be pregnant at this age. I'm just wondering if a doctor would deny me the opportunity to work with a surrogate since there is nothing wrong with my uterus.

But clearly there is something wrong with your reproductive system. Unexplained doesn't mean "nothing wrong with", it means "science hasn't advanced to the point that we understand this".

This. Unexplained infertility is a medical diagnosis.

Maybe but it doesn’t mean she can’t carry a pregnancy - just that she can’t get pregnant. Probably because a very high percentage of her eggs would not make a euploid embryo.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You need a valid medical reason. I had to use a surrogate and my doctor needed proof of my misshapen uterus to proceed. Once my surrogate got pregnant her OB also asked for all my uterine hysteroscopy records and the notes from the experimental surgery I had to reshape my uterus. You need to ask the doctor and/ or agency or lawyer you are using

Wait, really? I didn’t know this. How are all these celebrities using surrogates with no medical reason? I just assumed if you had the money and a willing surrogate, you were free to go.

I’m sure there are doctors that will be happy to take your money and sign off on this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. What I'm asking is that technically I could try DE IVF and carry myself. However due to my AMA now, I don't want to be pregnant at this age. I'm just wondering if a doctor would deny me the opportunity to work with a surrogate since there is nothing wrong with my uterus.

Women don't use surrogates because they have poor uteruses.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. What I'm asking is that technically I could try DE IVF and carry myself. However due to my AMA now, I don't want to be pregnant at this age. I'm just wondering if a doctor would deny me the opportunity to work with a surrogate since there is nothing wrong with my uterus.

Women don't use surrogates because they have poor uteruses.

I did.

[Anonymous]

Good luck finding one.
https://www.nytimes.com/2022/04/02/style/surrogate-shortage-us-pandemic.html

[Anonymous]

I don't really get keeping on trying at this point. I wonder if it's because your DH wants a boy and doesn't have one yet?

I personally don't think I could do surrogate, even if it was to get a one and only child.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You need a valid medical reason. I had to use a surrogate and my doctor needed proof of my misshapen uterus to proceed. Once my surrogate got pregnant her OB also asked for all my uterine hysteroscopy records and the notes from the experimental surgery I had to reshape my uterus. You need to ask the doctor and/ or agency or lawyer you are using

This is false.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You need a valid medical reason. I had to use a surrogate and my doctor needed proof of my misshapen uterus to proceed. Once my surrogate got pregnant her OB also asked for all my uterine hysteroscopy records and the notes from the experimental surgery I had to reshape my uterus. You need to ask the doctor and/ or agency or lawyer you are using

This is false.

God people on here are so annoying. I’m literally an intended mother with a surrogate who is currently pregnant. I’ve been through the process. What exactly is “false”?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You need a valid medical reason. I had to use a surrogate and my doctor needed proof of my misshapen uterus to proceed. Once my surrogate got pregnant her OB also asked for all my uterine hysteroscopy records and the notes from the experimental surgery I had to reshape my uterus. You need to ask the doctor and/ or agency or lawyer you are using

That was not my experience. I had repeated failed transfers. My RE recommended that we move to using a GC and that was that. I certainly didn’t have to provide my medical records to my surrogate’s OB. What would be the point of that?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You need a valid medical reason. I had to use a surrogate and my doctor needed proof of my misshapen uterus to proceed. Once my surrogate got pregnant her OB also asked for all my uterine hysteroscopy records and the notes from the experimental surgery I had to reshape my uterus. You need to ask the doctor and/ or agency or lawyer you are using

This is false.

God people on here are so annoying. I’m literally an intended mother with a surrogate who is currently pregnant. I’ve been through the process. What exactly is “false”?

You do not need a medical reason to use a surrogate. YOU may have had one, but there is no law or requirement that a woman have a “valid medical reason” to use a surrogate.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You need a valid medical reason. I had to use a surrogate and my doctor needed proof of my misshapen uterus to proceed. Once my surrogate got pregnant her OB also asked for all my uterine hysteroscopy records and the notes from the experimental surgery I had to reshape my uterus. You need to ask the doctor and/ or agency or lawyer you are using

That was not my experience. I had repeated failed transfers. My RE recommended that we move to using a GC and that was that. I certainly didn’t have to provide my medical records to my surrogate’s OB. What would be the point of that?

There is none. PP’s doctor may have had some odd preference, but it’s not universal.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. What I'm asking is that technically I could try DE IVF and carry myself. However due to my AMA now, I don't want to be pregnant at this age. I'm just wondering if a doctor would deny me the opportunity to work with a surrogate since there is nothing wrong with my uterus.

Women don't use surrogates because they have poor uteruses.

I did.

So did I.

[Anonymous]

Depends on state law.