Are you offended when someone says they “didnt want someone else to raise my kids”?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Not to derail the thread further but i have a large gap and have a kid in elementary school, middle school and high school. I also have elderly parents who can no longer care for themselves so I am juggling both my kids while caring for my parents. Welcome to the sandwich generation. My dad has 50 hours of home aid care but it is not enough. The same way a 40 hour week nanny isn’t enough for a baby.

What? Our nanny never worked more than 40 hours a week.

My nanny was paid for 45 (it was the way the contract was set up) and worked 30 hours, 15 while another parent was home because we had to cover on call hours.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Not to derail the thread further but i have a large gap and have a kid in elementary school, middle school and high school. I also have elderly parents who can no longer care for themselves so I am juggling both my kids while caring for my parents. Welcome to the sandwich generation. My dad has 50 hours of home aid care but it is not enough. The same way a 40 hour week nanny isn’t enough for a baby.

What? Our nanny never worked more than 40 hours a week.

How did you work 40 hours a week AND commute? Do you work part time?

[Anonymous]

To be fair, women who aren't motherly or patient by nature, wouldn't their kids be better off getting raised by fathers, grandparents or hired help?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:To be fair, women who aren't motherly or patient by nature, wouldn't their kids be better off getting raised by fathers, grandparents or hired help?

Just don’t call it raising. It hurts too many feelings. Call it something like “spending significant awake hours with” and you have to assume almost nothing happens during that time.

[Anonymous]

In 99 pages has anyone asked why it takes two incomes to live a middle class life these days?

A teacher could raise a family in MoCo circa
1980. Inflation took that away forever, starting with Nixon's fateful decision 8/15/71.

Debasing our currency and foreign wars are the only two bipartisan issues. Any history buff will know how this movie ends.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:To be fair, women who aren't motherly or patient by nature, wouldn't their kids be better off getting raised by fathers, grandparents or hired help?

Just don’t call it raising. It hurts too many feelings. Call it something like “spending significant awake hours with” and you have to assume almost nothing happens during that time.

Can you say "I stepped back from full time work to be the kids primary care giver?" I mean, that's the truth. andnit doesn't use the "r" word. If you work full time when your kids are 0-school age, you not the primary care giver for the child.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:To be fair, women who aren't motherly or patient by nature, wouldn't their kids be better off getting raised by fathers, grandparents or hired help?

Just don’t call it raising. It hurts too many feelings. Call it something like “spending significant awake hours with” and you have to assume almost nothing happens during that time.

Can you say "I stepped back from full time work to be the kids primary care giver?" I mean, that's the truth. andnit doesn't use the "r" word. If you work full time when your kids are 0-school age, you not the primary care giver for the child.

No, there is only value in what you do if you earn money elsewhere then hand that money over to the person spending significant time in your home while you’re away doing not much of anything, like a nanny. It’s definitely not ok to just do that work yourself instead of having a paycheck change hands.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:To be fair, women who aren't motherly or patient by nature, wouldn't their kids be better off getting raised by fathers, grandparents or hired help?

Just don’t call it raising. It hurts too many feelings. Call it something like “spending significant awake hours with” and you have to assume almost nothing happens during that time.

Can you say "I stepped back from full time work to be the kids primary care giver?" I mean, that's the truth. andnit doesn't use the "r" word. If you work full time when your kids are 0-school age, you not the primary care giver for the child.

lol wild take

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:To be fair, women who aren't motherly or patient by nature, wouldn't their kids be better off getting raised by fathers, grandparents or hired help?

Just don’t call it raising. It hurts too many feelings. Call it something like “spending significant awake hours with” and you have to assume almost nothing happens during that time.

That doesn’t work because some SAHM think being there during nap time is significant to their kids lives and some colder so they are literally in bed with them.

[Anonymous]

Co-sleep

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:To be fair, women who aren't motherly or patient by nature, wouldn't their kids be better off getting raised by fathers, grandparents or hired help?

What about drug addicts and alcoholics? Still something being at home is better for the kids no matter his good you are at it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Not to derail the thread further but i have a large gap and have a kid in elementary school, middle school and high school. I also have elderly parents who can no longer care for themselves so I am juggling both my kids while caring for my parents. Welcome to the sandwich generation. My dad has 50 hours of home aid care but it is not enough. The same way a 40 hour week nanny isn’t enough for a baby.

What? Our nanny never worked more than 40 hours a week.

How did you work 40 hours a week AND commute? Do you work part time?

You do realize some of us have involved fathers. Many of us have had WAH way before COVID. Many of us work a 60% work week or 3x a week during younger years. Some people are nurses and work 3 12’s. Get the idea?

You think the only option for work is 40+ hours a week with a long commute in the office 5x a week?

Come on are you daft?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:To be fair, women who aren't motherly or patient by nature, wouldn't their kids be better off getting raised by fathers, grandparents or hired help?

Just don’t call it raising. It hurts too many feelings. Call it something like “spending significant awake hours with” and you have to assume almost nothing happens during that time.

That doesn’t work because some SAHM think being there during nap time is significant to their kids lives and some colder so they are literally in bed with them.

Yes. Kids nap 8 hours a day from ages 0-3. Usually from about 8am to 4pm. Conveniently so their working mothers and fathers never miss a thing and nobody else has to be involved in any child care. Everyone knows this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:To be fair, women who aren't motherly or patient by nature, wouldn't their kids be better off getting raised by fathers, grandparents or hired help?

Just don’t call it raising. It hurts too many feelings. Call it something like “spending significant awake hours with” and you have to assume almost nothing happens during that time.

That doesn’t work because some SAHM think being there during nap time is significant to their kids lives and some colder so they are literally in bed with them.

Yes. Kids nap 8 hours a day from ages 0-3. Usually from about 8am to 4pm. Conveniently so their working mothers and fathers never miss a thing and nobody else has to be involved in any child care. Everyone knows this.

We found the co-sleeper.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:To be fair, women who aren't motherly or patient by nature, wouldn't their kids be better off getting raised by fathers, grandparents or hired help?

Just don’t call it raising. It hurts too many feelings. Call it something like “spending significant awake hours with” and you have to assume almost nothing happens during that time.

That doesn’t work because some SAHM think being there during nap time is significant to their kids lives and some colder so they are literally in bed with them.

Yes. Kids nap 8 hours a day from ages 0-3. Usually from about 8am to 4pm. Conveniently so their working mothers and fathers never miss a thing and nobody else has to be involved in any child care. Everyone knows this.

DP. I think you have to understand, you think your snark is clever but for those of us who had young kids in child care you sound ignorant and ridiculous. Like damn, you are really insecure that you feel the need to say sh$t like this.