Feeling Sad About Breakup

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP must be a woman.

Yes. She said she has 'cried on and off'. That is very atypical for a man.

so is yoga

I am a man and I do yoga. I do it to complement the other parts of my exercise regimen - running, weights, swimming and cycling - to stretch my muscles and ligaments as well as calm my mind. And for for what it's worth, men are emotional beings just as woman are and we do cry. So stop with the shaming on that. It's why so many men are emotionally f**ked up, because our society and their mothers tell them things like "big boys don't cry." Now, when my father died, I did not cry at the funeral. I held it all in and together because I did not want to be part of all the wailing women - esp. my aunts - who were there. It was particularly hard to do that when the firing party fired the 21 gun salute and then the bugler played taps. Three months later I was in the shower, and the tears just flowed and flowed.

So many women just do not understand men.

+100, toxic masculinity is enforced by women sometime. You sound lovely. Sorry about your father.

[Anonymous]

OP, are you the married man that had his texting affair cut off when the AP’s husband found out?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP must be a woman.

Yes. She said she has 'cried on and off'. That is very atypical for a man.

Actually, on average men take longer to get over a break up than women.

Yes but they don’t cry on and off about it. Or do yoga.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why am I feeling sad sometimes about a recent breakup? was dating someone I really liked. It was not long-term. We were only seeing each other for about four months. But I have days where I just am sad or will have a moment where I am sad. As an example, I went out somewhere tonight and passed a cafe where we had our first date, and I was suddenly sad. I was not as sad about ending a 23 year marriage as I am over this at times. And last Monday, I was actually depressed. I snapped out of it by the afternoon, but I cannot figure out what is happening. What, exactly, am I sad about? At first, when she told me she wanted to end out dating life, I felt rejected. I don't feel that anymore. Maybe it is just missing someone who was there, with whom I was intimate emotionally and physically and now they are not?

I was dumped by someone 7 months ago, and we only dated 7 months, but I still am bummed about it. I started dating someone else a month ago, but that is fizzling. It did make me forget about the first guy for a minute, though. Sorry, it sucks.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP must be a woman.

Yes. She said she has 'cried on and off'. That is very atypical for a man.

Actually, on average men take longer to get over a break up than women.

Women are over it as soon as they find someone who they perceive is "better." Usually measured in less than a week.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP must be a woman.

Yes. She said she has 'cried on and off'. That is very atypical for a man.

Actually, on average men take longer to get over a break up than women.

I attribute this to women having better support networks. Plus dating is much easier for them.

[Anonymous]

If the person the OP broke it off with is married to someone else, then he should be grateful (not despondent) that the woman’s husband hasn’t come after him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You feel this way because you are old and don't think you will have great success on the dating scene. You liked, her but not as much as you like the idea o not being alone. You don't know how to be alone. Having her around let you think you were winning the divroce. Now you are just alone and you have to process everything about your life without distractions.

+1

All of this. Especially the bolded.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP must be a woman.

Yes. She said she has 'cried on and off'. That is very atypical for a man.

Actually, on average men take longer to get over a break up than women.

Why is why men should never be exclusive. Always have a couple more women in your convoy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why am I feeling sad sometimes about a recent breakup? was dating someone I really liked. It was not long-term. We were only seeing each other for about four months. But I have days where I just am sad or will have a moment where I am sad. As an example, I went out somewhere tonight and passed a cafe where we had our first date, and I was suddenly sad. I was not as sad about ending a 23 year marriage as I am over this at times. And last Monday, I was actually depressed. I snapped out of it by the afternoon, but I cannot figure out what is happening. What, exactly, am I sad about? At first, when she told me she wanted to end out dating life, I felt rejected. I don't feel that anymore. Maybe it is just missing someone who was there, with whom I was intimate emotionally and physically and now they are not?

I'm sorry you feel sad. It's very normal. I'm not sure what is confusing about it. I'd think most people feel sad after a breakup.
But FYI, depression doesn't last half a day. Please don't minimize what can be a crippling, chronic problem. Sadness is not depression.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP must be a woman.

Yes. She said she has 'cried on and off'. That is very atypical for a man.

Actually, on average men take longer to get over a break up than women.

Why is why men should never be exclusive. Always have a couple more women in your convoy.

I think OP did have more than one woman in his convoy. His girlfriend dropped out, but his wife apparently is still part of the wagon train.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP must be a woman.

Yes. She said she has 'cried on and off'. That is very atypical for a man.

Actually, on average men take longer to get over a break up than women.

Why is why men should never be exclusive. Always have a couple more women in your convoy.

I think OP did have more than one woman in his convoy. His girlfriend dropped out, but his wife apparently is still part of the wagon train.

I am enjoying reading your mixed metaphors.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, are you the married man that had his texting affair cut off when the AP’s husband found out?

No

[Anonymous]

No advice. Sometimes it fades with time. With some, it never seems to fade completely you just find a way to cope better with the loss.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP must be a woman.

Yes. She said she has 'cried on and off'. That is very atypical for a man.

Actually, on average men take longer to get over a break up than women.

Yes but they don’t cry on and off about it. Or do yoga.

How do you know? I hope you don’t have sons. And yoga as a discipline has been practiced by men for thousands of years. In fact, women doing yoga in India was very rare before the start of the 20th century. You need to read more.