Engagement ring size in your social circle?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My fiancée told me that all she really cared about was having a ring that:

(1) was bigger than her moms ring and
(2) was shiny enough an big enough for her friends to notice/get jealous and
(3) was not so big that it looks fake.

Given that criteria I realized that the engagement ring was really about female on female competition and outwards displays so I really discounted the symbolism of the ring as a monetized expression of love and commitment. I decided I wasn't going into the trap of 3 months salary and spending the equivalent of a new car...

So I went and got a 1 carat round ideal shape D color IF diamond in a hearts and arrows cut in a lab grown diamond I told her and she didn't appear to care about the lab aspect and is happy with people noticing the ring. It looks like that is really all she cares about.... getting it noticed. A "natural" diamond would have cost a lot more... I really glad I went the cheap route.

She asked for a ring bigger than her mom's? Good luck marrying into this family.

yeah that struck me as very odd. I asked around and I was actually told by a couple other people that they agreed with her. I personally don't understand. They said it is about each generation doing better than the next... personally it just sounds like more girl rivalry stuff.

[Anonymous]

When I was married my ring was .71 center stone with two small round stones and a baguette on either side. It was pretty. I was younger and while I loved my husband, I wasn't really madly in love with him. The size and appearance of the run was pretty important to me then (even though by many of your standards on this board, the ring was small). Now I'm divorced and I've been seeing someone for two years that I STILL am madly in love with and the ring size, and pomp and circumstance of a fancy wedding are much, much less important to me. I can honestly say, in that cheesy manner, that when we get engaged and married all that really matters to me is that he becomes my husband. My priorities have just changed. I now have the opinion that if your significant other is truly the one for you, your soul mate, then that relationship trumps any material thing. I would much rather have the best relationship among my peers than the best ring.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My fiancée told me that all she really cared about was having a ring that:

(1) was bigger than her moms ring and
(2) was shiny enough an big enough for her friends to notice/get jealous and
(3) was not so big that it looks fake.

Given that criteria I realized that the engagement ring was really about female on female competition and outwards displays so I really discounted the symbolism of the ring as a monetized expression of love and commitment. I decided I wasn't going into the trap of 3 months salary and spending the equivalent of a new car...

So I went and got a 1 carat round ideal shape D color IF diamond in a hearts and arrows cut in a lab grown diamond I told her and she didn't appear to care about the lab aspect and is happy with people noticing the ring. It looks like that is really all she cares about.... getting it noticed. A "natural" diamond would have cost a lot more... I really glad I went the cheap route.

So you overpaid for a CZ? Cool story

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My fiancée told me that all she really cared about was having a ring that:

(1) was bigger than her moms ring and
(2) was shiny enough an big enough for her friends to notice/get jealous and
(3) was not so big that it looks fake.

Given that criteria I realized that the engagement ring was really about female on female competition and outwards displays so I really discounted the symbolism of the ring as a monetized expression of love and commitment. I decided I wasn't going into the trap of 3 months salary and spending the equivalent of a new car...

So I went and got a 1 carat round ideal shape D color IF diamond in a hearts and arrows cut in a lab grown diamond I told her and she didn't appear to care about the lab aspect and is happy with people noticing the ring. It looks like that is really all she cares about.... getting it noticed. A "natural" diamond would have cost a lot more... I really glad I went the cheap route.

So you overpaid for a CZ? Cool story

1. That's better than overpaying for natural stone cause its just an overpriced rock.
2. You don't know the science because CZ is not a lab grown diamond. Lab grown diamond have the same chemical composition as a diamond and that isn't the case with CZ. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Chemical_vapor_deposition
3. Plasma chemical vapor deposition is just more cool than digging in the dirt.
4. Either way you just sound bitter.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My fiancée told me that all she really cared about was having a ring that:

(1) was bigger than her moms ring and
(2) was shiny enough an big enough for her friends to notice/get jealous and
(3) was not so big that it looks fake.

Given that criteria I realized that the engagement ring was really about female on female competition and outwards displays so I really discounted the symbolism of the ring as a monetized expression of love and commitment. I decided I wasn't going into the trap of 3 months salary and spending the equivalent of a new car...

So I went and got a 1 carat round ideal shape D color IF diamond in a hearts and arrows cut in a lab grown diamond I told her and she didn't appear to care about the lab aspect and is happy with people noticing the ring. It looks like that is really all she cares about.... getting it noticed. A "natural" diamond would have cost a lot more... I really glad I went the cheap route.

So you overpaid for a CZ? Cool story

1. That's better than overpaying for natural stone cause its just an overpriced rock.
2. You don't know the science because CZ is not a lab grown diamond. Lab grown diamond have the same chemical composition as a diamond and that isn't the case with CZ. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Chemical_vapor_deposition
3. Plasma chemical vapor deposition is just more cool than digging in the dirt.
4. Either way you just sound bitter.

and you sound defensive.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My fiancée told me that all she really cared about was having a ring that:

(1) was bigger than her moms ring and
(2) was shiny enough an big enough for her friends to notice/get jealous and
(3) was not so big that it looks fake.

Given that criteria I realized that the engagement ring was really about female on female competition and outwards displays so I really discounted the symbolism of the ring as a monetized expression of love and commitment. I decided I wasn't going into the trap of 3 months salary and spending the equivalent of a new car...

