If your college kid skips a class
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Anonymous
Absolutely nothing aside from being a bit jealous. Be glad your kid is enjoying college. And perhaps get the stick out of your as$ |
Anonymous
you only think that because that’s what you did! I spent the majority of my time with native speakers and locals. I deliberately made sure I wasn’t rooming with Americans only. |
Anonymous
| Wouldn’t know. Wouldn’t care. In your situation I’d be happy that DC was traveling and figure they knew best how to handle the workload and we’re learning life lessons along the way (just as I did). |
Anonymous
| The only time I skipped out of classes was during study abroad, and the trip to another country was a highlight of my time. My program was very strict about staying on site and not leaving the country and made it difficult to take advantage of close proximity to other countries. Friends in a different program had a break to travel which I envied. |
Anonymous
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No I don’t know
You expect travel abroad students will skip and visit other countries. |
Anonymous
Well, either you are a super nerd, are lying, or were putting out. Because that's the exception, not the rule. |
Anonymous
+1 I wouldn’t worry too much about it unless she’s about to flunk out on your dime. Adults understand the consequences of their actions. |
Anonymous
| Most college kids skip a class here and there. Some do it for an activity, others sleep in, and still others just don’t feel like going to class. This is all very common. Period. |
Anonymous
Sounds like great fun! I remember my study abroad year fondly. Best year of my life, really. And sometimes it included skipping a class to travel. The truth is, you learn way more through traveling than you do in the classroom in your study abroad year. |
Anonymous
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OP, this sounds like what I did in college in the 80s. It's up to your adult child to learn how to make decisions for themselves.
Fortunately, back in the 80s there was no social media and no pressure to post on Insta, so our parents never knew. I would consider it standard young adult behavior. |
Anonymous
Yikes sorry you're having such a bad day that you need to feel so nasty. I'm another person here who studied abroad and spent at least half the time, if not more, with natives instead of Americans, because I lived in a dorm filled with natives (I was the only American on my floor) and took classes at the university with natives. To this day I have close friends from that country, as well as some of the other Americans in the program. There were a handful of students in my program who made it a point not to hang out with Americans, just with the native students. Not all study abroad programs are the same. |
Anonymous
| So weird OP. College kids lead their own lives. You would only know if your child chose to share with you. |
Anonymous
Nothing - part of being abroad is having access to new places and experiences. If there are consequences with the school abroad, or the class they skipped, the kid will have to deal with those. Personally, skipping one class to go to Italy sounds awesome to me as long as the kid is otherwise engaged in their work. |
Anonymous
| OP, fwiw, I didn't skip a class till fall quarter sophomore year. I had figured out how much each class cost and, even though I was on nearly full financial aid, I basically decided it was a luxury I could rarely afford. That said, I would be more understanding here in light of circumstances, especially if your DC is an otherwise responsible student. I plan to have this convo when DC1 leaves for school. |
Anonymous
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OP here. Appreciate everyone’s perspectives.
As I write this, DC has skipped more classes and is now in Paris. But to many of your points, she aced most of her midterms and got one B-. So I won’t fly over there to wring her a new one just yet. |