All the dads obviously crushing on this one (married) mom - why?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Married woman, size 6 jeans, XL boobs (DD) that don't sag (lift weights, don't run & never breastfeed). I smile & talk to everyone. If the "girls" are in the kitchen, that's where I am. I do not call , hang out or joke with any men, other than my DH, dad or brother. I don't want DH calling, hanging out or joking with other women other than his mom (he has no sister). Does that make me insecure? Nope. It makes me respectful. My DH & I have boundaries. If I don't want him to do it, I don't & vice versa.

My DH could think a friend is attractive, but he keeps it to himself. He doesn't gawk or comment. If I see a younger more attractive woman, "holding court", I think "good for her". I know my husband isn't there & doesn't care.

If your husband is gawking or part of the "court", your problem is with him disrespecting you & your marriage. Spend your time /energy to fix that instead of hating a younger, more attractive woman. And guess what? The longer you are married, the more younger, better looking women are around,

BTW As a natural DD, I wear the "matronly" look shirt to AVOID gawking & rude comments. I wear a bikini in my home hot tub now that kids are out of the house - not to the public pool. I wear fitted, sexy clothes for my 6 ft 2, 250 lb weight lifting DH, not with family & friends. I'm not interested in being sexual attractive to other men.

Ughhhhh, women like you are terrible and the reason why women can’t get ahead in the workforce. God forbid some woman talks to your DH! He should never get to know any women beyond the most superficial of superficial cordial relationships, and he better keep all those opportunities in the good old boys club.

+1 I didn’t realize that VP Pence had a daughter with DD’s!

Spot on!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:In my social circle, we are all married, mid thirties to late forties, with kids ranging from preschool to middle school. We see each other at various school events, pool/swim team, neighborhood get togethers, and scheduled backyard barbecues and date nights. It has become glaringly obvious to me over the last year or so that all the men are attracted to this one woman who is just another mom in the circle. I don’t really get it. I mean, she is pretty and one of the youngest in our group, but I wouldn’t think of her as a bombshell type. She is blonde, very thin and fit, but while she has some shape from working out, her breasts are very small. She is very nice and smiles a lot, but I would not say she is flirty. Meanwhile, I notice all the men practically falling over themselves to talk to her, be close to her, I see their stares, etc. It’s almost embarrassing, considering she is married and our kids all play together. What is the deal? Why would men be so drawn to her?

So, ask your husband?

What an odd post.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Is this in Montgomery County?

I’m guessing Frederick.

A lot more hot white women in Frederick than MOCO, I can tell you from experience.

+1. Guys usually don’t like the skinny, haggard look that MOCO women are sporting. There’s no need to be fat, but too skinny ages you so fast.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:da fuq are y'all arguing about?

+1

SO defensive and petulent!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:da fuq are y'all arguing about?

+1

SO defensive and petulent!

*petulant

[Anonymous]

Why has no one stated the obvious? If all the men in your social circle are attracted to one women then they are probably in competition with each other to demonstrate their social dominance via securing attention of most homogenous symbol for success.

This woman herself may be lovely and charming but she is also an accessible stereotype of status symbol for success.

The problem is not with her but that that your social circle lacks imagination, diversity, different perspectives on what reflects success and human fulfillment ...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why has no one stated the obvious? If all the men in your social circle are attracted to one women then they are probably in competition with each other to demonstrate their social dominance via securing attention of most homogenous symbol for success.

Or, she’s really hot.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why has no one stated the obvious? If all the men in your social circle are attracted to one women then they are probably in competition with each other to demonstrate their social dominance via securing attention of most homogenous symbol for success.

This woman herself may be lovely and charming but she is also an accessible stereotype of status symbol for success.

The problem is not with her but that that your social circle lacks imagination, diversity, different perspectives on what reflects success and human fulfillment ...

+1

Boring suburban people are so silly! After each other's spouses? Really? Get a life!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Married woman, size 6 jeans, XL boobs (DD) that don't sag (lift weights, don't run & never breastfeed). I smile & talk to everyone. If the "girls" are in the kitchen, that's where I am. I do not call , hang out or joke with any men, other than my DH, dad or brother. I don't want DH calling, hanging out or joking with other women other than his mom (he has no sister). Does that make me insecure? Nope. It makes me respectful. My DH & I have boundaries. If I don't want him to do it, I don't & vice versa.

