Is admiring the vibe of private students a shallow motivation for sending our children to private?

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Anonymous wrote:OMG, if I ponied up $100k to send my three young boys to private school, does that mean that they would stop telling poop jokes at the dinner table? Might be worth it!

It means they'll tell poop jokes wearing 1/4 zip sweaters with a tousled side-part haircut.

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Anonymous wrote:Our kids play travel sports, mix of public and private. There are a few really smart public schoolers but they're annoying as all hell. Maybe it's parents or maybe it's their schools, but they're just so abrasive and uncool; try-hards, as my kids say. The really smart private kids just seem to wear it better. It's very obvious side by side.

OMG you people are insufferable.

I truly wish this poster was joking, but I worry they aren't.

You all are triggered because you're public parents and you know this is on the button. This is where the jealousy and animosity comes from; it's not about college placement, it's not about money, it's about polished confident private kids with superior social acuity intimidating you and your public school kin. And there's nothing you can teach them at home or life lessons you can provide to make up for not marinating in a private school atmosphere for four to 13 years.

That is a very low class, vulgar mentality. I know you.

Who knew that having your rich, white kid grow up with a bunch of other rich, white kids could be so beneficial! Diversity, be damned!

Top DC privates are extremely diverse but don't let that get in the way of your hate.

You realize that truly underrepresented, low SES kids would not even have heard of these schools much less apply to them, right?

You have no idea what you are talking about. Most DC privates are highly diverse, and that includes economic diversity. Motivated parents are the one's that get those kids into them.

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Anonymous wrote:Our kids play travel sports, mix of public and private. There are a few really smart public schoolers but they're annoying as all hell. Maybe it's parents or maybe it's their schools, but they're just so abrasive and uncool; try-hards, as my kids say. The really smart private kids just seem to wear it better. It's very obvious side by side.

OMG you people are insufferable.

I truly wish this poster was joking, but I worry they aren't.

You all are triggered because you're public parents and you know this is on the button. This is where the jealousy and animosity comes from; it's not about college placement, it's not about money, it's about polished confident private kids with superior social acuity intimidating you and your public school kin. And there's nothing you can teach them at home or life lessons you can provide to make up for not marinating in a private school atmosphere for four to 13 years.

That is a very low class, vulgar mentality. I know you.

Who knew that having your rich, white kid grow up with a bunch of other rich, white kids could be so beneficial! Diversity, be damned!

Top DC privates are extremely diverse but don't let that get in the way of your hate.

You realize that truly underrepresented, low SES kids would not even have heard of these schools much less apply to them, right?

You have no idea what you are talking about. Most DC privates are highly diverse, and that includes economic diversity. Motivated parents are the one's that get those kids into them.

I bet if you picked 10 Washingtonians at random, maybe not even four of them could even tell you what "Sidwell Friends" even is. If you asked about Maret or Georgetown Day, you'd get blank looks from nine of them.

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Anonymous wrote:Our kids play travel sports, mix of public and private. There are a few really smart public schoolers but they're annoying as all hell. Maybe it's parents or maybe it's their schools, but they're just so abrasive and uncool; try-hards, as my kids say. The really smart private kids just seem to wear it better. It's very obvious side by side.

OMG you people are insufferable.

I truly wish this poster was joking, but I worry they aren't.

You all are triggered because you're public parents and you know this is on the button. This is where the jealousy and animosity comes from; it's not about college placement, it's not about money, it's about polished confident private kids with superior social acuity intimidating you and your public school kin. And there's nothing you can teach them at home or life lessons you can provide to make up for not marinating in a private school atmosphere for four to 13 years.

That is a very low class, vulgar mentality. I know you.

Who knew that having your rich, white kid grow up with a bunch of other rich, white kids could be so beneficial! Diversity, be damned!

Top DC privates are extremely diverse but don't let that get in the way of your hate.

You realize that truly underrepresented, low SES kids would not even have heard of these schools much less apply to them, right?

You have no idea what you are talking about. Most DC privates are highly diverse, and that includes economic diversity. Motivated parents are the one's that get those kids into them.

I bet if you picked 10 Washingtonians at random, maybe not even four of them could even tell you what "Sidwell Friends" even is. If you asked about Maret or Georgetown Day, you'd get blank looks from nine of them.

Pretty condescending. DC has the charter school lottery and opportunity scholarships - I'd say DC parents of all economic levels are very well aware of the various options out there.

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Anonymous wrote:Our kids play travel sports, mix of public and private. There are a few really smart public schoolers but they're annoying as all hell. Maybe it's parents or maybe it's their schools, but they're just so abrasive and uncool; try-hards, as my kids say. The really smart private kids just seem to wear it better. It's very obvious side by side.

OMG you people are insufferable.

+100. My jaw dropped at some of these comments. I’m sending my kids to my Catholic parish school because instruction in my faith is important to me but I’m really hoping the private school parents there aren’t like some of the awful PPs.

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Don't worry, 20:48. The people who want the "private school vibe" are also looking down on Catholic schools. They're not "real" private schools...

