Irritating present from MIL

[Anonymous]

You sound certifiable. Please get help for your anger issues.

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Anonymous wrote:I don't know, I understand that you have some legitimate issues with your MIL, OP, but I feel like you are overlooking the fact that your child is a person. This is a gift someone gave to him. You may not like that gift, but unless it is dangerous or wildly inappropriate, you should leave it up to your son what to do with it.

Yeah, but the little person's bed is in his room which is in MY home. I get some say on how that room is decorated...'kay? Did your grandparents do this sort of thing when you were growing up? Mine sure didn't.

Again, there are way worse things than having a doting/adoring grandparent. If you're going to have a problem, this is the type to have. BUT I can still see how this could be annoying. Some things aren't bad but they are annoying.

You don't have to use it to decorate the room. You have been pages of alternative uses. You are choosing to make this an issue. Honestly, you need to grow up.

[Anonymous]

How about making it into a sleeping bag? You all win!

[Anonymous]

How about you sew it into a nice shroud for your MIL? That's the only way you'll be happy.

[Anonymous]

OP People piling on and being very mean. Once you reply, the nasty folks at DCUM will go to any lengths. I thought it was an interesting topic and I am sorry that people were so ridiculous.

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[quote=Anonymous]I agree. Your overreacting. Also, it's a gift. Say Thank you and move on.

He could use it for watching movies or as a back up. No big deal.
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I agree. Overreacting, but probably because you just don't like her. Back-up blankets ate always useful, particularly when kids are sick.

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Anonymous wrote:I don't know, I understand that you have some legitimate issues with your MIL, OP, but I feel like you are overlooking the fact that your child is a person. This is a gift someone gave to him. You may not like that gift, but unless it is dangerous or wildly inappropriate, you should leave it up to your son what to do with it.

Yeah, but the little person's bed is in his room which is in MY home. I get some say on how that room is decorated...'kay? Did your grandparents do this sort of thing when you were growing up? Mine sure didn't.

Again, there are way worse things than having a doting/adoring grandparent. If you're going to have a problem, this is the type to have. BUT I can still see how this could be annoying. Some things aren't bad but they are annoying.

You don't have to use it to decorate the room. You have been pages of alternative uses. You are choosing to make this an issue. Honestly, you need to grow up.

I think someone is trying to make this go longer, by pretending to be me (OP). I didn't make the point about "MY home" and I accepted the pages of alternate uses on either page 1 or 2 (and thanked the people who suggested them). It just didn't occur to me at 10 pm when I posted the original post because I was tired. I'm not choosing to make this an issue -- the people that keep posting attacking me are. I've learned my lesson and probably won't post on DCUM again (except on the SN forum, where people generally are helpful).

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Anonymous wrote:I don't know, I understand that you have some legitimate issues with your MIL, OP, but I feel like you are overlooking the fact that your child is a person. This is a gift someone gave to him. You may not like that gift, but unless it is dangerous or wildly inappropriate, you should leave it up to your son what to do with it.

Yeah, but the little person's bed is in his room which is in MY home. I get some say on how that room is decorated...'kay? Did your grandparents do this sort of thing when you were growing up? Mine sure didn't.

Again, there are way worse things than having a doting/adoring grandparent. If you're going to have a problem, this is the type to have. BUT I can still see how this could be annoying. Some things aren't bad but they are annoying.

You don't have to use it to decorate the room. You have been pages of alternative uses. You are choosing to make this an issue. Honestly, you need to grow up.

I think someone is trying to make this go longer, by pretending to be me (OP). I didn't make the point about "MY home" and I accepted the pages of alternate uses on either page 1 or 2 (and thanked the people who suggested them). It just didn't occur to me at 10 pm when I posted the original post because I was tired. I'm not choosing to make this an issue -- the people that keep posting attacking me are. I've learned my lesson and probably won't post on DCUM again (except on the SN forum, where people generally are helpful).

I'm the PP who said the MY home thing. I was not trying to impersonate the Op. I apologize if it came across that way. I was more responding to the person saying that the child is his/her own person and the gift was given to the child so the parent should just buck up. Fine. It can still be annoying.

[Anonymous]

No one is attacking you Op. Your MIL is a witch who likes to dump her baggage on your kid. I hope things get better.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I still think this is a good chance for the OP to confer with her son, discuss whether he really *wants* the new comforter (which he apparently did not request - but maybe I'm wrong), and talk about whether or not another little boy without any comforter would like to have it as a Christmas gift. Assuming the comforter is still in the packaging, and assuming OP's son did not request it and/or does not really care about it, and assuming the OP would just use it occasionally for her son - wouldn't it be great for another child to have a brand new, popularly-themed comforter for Christmas? There have to be local organizations still accepting donations, and a new comforter could be very-much appreciated by some little guy out there.

If OP's DS wants to keep the comforter - fine. But, if not, it would be a good opportunity for the DS to donate one of his new Christmas gifts - something he doesn't really need, but another child does.

This is what I'll do. Thanks for the nice, helpful comment. (And, incidentally, we already shopped for several homeless families already this season -- we actually buy more presents for the homeless than for our own family, so this is something he already thinks about.)