My DH could think a friend is attractive, but he keeps it to himself. He doesn't gawk or comment. If I see a younger more attractive woman, "holding court", I think "good for her". I know my husband isn't there & doesn't care.

If your husband is gawking or part of the "court", your problem is with him disrespecting you & your marriage. Spend your time /energy to fix that instead of hating a younger, more attractive woman. And guess what? The longer you are married, the more younger, better looking women are around,

BTW As a natural DD, I wear the "matronly" look shirt to AVOID gawking & rude comments. I wear a bikini in my home hot tub now that kids are out of the house - not to the public pool. I wear fitted, sexy clothes for my 6 ft 2, 250 lb weight lifting DH, not with family & friends. I'm not interested in being sexual attractive to other men.

Ughhhhh, women like you are terrible and the reason why women can’t get ahead in the workforce. God forbid some woman talks to your DH! He should never get to know any women beyond the most superficial of superficial cordial relationships, and he better keep all those opportunities in the good old boys club. [/quote]

+1 I didn’t realize that VP Pence had a daughter with DD’s!

Spot on!

LOL like every man is in the “good old boys club”. You have no idea of what the term means do you?

[Anonymous]

Yep, I would never disrespect my husband by obviously crushing on a friend's husband. And we have some damn attractive men in our group. I am always respectful and politely interested. That's all. I hate spouses who do this obvious flirting thing. rude.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Why has no one stated the obvious? If all the men in your social circle are attracted to one women then they are probably in competition with each other to demonstrate their social dominance via securing attention of most homogenous symbol for success.

Or, she’s really hot.

But isn’t this a lame competition? Her DH already won. There’s no mystery.

[Anonymous]

Maybe she’s a closet hoe...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Married woman, size 6 jeans, XL boobs (DD) that don't sag (lift weights, don't run & never breastfeed). I smile & talk to everyone. If the "girls" are in the kitchen, that's where I am. I do not call , hang out or joke with any men, other than my DH, dad or brother. I don't want DH calling, hanging out or joking with other women other than his mom (he has no sister). Does that make me insecure? Nope. It makes me respectful. My DH & I have boundaries. If I don't want him to do it, I don't & vice versa.

My DH could think a friend is attractive, but he keeps it to himself. He doesn't gawk or comment. If I see a younger more attractive woman, "holding court", I think "good for her". I know my husband isn't there & doesn't care.

If your husband is gawking or part of the "court", your problem is with him disrespecting you & your marriage. Spend your time /energy to fix that instead of hating a younger, more attractive woman. And guess what? The longer you are married, the more younger, better looking women are around,

BTW As a natural DD, I wear the "matronly" look shirt to AVOID gawking & rude comments. I wear a bikini in my home hot tub now that kids are out of the house - not to the public pool. I wear fitted, sexy clothes for my 6 ft 2, 250 lb weight lifting DH, not with family & friends. I'm not interested in being sexual attractive to other men.

Ughhhhh, women like you are terrible and the reason why women can’t get ahead in the workforce. God forbid some woman talks to your DH! He should never get to know any women beyond the most superficial of superficial cordial relationships, and he better keep all those opportunities in the good old boys club.

You apparently don't understand what pp was talking about. She's not talking about co-workers that need to work together. A married guy that gawks and flirts is a problem. You don't need to know someone's husband beyond a cordial relationship. Kind of common sense imo.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why has no one stated the obvious? If all the men in your social circle are attracted to one women then they are probably in competition with each other to demonstrate their social dominance via securing attention of most homogenous symbol for success.

Or, she’s really hot.

But isn’t this a lame competition? Her DH already won. There’s no mystery.

Mystery, competition: what? She’s hot, and she’s maybe fun to listen to. There’s satisfaction in that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why has no one stated the obvious? If all the men in your social circle are attracted to one women then they are probably in competition with each other to demonstrate their social dominance via securing attention of most homogenous symbol for success.

Or, she’s really hot.

But isn’t this a lame competition? Her DH already won. There’s no mystery.

Mystery, competition: what? She’s hot, and she’s maybe fun to listen to. There’s satisfaction in that.

Women who are stuck with those DHs have no prize. That's the bigger picture here.

I suspect OP is exaggerating a bit with the term "crushing". And exclaiming "All the dads...". Doubtful, but whoever was doing that screams - Creepy married guy alert to any normal well adjusted woman. fyi