My son brought a friend on vacation

Anonymous
This sounds like a drunken obese slob. Why is your DS bff with such an embarrassment? I'd honestly question your son's judgment, maturity... and what exactly he does away at college with peers of this caliber.
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Anonymous wrote:This sounds like a drunken obese slob. Why is your DS bff with such an embarrassment? I'd honestly question your son's judgment, maturity... and what exactly he does away at college with peers of this caliber.


Well the son can not pick a new mother.
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Anonymous wrote:Why did your son bring a friend on vacation at their ages? I can see if your son is 6, but 19??


Because the younger two are girls and we don't want our son to be stuck inside all night once the younger ones get tired or stuck doing only activities they can do. Ideally, the friend is so they can go out at night or do stuff like jet skiing and just keep him company. However, this kid also doesn't happen to want to go out in the evening, won't parasail or jetski, and hates walking or physical activity so it's been entirely pointless having him join. He goes along on group activities but has mostly complained about heat, water temp, fun level etc. Trust me, I regret the invite.


He's your son's friend, though, right? As in, your son invited him? So, it seems REALLY unlikely your son would invite someone on a trip who didn't want to participate in the things your son wanted to do on the trip. Perjaps the message is actually coming from your son, and it is saying, "Mom, I do not want to be on this family beach trip, so I am going to ruin it."

Or alternatively, the friend is actually more fun than the uptight mom would care to admit and OP's son actually likes him.


Lol. You guys and your fairy tales. His other, more close friends all couldn't come due to work and other vacations. This is basically a 3rd tier friend from high school who my son thinks is okay but also now wishes he hadn't brought since he's gotten lectured at various points for what he orders, what he won't eat , using a plate for spaghetti instead of a bowl, what towel he chose to use, wanting to go out at night, etc.


Yikes, you sound like fun people to vacation with, Op. Poor kid.


It’s no wonder the first tier friends all turn down the invite...lol. Man can you image what OP will be like as a MIL?
Anonymous
He's 19? Really? Why is he going 100% gratis on your vacay?
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Anonymous wrote:He's 19? Really? Why is he going 100% gratis on your vacay?


Because the kid was supposed to keep Op's kid occupied and out of her hair. The boys were supposed to be going out at night and doing things like parasailing and jet skiing together but wound up hanging out at the rental place instead. Now Op is ready to boot this kid clear back to wherever he came from. He has failed his mission.
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Anonymous wrote:Why did your son bring a friend on vacation at their ages? I can see if your son is 6, but 19??


Because the younger two are girls and we don't want our son to be stuck inside all night once the younger ones get tired or stuck doing only activities they can do. Ideally, the friend is so they can go out at night or do stuff like jet skiing and just keep him company. However, this kid also doesn't happen to want to go out in the evening, won't parasail or jetski, and hates walking or physical activity so it's been entirely pointless having him join. He goes along on group activities but has mostly complained about heat, water temp, fun level etc. Trust me, I regret the invite.


He's your son's friend, though, right? As in, your son invited him? So, it seems REALLY unlikely your son would invite someone on a trip who didn't want to participate in the things your son wanted to do on the trip. Perjaps the message is actually coming from your son, and it is saying, "Mom, I do not want to be on this family beach trip, so I am going to ruin it."

Or alternatively, the friend is actually more fun than the uptight mom would care to admit and OP's son actually likes him.


Lol. You guys and your fairy tales. His other, more close friends all couldn't come due to work and other vacations. This is basically a 3rd tier friend from high school who my son thinks is okay but also now wishes he hadn't brought since he's gotten lectured at various points for what he orders, what he won't eat , using a plate for spaghetti instead of a bowl, what towel he chose to use, wanting to go out at night, etc.


Yikes, you sound like fun people to vacation with, Op. Poor kid.


It’s no wonder the first tier friends all turn down the invite...lol. Man can you image what OP will be like as a MIL?


Yep, can you imagine if Op's son marries a 3rd tier bride? The other ladies he asked were, you know, "busy" .
Anonymous
OP, you are affluent, your houseguest is probably not. Set some ground rules and don't worry if you come across cheap. He is not going to be a part of your son's future life. He sees you as the golden once in a lifetime opportunity that you are and he will continue taking advantage.

Put him on a budget. And if it means putting your son on a budget too then so be it. It will teach your son a valuable lesson.

Your unwanted guest sounds like a leech and very ungrateful. You are only hesitant to call this out because you feel that it could be fat-shaming. It is not.

Stock up on cheap food.
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Anonymous wrote:OP, stop taking taking the 19 year olds to more expensive places. Give them some money and send them to a pizza place, or a buffet or a taco place where the dude can gourge himself until they run out of money.

You and everyone else can go to the nice seafood restaurant.



Good advice. And take them somewhere where they can pick up snacks in bulk. And SPEAK UP ffs.


What the EFF makes you think we didn't buy a ton of food when there's 6 people. I don't know how many times I can say it. It's not a scarcity issue. If we bought 3 dozen donuts he would eat 30 of them. If it's there, it's eaten, period.