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Anonymous wrote:Our kids play travel sports, mix of public and private. There are a few really smart public schoolers but they're annoying as all hell. Maybe it's parents or maybe it's their schools, but they're just so abrasive and uncool; try-hards, as my kids say. The really smart private kids just seem to wear it better. It's very obvious side by side.

OMG you people are insufferable.

I truly wish this poster was joking, but I worry they aren't.

You all are triggered because you're public parents and you know this is on the button. This is where the jealousy and animosity comes from; it's not about college placement, it's not about money, it's about polished confident private kids with superior social acuity intimidating you and your public school kin. And there's nothing you can teach them at home or life lessons you can provide to make up for not marinating in a private school atmosphere for four to 13 years.

That is a very low class, vulgar mentality. I know you.

Who knew that having your rich, white kid grow up with a bunch of other rich, white kids could be so beneficial! Diversity, be damned!

Top DC privates are extremely diverse but don't let that get in the way of your hate.

You realize that truly underrepresented, low SES kids would not even have heard of these schools much less apply to them, right?

You have no idea what you are talking about. Most DC privates are highly diverse, and that includes economic diversity. Motivated parents are the one's that get those kids into them.

I really hope you are not a real private school parent. Do you think a parent working two jobs at McDonald’s and a gas station is getting their kid into Sidwell? The entitlement is astounding and disgusting.

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Anonymous wrote:Don't worry, 20:48. The people who want the "private school vibe" are also looking down on Catholic schools. They're not "real" private schools...

Haha exactly!! And imagine their perception of JDS..

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Anonymous wrote:Private school parents as a whole don’t act like they need validation any more than public school parent do.

agreed.

Some private school parents are insufferable. Some definitely need to be recognized and validated for their choice. The flip side to this that I see alot in my neighborhood is public school parents who have to denigrate and sneer at private school families for being "snobbish" or "stupid" to spend that much money. What they are really saying is that they need to tear down that choice to make themselves feel better. A little more understanding on everyone's part that different kids need different things would be great.

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Anonymous wrote:Don't worry, 20:48. The people who want the "private school vibe" are also looking down on Catholic schools. They're not "real" private schools...

20:48 here. Thanks, that is honestly a huge relief!

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Anonymous wrote:This is just the kid's personality. I assure you, there are plenty of dorks in private school. Private school is great for a lot of things, but making people cool is not one of them. Your kids will be who they will be.

Even "dorkier" private school kids still have the admirable traits. It's really fascinating to see two cousins over a holiday weekend who look similar, same age range, both pretty clever, but the private school one just stands out. And it's really obvious, to me.

How in the world do you think attending private school develops these attributes in kids?

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OP I haven't read through all these responses, so this may have already been discussed, but I think that what you are describing is poshness, not being "cool". Different social groups have different mannerisms, so yes I can believe that kids that attend exclusive private schools might come across as more sophisticated than other kids. I wouldn't exactly label that as cool. I also really don't think that private school kids are anymore likely to have self confidence than public school kids.

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Anonymous wrote:Our kids play travel sports, mix of public and private. There are a few really smart public schoolers but they're annoying as all hell. Maybe it's parents or maybe it's their schools, but they're just so abrasive and uncool; try-hards, as my kids say. The really smart private kids just seem to wear it better. It's very obvious side by side.

OMG you people are insufferable.

I truly wish this poster was joking, but I worry they aren't.

You all are triggered because you're public parents and you know this is on the button. This is where the jealousy and animosity comes from; it's not about college placement, it's not about money, it's about polished confident private kids with superior social acuity intimidating you and your public school kin. And there's nothing you can teach them at home or life lessons you can provide to make up for not marinating in a private school atmosphere for four to 13 years.

Well, my kids go to private school and I think you're insufferable too. But I do love the "marinating in a private school atmosphere" metaphor -- can you keep going with that? Maybe throw in a "seared on the grill of Big 3 competition"? Or how about "devoured by ravenous Ivy adcomms"?

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Anonymous wrote:Our kids play travel sports, mix of public and private. There are a few really smart public schoolers but they're annoying as all hell. Maybe it's parents or maybe it's their schools, but they're just so abrasive and uncool; try-hards, as my kids say. The really smart private kids just seem to wear it better. It's very obvious side by side.

OMG you people are insufferable.

I truly wish this poster was joking, but I worry they aren't.

You all are triggered because you're public parents and you know this is on the button. This is where the jealousy and animosity comes from; it's not about college placement, it's not about money, it's about polished confident private kids with superior social acuity intimidating you and your public school kin. And there's nothing you can teach them at home or life lessons you can provide to make up for not marinating in a private school atmosphere for four to 13 years.

Well, my kids go to private school and I think you're insufferable too. But I do love the "marinating in a private school atmosphere" metaphor -- can you keep going with that? Maybe throw in a "seared on the grill of Big 3 competition"? Or how about "devoured by ravenous Ivy adcomms"?

You do realize that many of us are familiar with private school kids and don't even recognize these qualities that you are speaking of?

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This thread flawlessly triggers the insecurities in public parents. Look how many showed up to pretend to be private parents. Too funny.