Complicated Issue: Best Way to Blend this Unique Family????

[Anonymous]

Yikes, OP, I was with you and believed your thread to be legitimate, until your last few posts where you admit you've only been dating a short while yet you like your SO's plan to give you everything and hope his daughters marry dudes who can provide for them. WTF???????????? That's just awful, awful, awful!! I really do hope you're a troll at this point.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here--

Scenario 1: Provide life insurance policy of near or equal to price of home for me; house goes to his kids (thanks to the poster who recommended this!)
Scenario 2: Create a will giving me 50% ownership/his girls 50% but I remain in the home...We may decide to buy each other out at some point but if I sell, they get 1/2 the proceeds
Scenario 3: I inherit house; it's passed on and split between the 3 kids after my demise

Of course, I really like SO's idea: I'm his wife. I get everything and he trusts me to treat all 3 fairly, knowing my character as he does. After all I'm step-mom for better or worse, that's the reality.

You own a house, so I'm not getting it. That was the children's parents house. They should inherit it. Keep our house, rent it out and get it paid off. Your child should not inherit that house equally. Your new husband is not raising him. He's almost grown and has two parents to inherit. I think your comments are crummy about marrying off the girls so they get their husband's money. Life doesn't always work out well and dad should be leaving them something, if not all.

I agree Dad should leave his girls something. But you can't leave your spouse out in the cold. If you want to leave all to your kids, don't remarry.

The issue is that my home will never be lived in by my SO or either of his children. His will become OUR family home--the place The grandkids come to visit. You're all envisioning Him choking on a piece of meat at our wedding reception. Both of our grandmothers are alive and kicking in their late 80s/early 90s. His grandfather too! What if we become that couple? 50 years of living together in that home=get out now, go back to your old home????

Doubtful his grandkids will be visiting if you are present. You are out of your mind.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Truly awful. His home should absolutely go to His girls.
Why doesn't the Daughter staying at home for college live there alone while going to school?
He moves in with you in the home you already have,
Your son gets that home when you pass and if husband is still living then he moves Back to his original home.
Or would you prefer he gets that home and your son gets nothing ?

With all kindness (and I truly do mean to be kind, as I suspect you're truly trying to be helpful), your suggestion makes no seMae.

Should he and his daughter really move out of the family home and into mine, leaving the college daughter alone in a family home?

He doesn't feel the need to go to any length to ensure I'm not legally and financially regarded as his wife.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Truly awful. His home should absolutely go to His girls.
Why doesn't the Daughter staying at home for college live there alone while going to school?
He moves in with you in the home you already have,
Your son gets that home when you pass and if husband is still living then he moves Back to his original home.
Or would you prefer he gets that home and your son gets nothing ?

With all kindness (and I truly do mean to be kind, as I suspect you're truly trying to be helpful), your suggestion makes no seMae.

Should he and his daughter really move out of the family home and into mine, leaving the college daughter alone in a family home?

He doesn't feel the need to go to any length to ensure I'm not legally and financially regarded as his wife.

makes no *sense*

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here--

Scenario 1: Provide life insurance policy of near or equal to price of home for me; house goes to his kids (thanks to the poster who recommended this!)
Scenario 2: Create a will giving me 50% ownership/his girls 50% but I remain in the home...We may decide to buy each other out at some point but if I sell, they get 1/2 the proceeds
Scenario 3: I inherit house; it's passed on and split between the 3 kids after my demise

Of course, I really like SO's idea: I'm his wife. I get everything and he trusts me to treat all 3 fairly, knowing my character as he does. After all I'm step-mom for better or worse, that's the reality.

You own a house, so I'm not getting it. That was the children's parents house. They should inherit it. Keep our house, rent it out and get it paid off. Your child should not inherit that house equally. Your new husband is not raising him. He's almost grown and has two parents to inherit. I think your comments are crummy about marrying off the girls so they get their husband's money. Life doesn't always work out well and dad should be leaving them something, if not all.

I agree Dad should leave his girls something. But you can't leave your spouse out in the cold. If you want to leave all to your kids, don't remarry.

The issue is that my home will never be lived in by my SO or either of his children. His will become OUR family home--the place The grandkids come to visit. You're all envisioning Him choking on a piece of meat at our wedding reception. Both of our grandmothers are alive and kicking in their late 80s/early 90s. His grandfather too! What if we become that couple? 50 years of living together in that home=get out now, go back to your old home????

