What years are the "aging years" ( for women)

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Anonymous wrote:I know that there aren't women who look decades younger than their age, but there are women who truly do look younger. I went to see a new doctor who told me not to worry about testing for something because it's not really necessary until later. She was shocked when I told her how old I was. She looked at my forms again to double check. (Why, I don't know?) Then advised me to get the test. Some women really do look younger. (No, I don't look like a twenty year old, but I'm routinely mistaken for someone ten years younger. TBH, it has it's bad points.)

Thank you - I'm the 50+ poster from above. Nobody has to be polite by saying someone looks younger - they can say you look great, or good, or say nothing at all! I have met people in my life who looked amazingly younger than their ages, not sure why this is a huge surprise. I've also met many very young people who look older (not necessarily bad, just have an older look). Sorry if this bothers people, it's just the way it is.

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Anonymous wrote:Childbirth/rearing.

This.

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Anonymous wrote:48 right now. Look years younger. Feel years older.

Internally I am falling apart due to medical reasons. Externally I look good, as long as I do not have to exert myself.

I do not give a d*** how I look, I want to be alive and well for my school age kids...

So sorry to hear about the health issues. Hoping you get well soon.

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Anonymous wrote:I am 38 but everyone says I look 20ish. I was thinking of joining the police department and doing undercover work in college.

LOL! You and every other middle aged mom on here. A bunch of unicorns running around!

LOL. An old college roommate called me up when she was in town. We were never great friends, but kept in touch. I recall complaining to her about how rapidly I was aging. She bragged to me that her skin is still perfect (we're in our early 40s) and youthful and people always tell her how fab she looks. When it came time to meet up I couldn't find her. Then this woman with all these sun spots and wrinkles on her face came up to me. It was her!! She looked to be in her 60s. She still smokes and you can see the smoker's wrinkles around her mouth. She also never used sunscreen. I would not have been stunned if she hadn't told e how young she looks.

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Anonymous wrote:I know that there aren't women who look decades younger than their age, but there are women who truly do look younger. I went to see a new doctor who told me not to worry about testing for something because it's not really necessary until later. She was shocked when I told her how old I was. She looked at my forms again to double check. (Why, I don't know?) Then advised me to get the test. Some women really do look younger. (No, I don't look like a twenty year old, but I'm routinely mistaken for someone ten years younger. TBH, it has it's bad points.)

Me too.

I have been in my position for 19 years and when I had a work meeting with several clients and their attorney- how long I had been at it came up. One of the men said ' yea- you started when you were 15'. I laughed and said I was in my mid-40s and everyone there was truly shocked. The one woman in their group was my age and she pulled me aside in the way out to express how good/young I look.

This was a multiple PhD, science/law crowd.

I do get that shocked thing a lot, but people think my 72-year old dad is no more than 60 and I take after him.

I'm the pp you're quoting, and yes, this is why it's not that great. I'll never forget this meeting I had with someone who said "look, I've been doing this for twenty years...." When I said, I have too, he called me a liar! Other things happen too, like younger people not respecting you, or getting hit on by men much younger than you are (I know some people think this is a plus, but I'm embarrassed by it), or try meeting a guy your age who only wanted to date you because he thought you were younger! Thankfully, I'm married now, so that's not a problem. I don't want to look like a 20 year old, nor am I complaining about looking younger than my age. Yes, it's nice, but it's nothing I'd ever brag about. It just is what it is. And I'd never voluntarily tell anyone my age. It's only come out when there was an issue, like the examples I gave.

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So far, I'd say 2009-2014.

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Anonymous wrote:The moment you decide you don't want to have sex any more. I'm 47, so it hasn't happened for me yet, and I'm continually baffled by the people who post on DCUM (many of whom I suspect are far younger than I am) who naively delude themselves to think they can "opt out" or "outsource" sex and still stay married.

As long as you have a healthy sex drive, you're not only living, you're thriving.

You can gain weight and still have a sex life at home. And you can look very attractive/put together and have some real problems in paradise. Looks can be very deceiving..

True! I gained weight and we still have a sex life. I'm losing it and we're still having a sex life. "Aging" isn't all about weight. It's about attitude and enthusiasm. You can also gain weight and still be attractive, then still feel attractive and have an active sex life while losing it. In fact, each helps the other.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm 31 and I look great so I couldn't tell you.

Take lots of selfies now. It'll come.

31 yo pp here.

I keep hearing people say that kids will age you.

I have two kids ( 3 yo and 6 mo).

For the women that have aged due to kids...what ages were your kids when the bulk of the aging occurred?

You are so obnoxious. No it's not about kids, it's about age. As you will be forty soon, and fifty etc, if you are lucky and don't die sooner. Ad it will happen much much more quickly than you can imagine. When you are 30 it feels like your whole life is in front of you. At 40, you understand your best years are gone.

