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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I still think this is a good chance for the OP to confer with her son, discuss whether he really *wants* the new comforter (which he apparently did not request - but maybe I'm wrong), and talk about whether or not another little boy without any comforter would like to have it as a Christmas gift. Assuming the comforter is still in the packaging, and assuming OP's son did not request it and/or does not really care about it, and assuming the OP would just use it occasionally for her son - wouldn't it be great for another child to have a brand new, popularly-themed comforter for Christmas? There have to be local organizations still accepting donations, and a new comforter could be very-much appreciated by some little guy out there.

If OP's DS wants to keep the comforter - fine. But, if not, it would be a good opportunity for the DS to donate one of his new Christmas gifts - something he doesn't really need, but another child does.[/quote]

This is what I'll do.  Thanks for the nice, helpful comment. (And, incidentally, we already shopped for several homeless families already this season -- we actually buy more presents for the homeless than for our own family, so this is something he already thinks about.)

I probably shouldn't say this, because it will probably just provoke more responses, but I just can't believe how many people were so mean to me about this silly little post! And a lot of people are making a lot of assumptions, and then lecturing me about them  -- for instance, assuming that this present means she is a doting grandmother (she isn't -- she didn't send any of the kids any presents until they were several years old, and then they were just things to impress her friends who were also having grandchildren at that point, plus she regularly snubs this particular child because he isn't her "favorite") and that I should be grateful for her presence in our lives (which is actually a huge stress, because none of us ever know when she's going to go off the deep end about something and do something really damaging).  Or assuming that I should be "grateful" that this is the only thing I have to worry about, when in fact I have a number of "real" problems, including a special needs child who is having a lot of trouble lately.  Just because someone posts a random thing on the internet to see what people think doesn't mean it's the most pressing problem in their lives!

I really need to stop reading this thread, because it's been making me feel really depressed.  I should know better -- especially after seeing the recent thread where someone accused the OP of being a lazy alcoholic because she asked if her 2nd grader could make her own lunch.  I think I'm just too old for the internet -- I didn't grow up with all this anonymous e-criticism and I'm still taken aback by how harsh people are.  If I didn't have so many problems (like the SN kid), I guess I could make some real friends and have someone to vent about my MIL with.

Anyway, I do wish everyone a very happy holiday season (even those of you who think I'm an ungrateful b*&ch of a DIL)...may you all get the comforter of your dreams, or whatever else it is that you're dreaming of.

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Oh, FFS, OP.  You didn't include anything about the dysfunction in your original post.  Lesson learned.[/quote] There is no way to know if this is true for this op, but too often the facts change when the op isn't getting the results she is looking for.  [/quote]

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