Do women seriously have salary requirements when dating?

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Anonymous wrote:The top earning 10% to 20% of men would rather marry the pretty, happy-go-lucky, kind-hearted waitress with the two-year community college degree who takes good care of the home and is willing to raise their children herself instead of sending them to factory daycare, but thanks for playing. A well-off guy doesn't care about your money and sees your 70-hour a week career as a red flag to having a long-lasting, fulfilling relationship. He wants, and can get, better than that. Continue on with your delusions, ladies. You're making me laugh. You guys are hilarious!!

I don’t know a single wealthy man who married a waitress. Or even a woman without a 4 year degree. And my social circle is more top 1% than top 20%. Not even in second or third marriages.

I know a couple of women who don’t have degrees who are married to doctors. I sometimes wonder if these men know what their wives are telling their kids about school: math isn’t that important; some people are smart and some aren’t, so if you just don’t get it, there is no point in working hard; college is too expensive and not worth going into debt over.

I also know a few high earning women married to men without four year degrees working as cops or firefighters. Those who got married in their twenties are divorced. Those who were married later in life seem pretty happy.

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I think women use salary as a proxy for ambition. Women like ambitious and competent men, and they love winners.

[Anonymous]

I didn't have a salary requirement when I was a 22 year old dating my future spouse that I met in college. If I were dating now as a 38 year old with children I would definitely have some minimum requirements regarding savings, salary, etc for a serious relationship. Nothing crazy, but I would not attach myself to someone with credit card debt and no savings who isn't living responsibly within their means. Not worth it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I didn't have a salary requirement when I was a 22 year old dating my future spouse that I met in college. If I were dating now as a 38 year old with children I would definitely have some minimum requirements regarding savings, salary, etc for a serious relationship. Nothing crazy, but I would not attach myself to someone with credit card debt and no savings who isn't living responsibly within their means. Not worth it.

+1 22 yr olds are just starting out, both men and women. 38 yr olds have had enough time to grow up and be financially responsibile.

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Anonymous wrote:Is this post for real? You know that 60K is above the average salary for a person in the US?

It’s all about the COL where you are. Around here, 60K doesn’t get you very far.

Modest year kids out of college in professional jobs make more than this.

Absolutely not true. Even if your a recent med school grad or a lawyer who recently graduated and didn't attend T14 you're only making 50k-60k. Do you know how many recent college are thrilled to just have a job and make 35K a year?

[Anonymous]

Yes. I don't date broke men. They are worthless to me.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is this post for real? You know that 60K is above the average salary for a person in the US?

It’s all about the COL where you are. Around here, 60K doesn’t get you very far.

Modest year kids out of college in professional jobs make more than this.

Absolutely not true. Even if your a recent med school grad or a lawyer who recently graduated and didn't attend T14 you're only making 50k-60k. Do you know how many recent college are thrilled to just have a job and make 35K a year?

35k/yr, Really? My DS just graduated from UVA with an undergraduate degree in Computer Science, and he got a job offer for 115k/yr with the ability for top security clearance. I wouldn’t be thrilled if he makes 35k/yr after graduation. UVA cost around 35K/yr, including room and board.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is this post for real? You know that 60K is above the average salary for a person in the US?

It’s all about the COL where you are. Around here, 60K doesn’t get you very far.

Modest year kids out of college in professional jobs make more than this.

Absolutely not true. Even if your a recent med school grad or a lawyer who recently graduated and didn't attend T14 you're only making 50k-60k. Do you know how many recent college are thrilled to just have a job and make 35K a year?

35k/yr, Really? My DS just graduated from UVA with an undergraduate degree in Computer Science, and he got a job offer for 115k/yr with the ability for top security clearance. I wouldn’t be thrilled if he makes 35k/yr after graduation. UVA cost around 35K/yr, including room and board.

Your son is lucky. I have been working 25 years, have a graduate degree, and do not make 115k. Most people do not have degrees a in computer science. There are entry level law jobs paying 65k in DC. Your son is the exception...not the norm.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is this post for real? You know that 60K is above the average salary for a person in the US?

It’s all about the COL where you are. Around here, 60K doesn’t get you very far.

