Depressed about having a baby post 35

[Anonymous]

I had mine at 35 and 39 and have no idea why this is an issue for some people.

[Anonymous]

If this makes you "very depressed" you better buckle up and make sure you are actually ready. Having a kid, while wonderful, is no cake walk.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The “dangers of infertility” for women over 35 are grossly overstated. The vast majority of women between 35 and 40 conceive relatively easily. Once you hit your 40s, it’s more precarious.

-Mom of three who had all three kids between the ages of 35 and 40

+1 my kids were born when I was a couple of months shy of 35 and 38.

I know A LOT of women who conceived naturally and had healthy babies after 35.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If this makes you "very depressed" you better buckle up and make sure you are actually ready. Having a kid, while wonderful, is no cake walk.

+1 Ha. Not to mention what it does to your body.

I do love my kids, though. They are 13 and 16.

[Anonymous]

I had my only child at 40. She is 20 now and I am SO tired. Many women have no issue being an older first time mom when the child is young. The high school years can break you. That said, good luck!

[Anonymous]

Right there with you. Since starting at 34 I've lost more babies than I've given birth to. 1 for 3 at the moment.

[Anonymous]

Millennials are so precious.

[Anonymous]

It’s so funny how “studies” are relevant only when they work in your favor. If they don’t, then they are dismissed and those who believe them are idiots.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If this makes you "very depressed" you better buckle up and make sure you are actually ready. Having a kid, while wonderful, is no cake walk.

+1 Get a therapist. You bed to get over the vision you had for your life and embrace the life you have rights now. Having kids, even in the best of circumstances, is a level of hard that you cannot understand until you’re in it.

[Anonymous]

I get it. Some things don't go according to plan and it sucks. You're automatically considered high risk and the treatment is different. But having a healthy baby in arm is worth it.

[Anonymous]

Would you rather NOT have a baby post 35? Those are your two options.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Millennials are so precious.

This is so effing annoying. Why are you on the expectant mother board? Troll.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I get it. Some things don't go according to plan and it sucks. You're automatically considered high risk and the treatment is different. But having a healthy baby in arm is worth it.

Expectant mothers over 35 are not automatically considered high risk.

[Anonymous]

Is 35 even considered AMA?

[Anonymous]

I had my DD at 37. She is the light of my life and I feel like I'm right in the middle of the norm age in having a baby. You will be fine OP!