Doubtful his grandkids will be visiting if you are present. You are out of your mind.

Cool! That will make this whole thing easier.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yikes, OP, I was with you and believed your thread to be legitimate, until your last few posts where you admit you've only been dating a short while yet you like your SO's plan to give you everything and hope his daughters marry dudes who can provide for them. WTF???????????? That's just awful, awful, awful!! I really do hope you're a troll at this point.

Don't know what your expectations are for your spouse, but I expect to be viewed and treated as a wife-as if we actually married instead of playing house.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here--

Scenario 1: Provide life insurance policy of near or equal to price of home for me; house goes to his kids (thanks to the poster who recommended this!)
Scenario 2: Create a will giving me 50% ownership/his girls 50% but I remain in the home...We may decide to buy each other out at some point but if I sell, they get 1/2 the proceeds
Scenario 3: I inherit house; it's passed on and split between the 3 kids after my demise

Of course, I really like SO's idea: I'm his wife. I get everything and he trusts me to treat all 3 fairly, knowing my character as he does. After all I'm step-mom for better or worse, that's the reality.

You own a house, so I'm not getting it. That was the children's parents house. They should inherit it. Keep our house, rent it out and get it paid off. Your child should not inherit that house equally. Your new husband is not raising him. He's almost grown and has two parents to inherit. I think your comments are crummy about marrying off the girls so they get their husband's money. Life doesn't always work out well and dad should be leaving them something, if not all.

I agree Dad should leave his girls something. But you can't leave your spouse out in the cold. If you want to leave all to your kids, don't remarry.

The issue is that my home will never be lived in by my SO or either of his children. His will become OUR family home--the place The grandkids come to visit. You're all envisioning Him choking on a piece of meat at our wedding reception. Both of our grandmothers are alive and kicking in their late 80s/early 90s. His grandfather too! What if we become that couple? 50 years of living together in that home=get out now, go back to your old home????

Doubtful his grandkids will be visiting if you are present. You are out of your mind.

Cool! That will make this whole thing easier.

Hope your SO sees this side of your character, but now we all know this thread is faux. Thank you for wasting our time.

[Anonymous]

sell your home and divide it equally between your son and his daughters into trust funds of some sort.
Get married and move into the family home and if after years of a long marriage then yes the house should go to you.
And after you pass divided equally again.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:sell your home and divide it equally between your son and his daughters into trust funds of some sort.
Get married and move into the family home and if after years of a long marriage then yes the house should go to you.
And after you pass divided equally again.

Great idea! But I like the idea of the rental. Of course I don't mind selling and using the funds for the 3 college educations. However, we can already afford those. Selling just for the sake of doing so and making a point to DCUM makes no sense to me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:sell your home and divide it equally between your son and his daughters into trust funds of some sort.
Get married and move into the family home and if after years of a long marriage then yes the house should go to you.
And after you pass divided equally again.

Great idea! But I like the idea of the rental. Of course I don't mind selling and using the funds for the 3 college educations. However, we can already afford those. Selling just for the sake of doing so and making a point to DCUM makes no sense to me.

It would not be a point to DCUM but a point to his children. To show them you love them
And are in this for the long haul. That you care for them as you care for your own son. That you want them
To have a little financial security. And you are not just after their childhood home. The home that their mother raised them in.
So they could possibly see and understand you love them and have their futures in mind not just yours

[Anonymous]

Obvious troll. OP is likely a middle aged man living in his parents' basement munching Bugles while giggling at the tempest he has managed to stir up on DCUM.

[Anonymous]

Clearly a troll.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:sell your home and divide it equally between your son and his daughters into trust funds of some sort.
Get married and move into the family home and if after years of a long marriage then yes the house should go to you.
And after you pass divided equally again.

Great idea! But I like the idea of the rental. Of course I don't mind selling and using the funds for the 3 college educations. However, we can already afford those. Selling just for the sake of doing so and making a point to DCUM makes no sense to me.

OP - You've been busted. Why are you continuing this fake thread? Do you want us to ask Jeff to investigate?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Obvious troll. OP is likely a middle aged man living in his parents' basement munching Bugles while giggling at the tempest he has managed to stir up on DCUM.

No, I recognize OP's writing style and timing. Sets up fake threads and basks in the attention.

[Anonymous]

Can someone report this to Jeff?