Modest year kids out of college in professional jobs make more than this.

Absolutely not true. Even if your a recent med school grad or a lawyer who recently graduated and didn't attend T14 you're only making 50k-60k. Do you know how many recent college are thrilled to just have a job and make 35K a year?

35k/yr, Really? My DS just graduated from UVA with an undergraduate degree in Computer Science, and he got a job offer for 115k/yr with the ability for top security clearance. I wouldn’t be thrilled if he makes 35k/yr after graduation. UVA cost around 35K/yr, including room and board.

Your son is lucky. I have been working 25 years, have a graduate degree, and do not make 115k. Most people do not have degrees a in computer science. There are entry level law jobs paying 65k in DC. Your son is the exception...not the norm.

I hate to break this to you. There are so many folks with Computer Science and Engineering degrees here in the DMV that are working for Amazon, Oracle, and Google. Just about all of them make over 100+K right out of college. They are dimes and dozens in the DMV.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes. I don't date broke men. They are worthless to me.

And us wealthy men avoid your kind like the plague.

On a separate but related note — I’m worth a lot and when I used to meet women before I got married I would hide my wealth at all costs.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Yes. I don't date broke men. They are worthless to me.

And us wealthy men avoid your kind like the plague.

On a separate but related note — I’m worth a lot and when I used to meet women before I got married I would hide my wealth at all costs.

What does that mean? I’m a single mom who owns a 7000SF home. How should I “hide” my wealth? Should I never invite them over?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes. I don't date broke men. They are worthless to me.

And us wealthy men avoid your kind like the plague.

On a separate but related note — I’m worth a lot and when I used to meet women before I got married I would hide my wealth at all costs.

What does that mean? I’m a single mom who owns a 7000SF home. How should I “hide” my wealth? Should I never invite them over?

No lavish vacations our outings just things regular people do, keep the Ferrari and porsches locked away, never wear stuff like Patek and Audemars etc. and no 7k sqft suburban McMansion. Just come across as a normal person within the realm of normality for the DC area so they don’t think you have absurd levels of wealth.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Yes. I don't date broke men. They are worthless to me.

And us wealthy men avoid your kind like the plague.

On a separate but related note — I’m worth a lot and when I used to meet women before I got married I would hide my wealth at all costs.

No one cares what you think.
Most women don’t need your money, they just want to keep their own money.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think women use salary as a proxy for ambition. Women like ambitious and competent men, and they love winners.

I mean... men love winners too. Everyone loves winners. It's natural selection and evolution that people who are the best looking, best at school, best at sports, best at making money, winning at life seem like a good person to make babies with.

To answer the original question, not at all. My husband now makes more than enough even by DCUM standards was barely breaking even when we met. I have a great career and family money so his salary never mattered to me, but I got to know him and saw that he was smart, ambitious, wanted more for himself, and was working hard to move up, which was attractive. It would have been a dealbreaker if he was doing a job that he hated and was simultaneously not making any attempts to change his situation.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is this post for real? You know that 60K is above the average salary for a person in the US?

It’s all about the COL where you are. Around here, 60K doesn’t get you very far.

Modest year kids out of college in professional jobs make more than this.

Absolutely not true. Even if your a recent med school grad or a lawyer who recently graduated and didn't attend T14 you're only making 50k-60k. Do you know how many recent college are thrilled to just have a job and make 35K a year?

35k/yr, Really? My DS just graduated from UVA with an undergraduate degree in Computer Science, and he got a job offer for 115k/yr with the ability for top security clearance. I wouldn’t be thrilled if he makes 35k/yr after graduation. UVA cost around 35K/yr, including room and board.

Your son is lucky. I have been working 25 years, have a graduate degree, and do not make 115k. Most people do not have degrees a in computer science. There are entry level law jobs paying 65k in DC. Your son is the exception...not the norm.

I hate to break this to you. There are so many folks with Computer Science and Engineering degrees here in the DMV that are working for Amazon, Oracle, and Google. Just about all of them make over 100+K right out of college. They are dimes and dozens in the DMV.

They are not a dime a dozen. They exist but so do more of others that do not make that straight out of college.