I probably shouldn't say this, because it will probably just provoke more responses, but I just can't believe how many people were so mean to me about this silly little post! And a lot of people are making a lot of assumptions, and then lecturing me about them -- for instance, assuming that this present means she is a doting grandmother (she isn't -- she didn't send any of the kids any presents until they were several years old, and then they were just things to impress her friends who were also having grandchildren at that point, plus she regularly snubs this particular child because he isn't her "favorite") and that I should be grateful for her presence in our lives (which is actually a huge stress, because none of us ever know when she's going to go off the deep end about something and do something really damaging). Or assuming that I should be "grateful" that this is the only thing I have to worry about, when in fact I have a number of "real" problems, including a special needs child who is having a lot of trouble lately. Just because someone posts a random thing on the internet to see what people think doesn't mean it's the most pressing problem in their lives!

I really need to stop reading this thread, because it's been making me feel really depressed. I should know better -- especially after seeing the recent thread where someone accused the OP of being a lazy alcoholic because she asked if her 2nd grader could make her own lunch. I think I'm just too old for the internet -- I didn't grow up with all this anonymous e-criticism and I'm still taken aback by how harsh people are. If I didn't have so many problems (like the SN kid), I guess I could make some real friends and have someone to vent about my MIL with.

Anyway, I do wish everyone a very happy holiday season (even those of you who think I'm an ungrateful b*&ch of a DIL)...may you all get the comforter of your dreams, or whatever else it is that you're dreaming of.

Oh, FFS, OP. You didn't include anything about the dysfunction in your original post. Lesson learned.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I still think this is a good chance for the OP to confer with her son, discuss whether he really *wants* the new comforter (which he apparently did not request - but maybe I'm wrong), and talk about whether or not another little boy without any comforter would like to have it as a Christmas gift. Assuming the comforter is still in the packaging, and assuming OP's son did not request it and/or does not really care about it, and assuming the OP would just use it occasionally for her son - wouldn't it be great for another child to have a brand new, popularly-themed comforter for Christmas? There have to be local organizations still accepting donations, and a new comforter could be very-much appreciated by some little guy out there.

If OP's DS wants to keep the comforter - fine. But, if not, it would be a good opportunity for the DS to donate one of his new Christmas gifts - something he doesn't really need, but another child does.

This is what I'll do. Thanks for the nice, helpful comment. (And, incidentally, we already shopped for several homeless families already this season -- we actually buy more presents for the homeless than for our own family, so this is something he already thinks about.)

I probably shouldn't say this, because it will probably just provoke more responses, but I just can't believe how many people were so mean to me about this silly little post! And a lot of people are making a lot of assumptions, and then lecturing me about them -- for instance, assuming that this present means she is a doting grandmother (she isn't -- she didn't send any of the kids any presents until they were several years old, and then they were just things to impress her friends who were also having grandchildren at that point, plus she regularly snubs this particular child because he isn't her "favorite") and that I should be grateful for her presence in our lives (which is actually a huge stress, because none of us ever know when she's going to go off the deep end about something and do something really damaging). Or assuming that I should be "grateful" that this is the only thing I have to worry about, when in fact I have a number of "real" problems, including a special needs child who is having a lot of trouble lately. Just because someone posts a random thing on the internet to see what people think doesn't mean it's the most pressing problem in their lives!

I really need to stop reading this thread, because it's been making me feel really depressed. I should know better -- especially after seeing the recent thread where someone accused the OP of being a lazy alcoholic because she asked if her 2nd grader could make her own lunch. I think I'm just too old for the internet -- I didn't grow up with all this anonymous e-criticism and I'm still taken aback by how harsh people are. If I didn't have so many problems (like the SN kid), I guess I could make some real friends and have someone to vent about my MIL with.

Anyway, I do wish everyone a very happy holiday season (even those of you who think I'm an ungrateful b*&ch of a DIL)...may you all get the comforter of your dreams, or whatever else it is that you're dreaming of.

Oh, FFS, OP. You didn't include anything about the dysfunction in your original post. Lesson learned.

There is no way to know if this is true for this op, but too often the facts change when the op isn't getting the results she is looking for.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Its not an odd present. Everyone sends us blankets. We probably have 7-8 for our son. I originally did not do character but around 5 he asked. I rotate the comforter and sheets with a nicer one depending on my mood/washing. Let him enjoy it. I think it was thoughtful.

Maybe donate 5 of them?

Why don't you take your sanctimony and...It isn't any of your business what someone does wit heir property. I am sure you have plenty of items that someone else think are unnecessary or in excess. Shall we judge an critique you on something as silly as a blanket. Bye, if posters loses power this winter, she will darn glad she didn't take you "advise" as she bundles up her child to keep him warm..

Are you drunk, or just terrible with spelling, grammar and syntax?

None of the above. I simply suck at typing on an iPhone. It appears that you cannot move past your sanctimony to address the message. Focusing on typing errors is what people do when the have lost a discussion on merit.

I wasn't the previous poster. I just couldn't make heads of tails of your drunk post! You do know that you can quickly read over a post before hitting "Submit," even on an iPhone, yes?

If you are incapable of filling in the blanks on the post than you have bigger issues than my poor typing skills.

I'm laughing because I didn't even register all the typos when I first read your post - I'm a horrible typist too and my mind is just used to doing some auto-correct I guess. Also sometimes when I'm typing my thoughts just get ahead of my fingers and the result is a bit of a jumble. I really do try to always re-read and correct but sometimes hit submit too quick. DSCUM is so judgmental.

[Anonymous]

And we have officially moved on...

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Anonymous wrote:How do people like OP even function. I can't imagine how many times a day she's gravely offended.

Unbelievable

My kids grandparents died before they were born so I never go a chance to turn down their unsuitable gifts