wife keeps her name

[Anonymous]

My mom kept her last name when she married my dad in the 70s. They don't wear their wedding rings very often either, never have. I don't think either of them has given it a second thought, and they've just passed their 40th wedding anniversary.

I did take my husband's last name, but can't say either of us considered it super important. I wonder if people who really take this sort of thing personally are suffering from other problems in the relationship.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I was talking about male friends whose wives took their names

I can't imagine a scenario where I would end up friends with a man who was capable of taking his wife's name

Dude, you have some serious insecurity problems. I have plenty of friends whose wives did not take their last name. We don't care. We're all friends and we're all happy for our guy friends. I know three friends who took their wives' names. Also not a problem. Why you hang so much of your masculinity on something so inconsequential is just boggling to me. I feel my masculinity by having had children, having a family that I love and obviously loves me and that I care for the way a man takes care of his family. I'm a provider, caretaker, protector. But, I am not a monarch, owner or dictator.

If you feel threatened, even in your subconscious by your wife keeping her surname, then you have a problem that is yours and no one else's problem. If you are that insecure then even if she changed her name, you would still find something else to obsess over. This is psychological problem of yours.

Great write-up PP. Hope this earns you an A+ in your pretend-to-be-a-man online project for your women's studies degree

Now, you're just being a dick. Time to go little birdie.

[Anonymous]

I can say in my case our relationship is fine. We just have this one point where we disagree.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Great write-up PP. Hope this earns you an A+ in your pretend-to-be-a-man online project for your women's studies degree

Now, you're just being a dick. Time to go little birdie.

Calling someone seriously insecure or a dick = OK

Calling someone an internet liar = crossing the line!!

Good logic

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Great write-up PP. Hope this earns you an A+ in your pretend-to-be-a-man online project for your women's studies degree

Now, you're just being a dick. Time to go little birdie.

Calling someone seriously insecure or a dick = OK

Calling someone an internet liar = crossing the line!!

Good logic

Bye bye, be free.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:all = call

Shouldn't drink at lunch.

Should! I want your life!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm a husband of a wife who kept her name. I don't regret marrying her because she makes up for it in other ways but I pretty much resent it, am jealous of men whose wives took their names and hope she will change it some day to have the same last name as our future kids, like other women I know have done or plan to do

Why don't you change your name to hers so your kids will all share the same name?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I hate that my wife kept her name. It's one thing I would change about her and our marriage if I could. It's embarrassing to me and makes me sad that we will never be able to send out Christmas cards from the (last name)

If Christmas cards under one family name mean so much to you, why don't you change your last name to hers? Problem solved.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I hate that my wife kept her name. It's one thing I would change about her and our marriage if I could. It's embarrassing to me and makes me sad that we will never be able to send out Christmas cards from the (last name)

If Christmas cards under one family name mean so much to you, why don't you change your last name to hers? Problem solved.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I hate that my wife kept her name. It's one thing I would change about her and our marriage if I could. It's embarrassing to me and makes me sad that we will never be able to send out Christmas cards from the (last name)

If Christmas cards under one family name mean so much to you, why don't you change your last name to hers? Problem solved.

Problem solved ... but only for a cuckhold.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I hate that my wife kept her name. It's one thing I would change about her and our marriage if I could. It's embarrassing to me and makes me sad that we will never be able to send out Christmas cards from the (last name)

If Christmas cards under one family name mean so much to you, why don't you change your last name to hers? Problem solved.

Problem solved ... but only for a cuckhold.

Haha, keep on trying, pp!

[Anonymous]

I understand why this thread is upsetting to a lot of people

Men who wish there wives had their last names

Women who wish they could keep their last names without any consequences

People with a political/cultural agenda to move away from the norm of women taking husbands names

[Anonymous]

Their*

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
what do you think of married couples (with children) who go by different last names? just your first impression. or do you think nothing of it?


In almost all cases, the woman turns out to be a PIA. Including my wife.


I am a bit of a PIA, but my husband likes that about me. He also wouldn't be caught dead arguing about women's maiden names on DCUM, so there's many ways you two are different.


Yes. He's p**sywhipped. I'm not.

Good one. All that time you spend on mommy boards is probably really upping your game in family court. By this time next year you won't even be crying in your car outside your ex's!

[Anonymous]

Haha!! Yes! The cat ladies and Tumblr feminists versus the pathetic divorced men!

DCUM battle Royale!!!!