Ex Wife getting married to guy she had an affair with--question

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'd look soley at what in in my kid's best interest (opportunities, fit, etc) We also don't know her side of the story in this post. OP, you've painted her out to be a vixen that jumped ship with a creep... and have painted yourself as the faithful doting husband... rarely is that the case.

Rarely does a wife cheat after 10+ years of marriage if everything is beautiful and pleasant...

I'd take a deep look at the reasons why she left you in the first place to ensure that some of your behaviors aren't also unhealthy for the children. While you say you are a doting dad with activities and all... take a deep look at what will be best for the kids...

This is BS.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'd look soley at what in in my kid's best interest (opportunities, fit, etc) We also don't know her side of the story in this post. OP, you've painted her out to be a vixen that jumped ship with a creep... and have painted yourself as the faithful doting husband... rarely is that the case.

Rarely does a wife cheat after 10+ years of marriage if everything is beautiful and pleasant...

I'd take a deep look at the reasons why she left you in the first place to ensure that some of your behaviors aren't also unhealthy for the children. While you say you are a doting dad with activities and all... take a deep look at what will be best for the kids...

This is BS.

I know many people who have cheated. In some cases, they were in a bad marriage. In many others, the cheater is a flawed person and cheated for the attention/excitement.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'd look soley at what in in my kid's best interest (opportunities, fit, etc) We also don't know her side of the story in this post. OP, you've painted her out to be a vixen that jumped ship with a creep... and have painted yourself as the faithful doting husband... rarely is that the case.

Rarely does a wife cheat after 10+ years of marriage if everything is beautiful and pleasant...

I'd take a deep look at the reasons why she left you in the first place to ensure that some of your behaviors aren't also unhealthy for the children. While you say you are a doting dad with activities and all... take a deep look at what will be best for the kids...

It may be rare, but it does happen. Also, we do not know if this was the first person with whom the wife cheated.

[Anonymous]

Any updates OP?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'd look soley at what in in my kid's best interest (opportunities, fit, etc) We also don't know her side of the story in this post. OP, you've painted her out to be a vixen that jumped ship with a creep... and have painted yourself as the faithful doting husband... rarely is that the case.

Rarely does a wife cheat after 10+ years of marriage if everything is beautiful and pleasant...

I'd take a deep look at the reasons why she left you in the first place to ensure that some of your behaviors aren't also unhealthy for the children. While you say you are a doting dad with activities and all... take a deep look at what will be best for the kids...

This is BS.

I know many people who have cheated. In some cases, they were in a bad marriage. In many others, the cheater is a flawed person and cheated for the attention/excitement.

In almost every case the cheater is a flawed person. You can leave a bad marriage before you run into the arms of another person. That's the mature, adult thing to do.

[Anonymous]

OP sounds like a total loser who drove her away. At least she has a chance to be happy now.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP sounds like a total loser who drove her away. At least she has a chance to be happy now.

ExDW, is that you?

[Anonymous]

Don’t agree to shit. Tell her to leave if she wants but the kids stay with you

[Anonymous]

Bump. Any updates OP?

[Anonymous]

First you have to make sure she understands what a whore she is.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yet another horror story...

Marriage is a raw deal for men

The horror story is divorce for kids.

The men and women are adults.

This is the new Coparenting divorce hell of the last decade. Hell for everyone, can't even move for a better job, kids shuttling everywhere, one parent running all the logistics. Such a mess, you'd think people would work on their marriages if there were problems, not sign up for 15+ years of this. Or just have an open marriage. Seriously.

I'm not sure who revived this but this part is so true, The idea that people need to have 50/50 custody is BS. The parent who was doing all the parenting before should have a right to keep the kids, and the other parent should have access to them. But a divorce is such a nasty way to lose money, fight about where you live, what jobs you take, what you do, etc. I'm divorced and I have more contact and more drama with my ex now than we ever had as married. And in the end, the main victim here is the child. Because unless both parties are mature and have the money, the child will be fkd.

[Anonymous]

I think parents should not move and the kids should get to stay where they are.

I've seen it worked out that way in custody agreements before.

In two instances when a parent moved--and kids remained--it wasn't that great for the kid.

So that's why I adults should remain where they are--even if it is an inconvenience for them--until the children are older.

(not a lawyer)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yet another horror story...

Marriage is a raw deal for men

The horror story is divorce for kids.

The men and women are adults.

This is the new Coparenting divorce hell of the last decade. Hell for everyone, can't even move for a better job, kids shuttling everywhere, one parent running all the logistics. Such a mess, you'd think people would work on their marriages if there were problems, not sign up for 15+ years of this. Or just have an open marriage. Seriously.

I'm not sure who revived this but this part is so true, The idea that people need to have 50/50 custody is BS. The parent who was doing all the parenting before should have a right to keep the kids, and the other parent should have access to them. But a divorce is such a nasty way to lose money, fight about where you live, what jobs you take, what you do, etc. I'm divorced and I have more contact and more drama with my ex now than we ever had as married. And in the end, the main victim here is the child. Because unless both parties are mature and have the money, the child will be fkd.

So, you can cheat as a SAHP and get full custody and claim you did all the care. NO. You made your divorce nasty. You made your child the victim. And, you probably did it so you can suck the other parent dry money wise. Having both parents equally involved is best for the kids. You choose to divorce. Your child and ex should not lose each other for your choice.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think parents should not move and the kids should get to stay where they are.

I've seen it worked out that way in custody agreements before.

In two instances when a parent moved--and kids remained--it wasn't that great for the kid.

So that's why I adults should remain where they are--even if it is an inconvenience for them--until the children are older.

(not a lawyer)

So, what happens when one parent remarries? Who pays for three housing units?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yet another horror story...

Marriage is a raw deal for men

The horror story is divorce for kids.

The men and women are adults.

This is the new Coparenting divorce hell of the last decade. Hell for everyone, can't even move for a better job, kids shuttling everywhere, one parent running all the logistics. Such a mess, you'd think people would work on their marriages if there were problems, not sign up for 15+ years of this. Or just have an open marriage. Seriously.

I'm not sure who revived this but this part is so true, The idea that people need to have 50/50 custody is BS. The parent who was doing all the parenting before should have a right to keep the kids, and the other parent should have access to them. But a divorce is such a nasty way to lose money, fight about where you live, what jobs you take, what you do, etc. I'm divorced and I have more contact and more drama with my ex now than we ever had as married. And in the end, the main victim here is the child. Because unless both parties are mature and have the money, the child will be fkd.

So, you can cheat as a SAHP and get full custody and claim you did all the care. NO. You made your divorce nasty. You made your child the victim. And, you probably did it so you can suck the other parent dry money wise. Having both parents equally involved is best for the kids. You choose to divorce. Your child and ex should not lose each other for your choice.

I don't know who the "you" references, but I didn't cheat, my ex did. I worked from home and took care of our kid solely alone, ex traveled, cheated, and left kid while busy flirting and sleeping with another, THEN fought me for 50/50 and won because judges want dads involved. He still does none of the parenting or the work, flakes on child expenses and has never taken him to a doctor. I'm cut off from all support, and I cannot move to an area that is less costly or take up a better job out of the area because I want stability for the kid. Why do I and more importantly MY KID have to pay the price of EXH deciding he wanted to sleep with someone else and was bored being married? Your comment is ridiculous.