RHONJ: Dr Bill is a cheater

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:That explains why Jen can’t stand Margaret (a known homewrecker).

Yes

She can’t stand Margaret because since their first season Margaret has threatened to tell the story of Bill cheating. Remember when Margaret kept poking Jen about Bill sleeping in the pool house a few seasons ago? Jen lost her mind at the table. Jen definitely told someone and the word got around town.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s old news. It happened TEN years ago. They obviously have worked through it. I understand how awful it is to go through. She didn’t tell a soul. Friends or her family. This is why it’s so isolating and traumatic for the betrayed.

https://www.google.com/amp/s/pagesix.com/2022/02/01/jennifer-aydins-daughter-discovered-dads-affair-on-tiktok/amp/

^ that woman is a real b@tch to leak that matter so her kids would find out

+1000

I can't stand Margaret or her stupid followers Melissa and Jackie. Overgrown mean girls and the latter two add nothing of interest to the show.

Margaret is a POS.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s old news. It happened TEN years ago. They obviously have worked through it. I understand how awful it is to go through. She didn’t tell a soul. Friends or her family. This is why it’s so isolating and traumatic for the betrayed.

https://www.google.com/amp/s/pagesix.com/2022/02/01/jennifer-aydins-daughter-discovered-dads-affair-on-tiktok/amp/

It's still traumatic. I wouldn't just be over it, even 10 years later.

You never get over it.

For the rest of your life, it’s still there.

That’s what all married men and women cheaters do to their spouses. Complete traumatize them and destroy trust.

[Anonymous]

I thought her sister had a bad NJ but Jennifer's recent nose job is worse. Clearly she had already had one- but for them to have to re-break it to make that wonky curve- it has really collapsed the bridge.

Always got a closet-perve vibe from the hubby- like his is 'acting respectful' but not really.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She said she had been talking to the surgeon on istagram for 1 year.

If Bill truly loved her, he wouldn't have cheated for 2 YEARS. That's different than a fling/ error in judgment. Would he have stayed if she cheated?

If he truly loved the OW, he would have left his marriage.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Bill cheating was surprising but explained what I consider plastic surgery overload on her part. I would imagine some of her insecurities might stem from her husband cheating. I think she should stop getting surgery because she already has messed up her face. And I thought she was really pretty. I also worry about the message she is sending to to her kids with her obsession with her looks and her husband being a plastic surgeon.

Being blindsided by cheating in a loving marriage does a real traumatic number on you—even when the OW was ugly. Lol So I can see why she got caught up in plastic surgery. I’m sure her self-esteem tanked. Being in the public eye is that much worse.

I’m not surprised only because I know of many marriages I admired with men that for all purposes seemed to be great family men and devoted husbands have an affair at midlife. If they can work through it with therapy and he gets help on his own there is a lot of hope for them.

And what doesn’t help that trauma is being judged by people outside of the marriage. Beyoncé has spoken about the shame and abuse people put on a woman who chooses to stay in a marriage with infidelity, no matter the reason or the work done by the spouse to change.

[Anonymous]

^ that’s why people don’t tell others. They keep it a secret like she did. It’s way more common than is known.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She said she had been talking to the surgeon on istagram for 1 year.

If Bill truly loved her, he wouldn't have cheated for 2 YEARS. That's different than a fling/ error in judgment. Would he have stayed if she cheated?

If he truly loved the OW, he would have left his marriage.

Nope, it’s way more complicated than that when you have kids and are in a long term marriage. You can love the OW, but not want to break up your own family.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She said she had been talking to the surgeon on istagram for 1 year.

If Bill truly loved her, he wouldn't have cheated for 2 YEARS. That's different than a fling/ error in judgment. Would he have stayed if she cheated?

If he truly loved the OW, he would have left his marriage.

Nope, it’s way more complicated than that when you have kids and are in a long term marriage. You can love the OW, but not want to break up your own family.

It's possible, but not very common with men, particularly in midlife. Many men cheat for variety and escapism and some messed up insecurities they have with aging. 65% will report they love their wives and are happy in their marriages. It's a 'them' problem, not a 'we' problem. When women cheat, it is more often about an exit affair. Women and men fundamentally approach sex differently. All of the sex industries: prostitution, porn, high paid escorts, red light districts are designed for men because men can have sex with no love. Women may think they can but always catch the feels.

