No, I dont want to date women in their 40's

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Anonymous wrote:How come you got divorced? Did your wife get too wrinkly after she had the kids? Do you want more kids with your girlfriend, or will that age her too much?

ex became a sexless void. i also had my own problems which i addressed later. and many other reasons which made us long term incompatible.



already have a lovely child with the new gf.

Well, earlier you said "and yet she loves me deeply and wants kids with me," so you're admittedly lying if you already have a child. Not a surprise.

How are wanting kids with me and having one already mutually exclusive?

It might be technically consistent, but it is highly misleading.

Yeah, if you're in a relationship with a woman and you have a kid together, you're not really on the market, which was kind of the whole point of your multiple postings about the kinds of women you like to date and the ones you think you'll be dating in the future. You had a lot of postings about women in their 20s who want to have fun and enjoy themselves, not too serious, and yet your awesome girlfriend has a baby? Sort of skipped over that part?

In case you're wondering, a 37-year-old guy who's divorced with kids and a has a girlfriend with another kid is VERY LOW value in the marketplace of which you are so fond. Hope she's a keeper!

Again, not at all mutually exclusive if your mind is open.

Open, like the relationship and I have with my girlfriend.

I've continued to date since I met her and had a child with her.

I also, did admittedly, combine some of my current observations in the dating market with some of my recent experiences within the last few years. Precision on an anonymous message board wasn't the highest of priorities for me.

I know you're going to say that she is low value because she is willing to engage in an open relationship, one that is extremely asymmetrical in practice as she rarely if ever has dates with anyone else. But that I suppose will be another symptom of your inability to see things that fall outside of what you think is the norm for the universe.

I am most certainly on the market for sex, dating, and intimacy even if i'm not on the market for another LTR or more kids.

Once you sort of figure things out with how women work, what the triggers are and how women (and men) consistently react to certain things - its not that hard to navigate.

You are most certainly correct in that my value as a "long term" mate has definitely dropped as I picked up another baby momma and probably a second set of two kids. But it hasn't dropped my value for short to medium term relationships at all. It just depends on what marketplace we're talking about.

Its easy to say all things are one way or another in absolute terms and we all know its difficult to understand things that aren't familiar to us.

I hadn't intended to bring my specific situation into the discussion but you and others kept telling me it would be impossible to do this or that and when my specific life experience contradicts it, bringing up seemed to make sense.

I started with generalities and ended up with intimate specifics. My mistake, likely.

I certainly feel like I'm living the dream. Professional life has never been better, physically stronger and more fit than almost all the 20 somethings I come across - even the ones at the gym. I have wonderful children, a gorgeous and lovely GF, and spice and excitement from new experiences regularly.

Can't complain at all and being dissed on DCURBANMOMS of all places isn't going to impact me one iota.

The conversation has been entertaining - thank you.

Blah, blah, blah. Can you be anymore of a douche??

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ahh. douche. the retort of last resort.

and to other poster, really? an open relationship is akin to having sex with dead bodies?

whoa

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Anonymous wrote:ahh. douche. the retort of last resort.

and to other poster, really? an open relationship is akin to having sex with dead bodies?

whoa

Nercrophilia is in many respects preferable. It is something that could, perhaps, be contained, while your type of perversion clearly rules your whole life. And no, I am not at all religious, quite the opposite. But disgusting is disgusting.

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An open relationship is a perversion worse than necrophillia?

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It's equal ^^. What are you ... Closed minded? Or harboring some dumb twisted morality based on nothing?

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Anonymous wrote:It's equal ^^. What are you ... Closed minded? Or harboring some dumb twisted morality based on nothing?

+1
I like when perverts get all judgmental

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Anonymous wrote:Not at all, dh is 6 months younger than me and we've been together for 20 years, 3 kids, rewarding career, common goals, still very happy. Thanks for asking.

I've just lived in DC for a long time and have seen the ridiculousness of the younger, beautiful, designer everything, botoxed, etc. wife and the balding older husband working his as off to pay for everything and still schlepping around toddlers at 50.

If you were actually very happy, you wouldnt be trying to tear down others' happy lives. You must be close to 50. Grow up.

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Anonymous wrote:Most mid thirties single women in this town don't need a provider. Quite the opposite.

Yeah, they need an expensive fertility doctor due to their spending their 20's working on their "career" instead of whats really important.

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^ nasty, judgmental person

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Having children in your 20's isn't always a great thing. And why is having children the only important thing? What's wrong with a career? Why can't we all have lives that bring us joy, instead of living in ways that men say we ought? I had my baby at age 30 and that was perfect.

Also, I know a lot of creative women/men who don't want children. There are plenty of humans on the planet and they know it's not a great choice for them. I respect those folks way more than some baby daddy breeding a pack of kids on multiple young women.

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Anonymous wrote:"girl in 20's = I'm looking to have fun, have some new experiences, see the world and get to know myself before I settle down. this attracts a certain male type and they seek a certain male type to fill the role."

Yep. That "type" of man that 20-something women are looking to fill that role? Other 20-something men. (Or early 30's at the oldest).

Usually "fun" and "40+" don't go together in the minds of most 20-somethings.

Mid 30s is fine for surprisingly many girls in their 20s.

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Anonymous wrote:All I know that at age almost 48, my sex life has never been better, the men in my life are the best quality ever, and I don't give a fuck what some egotistical dOod has to say

Men plural?

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Anonymous wrote:"girl in 20's = I'm looking to have fun, have some new experiences, see the world and get to know myself before I settle down. this attracts a certain male type and they seek a certain male type to fill the role."

Yep. That "type" of man that 20-something women are looking to fill that role? Other 20-something men. (Or early 30's at the oldest).

Usually "fun" and "40+" don't go together in the minds of most 20-somethings.

Mid 30s is fine for surprisingly many girls in their 20s.

Yeah that's probably true. When I was dating in my late 20's I think my age-cutoff on my dating profile was around 36, which seemed pretty typical. Still, most of the men I dated were ~28-32.

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All I know that at age almost 48, my sex life has never been better, the men in my life are the best quality ever, and I don't give a fuck what some egotistical dOod has to say

51 is the average for menopause. After that sex drive crashes, so enjoy it while you can.

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Anonymous wrote:even 35 is getting pretty old. When a woman is unmarried with no prospects at 35, it's time to give up and buy 5 cats.

A 40 yo unmarried man is very suspect, too.

There is really only about 5 years of difference between equally desirable men and women, not 15 or 20 as some men are imagining.

Agree. I don't know any single 40 year old men who don't have issues and weren't rejected by women in their 30s.

Triple negative, not sure what means