Date app date visiting from west coast

[Anonymous]

No. It is way too soon. He probably sees it as a hook up only situation. Unless you're 100% cool with that, put on the brakes.

[Anonymous]

This is going to go to two ways:

1) you meet him end are instantly attracted and all you want to do is be with this person, he’s leaving on Sunday evening to go 3000 miles away.

2) you meet him and things just don’t click, now you’ve got this guy on your hands who undoubtedly will want to spend the entire weekend with you.

With either option you are going to wind up miserable, if I were you I would tell him it was wonderful to chat with him but surely there is someone more compatible closer to the opposite coast.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is going to go to two ways:

1) you meet him end are instantly attracted and all you want to do is be with this person, he’s leaving on Sunday evening to go 3000 miles away.

2) you meet him and things just don’t click, now you’ve got this guy on your hands who undoubtedly will want to spend the entire weekend with you.

With either option you are going to wind up miserable, if I were you I would tell him it was wonderful to chat with him but surely there is someone more compatible closer to the opposite coast.

3) It's a complete catfish, he'll no-show then ghost.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No. It is way too soon. He probably sees it as a hook up only situation. Unless you're 100% cool with that, put on the brakes.

Again, a man who has to travel 3000 miles for a hook up, is not a man you want to be with. This is not a concern.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is going to go to two ways:

1) you meet him end are instantly attracted and all you want to do is be with this person, he’s leaving on Sunday evening to go 3000 miles away.

2) you meet him and things just don’t click, now you’ve got this guy on your hands who undoubtedly will want to spend the entire weekend with you.

With either option you are going to wind up miserable, if I were you I would tell him it was wonderful to chat with him but surely there is someone more compatible closer to the opposite coast.

3) It's a complete catfish, he'll no-show then ghost.

What is SUPER weird is if he is this bizarre dude, why not just say you are in town for work or visiting a friend, want to meet up. Easy unconfirmable lie.

[Anonymous]

Make him stay in a hotel.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Personally, I welcome meeting sooner rather than later. Not interested in endless phone and text chats with someone I may meet F2F and find revolting.

This. It will be fine.

If you don’t like him after the visit - the whole thing goes away. Problem solved!

[Anonymous]

Not to scare you, but a friend of mine met a guy long distance and he murdered her. I'm skeptical now

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is going to go to two ways:

1) you meet him end are instantly attracted and all you want to do is be with this person, he’s leaving on Sunday evening to go 3000 miles away.

2) you meet him and things just don’t click, now you’ve got this guy on your hands who undoubtedly will want to spend the entire weekend with you.

With either option you are going to wind up miserable, if I were you I would tell him it was wonderful to chat with him but surely there is someone more compatible closer to the opposite coast.

3) It's a complete catfish, he'll no-show then ghost.

Or

4) he's a perfectly decent guy who OP throws away because of her neuroses and the DCUM echo chamber she then posts in a few months about how no one wants to meet her and she hates being single at almost 40.


5) They meet he's a decent guy, the rest of their relationship unfolds fairly normally they realize they are in love and want to spend the rest of their lives together they figure out the distance thing and this just becomes a cute how they met story

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not to scare you, but a friend of mine met a guy long distance and he murdered her. I'm skeptical now

I'm very sorry you lost your friend but the distance isn't what caused her to be murdered. She, unfortunately, encountered a psycho which could have happened with a guy living in her same zip code.

[Anonymous]

I'm guessing he probably has time off or other business in the area and is looking for some fun this weekend. If you want to meet him it's fine, just take normal precautiond.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is going to go to two ways:

1) you meet him end are instantly attracted and all you want to do is be with this person, he’s leaving on Sunday evening to go 3000 miles away.

2) you meet him and things just don’t click, now you’ve got this guy on your hands who undoubtedly will want to spend the entire weekend with you.

With either option you are going to wind up miserable, if I were you I would tell him it was wonderful to chat with him but surely there is someone more compatible closer to the opposite coast.

3) It's a complete catfish, he'll no-show then ghost.

Or

4) he's a perfectly decent guy who OP throws away because of her neuroses and the DCUM echo chamber she then posts in a few months about how no one wants to meet her and she hates being single at almost 40.


5) They meet he's a decent guy, the rest of their relationship unfolds fairly normally they realize they are in love and want to spend the rest of their lives together they figure out the distance thing and this just becomes a cute how they met story

I didn’t even consider this working out, I should be more positive.

[Anonymous]

I guarantee he lives within 10 miles of your house.

[Anonymous]

I've flown to meet women I met on dating apps. Usually resulted in a fun weekend.

[Anonymous]

I truly don't understand how people are meeting long-distance matches on apps when I get picky when they're more than a few miles away....