Speak for yourself. Different poster here, but I'm 47 DH is 51. Our parents are in their late 80s and expected to live at least 20 years more each. If you think that it's all downhill over 40, you'll have about half a century to feel that way. Wake up and face life in the 21st century because you're going to be here for a while.

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Anonymous wrote:I am 38 but everyone says I look 20ish. I was thinking of joining the police department and doing undercover work in college.

LOL! You and every other middle aged mom on here. A bunch of unicorns running around!

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There is no 38 yo celebrity/model who looks 20. None. Yet, you do.

I look 16 years younger. Tons of sleep, low stress, good genes and no kids yet.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm 31 and I look great so I couldn't tell you.

Take lots of selfies now. It'll come.

31 yo pp here.

I keep hearing people say that kids will age you.

I have two kids ( 3 yo and 6 mo).

For the women that have aged due to kids...what ages were your kids when the bulk of the aging occurred?

You are so obnoxious. No it's not about kids, it's about age. As you will be forty soon, and fifty etc, if you are lucky and don't die sooner. Ad it will happen much much more quickly than you can imagine. When you are 30 it feels like your whole life is in front of you. At 40, you understand your best years are gone.

Speak for yourself. Different poster here, but I'm 47 DH is 51. Our parents are in their late 80s and expected to live at least 20 years more each. If you think that it's all downhill over 40, you'll have about half a century to feel that way. Wake up and face life in the 21st century because you're going to be here for a while.

It isn't all downhill after 40 but it is different. Priorities change. I don't spend a ton of time worrying about "taking care of myself" so that I'll be a perky, active senior citizen. When I eat well/exercise it's because I want to feel good today. When I have a couple of glasses of wine or a piece of chocolate cake it's because I want to enjoy those things now.

It is important to plan/prepare/save for tomorrow but today matters, too.

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Like PP I used to be mistaken for younger all the time and somewhere in my late 30s it stopped happening - no more surprise about my age...ever! It was an adjustment. PP mentioned men thinking she was younger - that reminded me that when I was 28 and started dating a guy who was about 32, he kind of freaked out when he realized I wasn't 25 (a few weeks in)...he actually said that he doesn't usually date women over 25...and we lasted just a few more days.
That was okay, I then met my now DH who is a year younger than me.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm 31 and I look great so I couldn't tell you.

Give it time. Your time will come!

I was a late bloomer and my personal best (evident from photos/physical accomplishments) was 32-34.

I still am hanging in there at 44, but by no means do I look 30. I look good though.

But--for me--physical health is so much more important. I work out to stay nimble, in-shape and to ward off disease/illness. I still don't get aches and pains and I still can do the things (run many miles, lift) that I could do in my 20s. I take care of my skin-use sunscreen, etc. but I don't deny life pleasures--chocolate, wine, a good steak once a week, etc.

Life is meant to be enjoyed.

Do you have work stress? How old are your kids? Having teenagers is aging me fast, and I'm just a few years older than you are...

Not pp, but I'm also in my late 40's with a teen and preteen. No direct work stress - I'm a SAHM. So far, this stage of life has been pretty easy. The lousy winter weather really put a damper on my exercise so I've gained some weight. But I'm working on getting back on track with my diet/exercise. I'm still aging but it is a much slower process right now than it was when my kids were younger. Those sleepless nights really took their toll...

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Anonymous wrote:So far, I'd say 2009-2014.

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Anonymous wrote:I look 16 years younger. Tons of sleep, low stress, good genes and no kids yet.

Spending so much time with unicorns can't hurt either.

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Anonymous wrote:I know that there aren't women who look decades younger than their age, but there are women who truly do look younger. I went to see a new doctor who told me not to worry about testing for something because it's not really necessary until later. She was shocked when I told her how old I was. She looked at my forms again to double check. (Why, I don't know?) Then advised me to get the test. Some women really do look younger. (No, I don't look like a twenty year old, but I'm routinely mistaken for someone ten years younger. TBH, it has it's bad points.)

Thank you - I'm the 50+ poster from above. Nobody has to be polite by saying someone looks younger - they can say you look great, or good, or say nothing at all! I have met people in my life who looked amazingly younger than their ages, not sure why this is a huge surprise. I've also met many very young people who look older (not necessarily bad, just have an older look). Sorry if this bothers people, it's just the way it is.

Yes, I work with a woman in her early 50s who could easily pass for a 40 year old. My mother has always looked 10+ years younger. When she was in her 40s my dad started up a joke with new acquaintances that she was his "oldest" (as in his oldest daughter) and people would believe him because she looked so young.

Maybe it's not common for someone to look so much younger than their age, but there are a few of them out there. And looking over the faces of people I went to school with, it's pretty amazing to see how aging affects people differently. Some with serious wrinkles, crows feet, etc. others with very little.