I find it amusing that the argument is that the man can love the OW, but a cheating man can't love his wife. This is some weird Bridges of Madison County fantasy with no insight into the cheating sex industry like online affair websites, etc.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She said she had been talking to the surgeon on istagram for 1 year.

If Bill truly loved her, he wouldn't have cheated for 2 YEARS. That's different than a fling/ error in judgment. Would he have stayed if she cheated?

If he truly loved the OW, he would have left his marriage.

Nope, it’s way more complicated than that when you have kids and are in a long term marriage. You can love the OW, but not want to break up your own family.

It's possible, but not very common with men, particularly in midlife. Many men cheat for variety and escapism and some messed up insecurities they have with aging. 65% will report they love their wives and are happy in their marriages. It's a 'them' problem, not a 'we' problem. When women cheat, it is more often about an exit affair. Women and men fundamentally approach sex differently. All of the sex industries: prostitution, porn, high paid escorts, red light districts are designed for men because men can have sex with no love. Women may think they can but always catch the feels.

I find it amusing that the argument is that the man can love the OW, but a cheating man can't love his wife. This is some weird Bridges of Madison County fantasy with no insight into the cheating sex industry like online affair websites, etc.

It's not uncommon for cheating to occur when a wife is preoccupied with pregnancy/kids, ill parents, etc. It's sick but it is when marriages are most ripe for infidelity because men run scared and often sex grows temporarily stagnant at home. Add in a guy that got rich over time and now has women looking for that $ and his own grown sense of entitlement that grows from achieving that success.

Nobody knows what went on in their marriage or the type of therapy he got and the changes he made, and the additional work they did on their marriage. But, their kids were extremely happy and home life was stable so they did a very good job of shielding them from this major crisis in their marriage. Some marriages grow stronger after being blown apart like this and rebuilding. That many kids is going to strain any marriage.

[Anonymous]

Did Arnold marry the maid? Did Ben marry the nanny? Did Tiger marry the hooker/waitress? That ain't love, honey. Though I'm sure many things were uttered to keep their situations going. It's best not to expect love and marriage from an already married man.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am kind of surprised by this. He seemed like a good guy. He cheated for 2 years and while his wife was pregnant. I am disgusted. She just forgave him. I guess she stays for the money. Sad.

And OMG Jen's nose job is horrific. She found a plastic surgeon in turkey, on Instagram. Her own husband is a plastic surgeon and she is botched. Why?

That's something one should really research. Look at Michael Jackson, Janet, and Latoya. All botched and horrifying. I crack up at how phony Hollywood still runs story of how beautiful those horrifying women are. Or like Wendy. W. though I don't know what she has had done. I do know she looks like a Morlock.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Did Arnold marry the maid? Did Ben marry the nanny? Did Tiger marry the hooker/waitress? That ain't love, honey. Though I'm sure many things were uttered to keep their situations going. It's best not to expect love and marriage from an already married man.

It's best not to go with married people. When someone does that they have deep rooted problems as well. Time to get to therapy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Bill cheating was surprising but explained what I consider plastic surgery overload on her part. I would imagine some of her insecurities might stem from her husband cheating. I think she should stop getting surgery because she already has messed up her face. And I thought she was really pretty. I also worry about the message she is sending to to her kids with her obsession with her looks and her husband being a plastic surgeon.

Being blindsided by cheating in a loving marriage does a real traumatic number on you—even when the OW was ugly. Lol So I can see why she got caught up in plastic surgery. I’m sure her self-esteem tanked. Being in the public eye is that much worse.

I’m not surprised only because I know of many marriages I admired with men that for all purposes seemed to be great family men and devoted husbands have an affair at midlife. If they can work through it with therapy and he gets help on his own there is a lot of hope for them.

And what doesn’t help that trauma is being judged by people outside of the marriage. Beyoncé has spoken about the shame and abuse people put on a woman who chooses to stay in a marriage with infidelity, no matter the reason or the work done by the spouse to change.

Could care less, she does not represent my moral compass.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It’s old news. It happened TEN years ago. They obviously have worked through it. I understand how awful it is to go through. She didn’t tell a soul. Friends or her family. This is why it’s so isolating and traumatic for the betrayed.

https://www.google.com/amp/s/pagesix.com/2022/02/01/jennifer-aydins-daughter-discovered-dads-affair-on-tiktok/amp/

You'll never know. She may consider him dead for all we know. I stayed with someone that cheated but couldn't stand him. I put myself and my finances first, and yes often the guy thinks the woman forgave him. Except in reality she praying for a banana peel.