So I went and got a 1 carat round ideal shape D color IF diamond in a hearts and arrows cut in a lab grown diamond I told her and she didn't appear to care about the lab aspect and is happy with people noticing the ring. It looks like that is really all she cares about.... getting it noticed. A "natural" diamond would have cost a lot more... I really glad I went the cheap route.

So you overpaid for a CZ? Cool story

1. That's better than overpaying for natural stone cause its just an overpriced rock.
2. You don't know the science because CZ is not a lab grown diamond. Lab grown diamond have the same chemical composition as a diamond and that isn't the case with CZ. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Chemical_vapor_deposition
3. Plasma chemical vapor deposition is just more cool than digging in the dirt.
4. Either way you just sound bitter.

and you sound defensive.

well... if replying with a cited reference and rationale to a snarky ill informed comment is defensive... then I I'm defensive.
besides the very definition of "defense" is "a plea, essay, speech, etc, in support of something" so yeah... everyone on this forum who makes any statement supporting a position is "defensive." (http://www.thefreedictionary.com/defence)

Your statement is simply argumentative.... so not helpful.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My fiancée told me that all she really cared about was having a ring that:

(1) was bigger than her moms ring and
(2) was shiny enough an big enough for her friends to notice/get jealous and
(3) was not so big that it looks fake.

Given that criteria I realized that the engagement ring was really about female on female competition and outwards displays so I really discounted the symbolism of the ring as a monetized expression of love and commitment. I decided I wasn't going into the trap of 3 months salary and spending the equivalent of a new car...

So I went and got a 1 carat round ideal shape D color IF diamond in a hearts and arrows cut in a lab grown diamond I told her and she didn't appear to care about the lab aspect and is happy with people noticing the ring. It looks like that is really all she cares about.... getting it noticed. A "natural" diamond would have cost a lot more... I really glad I went the cheap route.

So you overpaid for a CZ? Cool story

1. That's better than overpaying for natural stone cause its just an overpriced rock.
2. You don't know the science because CZ is not a lab grown diamond. Lab grown diamond have the same chemical composition as a diamond and that isn't the case with CZ. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Chemical_vapor_deposition
3. Plasma chemical vapor deposition is just more cool than digging in the dirt.
4. Either way you just sound bitter.

You got a D/IF 1 ct actual LAB GROWN diamond? Where.

[Anonymous]

Huh? This has never been a topic of conversation in my social circles. I have no idea who has/had any kind of engagement ring.

[Anonymous]

2.5 carats and very clear

[Anonymous]

Do you people actually talk about this with your friends?

Mine is .75 but almost flawless quality. DH offered to upgrade at 5 years but I opted for an eternity pave diamond ban instead. I don't want/need a huge rock! I've only noticed when my friends' have massive rings (some do), but I can't imagine the quality is great since I'm sort of familiar with their HHI.

[Anonymous]

Op ~ what an odd question

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do you people actually talk about this with your friends?

Mine is .75 but almost flawless quality. DH offered to upgrade at 5 years but I opted for an eternity pave diamond ban instead. I don't want/need a huge rock! I've only noticed when my friends' have massive rings (some do), but I can't imagine the quality is great since I'm sort of familiar with their HHI.

I can tell how big someone's stone is and if the clarity is worse than like GIA SI1 and get a good guess on the color if we're just having coffee together. Don't need to like have a convo about it.

[Anonymous]

I rarely wear my perfect, clear, flawless 1.5 carat blood diamond anymore. Complete waste of money. Keeping up with the Jones' 20's mentality, sheeple.

I love the ring and memories of DH proposing, but if I had to do it all over again, it would be different.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My fiancée told me that all she really cared about was having a ring that:

(1) was bigger than her moms ring and
(2) was shiny enough an big enough for her friends to notice/get jealous and
(3) was not so big that it looks fake.

Given that criteria I realized that the engagement ring was really about female on female competition and outwards displays so I really discounted the symbolism of the ring as a monetized expression of love and commitment. I decided I wasn't going into the trap of 3 months salary and spending the equivalent of a new car...

So I went and got a 1 carat round ideal shape D color IF diamond in a hearts and arrows cut in a lab grown diamond I told her and she didn't appear to care about the lab aspect and is happy with people noticing the ring. It looks like that is really all she cares about.... getting it noticed. A "natural" diamond would have cost a lot more... I really glad I went the cheap route.

So you overpaid for a CZ? Cool story

1. That's better than overpaying for natural stone cause its just an overpriced rock.
2. You don't know the science because CZ is not a lab grown diamond. Lab grown diamond have the same chemical composition as a diamond and that isn't the case with CZ. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Chemical_vapor_deposition
3. Plasma chemical vapor deposition is just more cool than digging in the dirt.
4. Either way you just sound bitter.

and you sound defensive.

NP. That is a whole lot of rationalization going on there.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I rarely wear my perfect, clear, flawless 1.5 carat blood diamond anymore. Complete waste of money. Keeping up with the Jones' 20's mentality, sheeple.

I love the ring and memories of DH proposing, but if I had to do it all over again, it would be different.

What would you change for it to be different if DH were to do it all over again?