And I'm not sending my son, who is on family vacation before going back to college, to a separate dinner because he happened to invite a bottomless pit to join. I suck it up and pay the extra dinner because my family wants to spend time together especially since our son is away at school now.

This place truly has zero redeeming factors. No matter how common and unarguable an issue you a-holes are like piranhas jumping in with wild fantasies of 1%ers too cheap to buy more than a loaf of bread and simultaneously telling me I am a bad person/awful host who has made him feel awful but also haven't made him feel bad enough because I've just sucked it up and vented here rather than shame him. Throw in some nonsense about spray sunscreen and an eating disorder and it's Yahtzee.


OP, best to quit while you are ahead.
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Anonymous wrote:I like this thread and the Rusty Man thread on General Parenting.

I also like the thread about names on Off-Topic, entitled "white people." I love that thread because learned yet again how much I take for granted.

This thread....it's about annoying vacation guest, but it's really about food, the cost of food, hogging all of the food, and about weight. Would OP notice the food as much if her son's friend were slim and athletic? Hmmmm...


Nope. I get the distinct impression that OP wouldn't mind at all if the friend were thin.
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Anonymous wrote:Why did your son bring a friend on vacation at their ages? I can see if your son is 6, but 19??


Because the younger two are girls and we don't want our son to be stuck inside all night once the younger ones get tired or stuck doing only activities they can do. Ideally, the friend is so they can go out at night or do stuff like jet skiing and just keep him company. However, this kid also doesn't happen to want to go out in the evening, won't parasail or jetski, and hates walking or physical activity so it's been entirely pointless having him join. He goes along on group activities but has mostly complained about heat, water temp, fun level etc. Trust me, I regret the invite.


He's your son's friend, though, right? As in, your son invited him? So, it seems REALLY unlikely your son would invite someone on a trip who didn't want to participate in the things your son wanted to do on the trip. Perjaps the message is actually coming from your son, and it is saying, "Mom, I do not want to be on this family beach trip, so I am going to ruin it."

Or alternatively, the friend is actually more fun than the uptight mom would care to admit and OP's son actually likes him.


Lol. You guys and your fairy tales. His other, more close friends all couldn't come due to work and other vacations. This is basically a 3rd tier friend from high school who my son thinks is okay but also now wishes he hadn't brought since he's gotten lectured at various points for what he orders, what he won't eat , using a plate for spaghetti instead of a bowl, what towel he chose to use, wanting to go out at night, etc.


Yikes, you sound like fun people to vacation with, Op. Poor kid.


It’s no wonder the first tier friends all turn down the invite...lol. Man can you image what OP will be like as a MIL?


Yep, can you imagine if Op's son marries a 3rd tier bride? The other ladies he asked were, you know, "busy" .


Better not gain weight....I am sure the OP will let you know.
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OP 19 year olds do nit eat rice cakes and a small juice box.
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Anonymous wrote:OP, stop taking taking the 19 year olds to more expensive places. Give them some money and send them to a pizza place, or a buffet or a taco place where the dude can gourge himself until they run out of money.

You and everyone else can go to the nice seafood restaurant.



Good advice. And take them somewhere where they can pick up snacks in bulk. And SPEAK UP ffs.


What the EFF makes you think we didn't buy a ton of food when there's 6 people. I don't know how many times I can say it. It's not a scarcity issue. If we bought 3 dozen donuts he would eat 30 of them. If it's there, it's eaten, period.

And I'm not sending my son, who is on family vacation before going back to college, to a separate dinner because he happened to invite a bottomless pit to join. I suck it up and pay the extra dinner because my family wants to spend time together especially since our son is away at school now.

This place truly has zero redeeming factors. No matter how common and unarguable an issue you a-holes are like piranhas jumping in with wild fantasies of 1%ers too cheap to buy more than a loaf of bread and simultaneously telling me I am a bad person/awful host who has made him feel awful but also haven't made him feel bad enough because I've just sucked it up and vented here rather than shame him. Throw in some nonsense about spray sunscreen and an eating disorder and it's Yahtzee.


OP, don’t get mad. We didn’t eat your cookies.
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Anonymous wrote:I think it's disgusting that people eat food every day. The chewing.. The saliva ... The gulping and then they squeeze out feces like a play dough fun factory. The whole ritual is gross. It just goes to prove how pitiful the human race is.


Ok this one made me lol in the office.
Anonymous
To summarize what OP said:

1. She can afford market fish
2. Friend is 3rd rate
3. Out of 3 dozen doughnuts, friend will eat 30
4. He used up the sunscreen
5. OP uses bad words

The kid will leave 6 doughnuts for you guys. That’s 5 for each of you and one to share! So chill.
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Anonymous wrote:This sounds like a drunken obese slob. Why is your DS bff with such an embarrassment? I'd honestly question your son's judgment, maturity... and what exactly he does away at college with peers of this caliber.


Where did you get “drunken”? There has been no mention of alcohol.
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