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There is immediate help out there for pregnant women
who are concerned about their drinking while pregnant. Talk to your doctor. |
We don’t know what level of exposure is harmful to a fetus. We don’t know what level of exposure is harmful to a fetus. We don’t know what level of exposure is harmful to a fetus. Thankfully, most women aren’t selfish enough to take such risks for a momentary buzz. |
Seriously? Women who occasionally have one glass of wine while pregnant aren't getting buzzed while doing it. They're having a little wine with a meal. That's different than having 3 drinks in an hour and getting tipsy. |
I don't have a problem with women having an occasional drink while pregnant, but your statement is simply untrue. For many, many women, myself and friends included, we get a little buzzed off a single glass of wine. Three drinks and we're not tipsy but full on drunk. I think your comment contributes to the danger in thinking that woman and every fetus processes alcohol the same way. |
I consider myself pretty lightweight but if I drink a glass of wine slowly over the course of an hour with a meal and water I will not get buzzed. If I drink a full glass while waiting for the food to come out then yes, I'll be buzzed. |
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I judge women that judge other women for having a glass of wine here and there when pregnant. First, these judgy women are not supporting the autonomy and rights of fellow women. We women are more than incubators. We have our own minds and lives, and can weigh relative risks and benefits for ourselves. One person’s glass of slowly sipped wine may improve their happiness and cortisol levels as much as another person’s piece of chocolate, guilty pleasure tv show, walk in the park, etc. You don’t get to decide the worth of that glass of wine to that woman v. the (totally unproven) risks to her fetus.
Second, these women lack critical thinking skills and the ability to think logically. I bet the vast majority of those judgy women don’t judge themselves or others for other things that may present risks to a fetus, like being or mating with someone with certain genetic predispositions, being or mating with someone older, wearing makeup, living near a highway or having a long commute, eating too much sugar, driving in a car, spending time near lawns that have been sprayed with pesticides, going out in public ever given you could catch a virus, eating any raw veggies or fruit, etc. If these judgy women were capable of logic, they’d realize their mental energy is better spent worrying about other things. |
Yes, all of this. And of course, the indisputable: Before 1970, women drank and smoked in pregnancy, and levels of overall disability weren't higher. There's less intellectual disability and more autism diagnosis, but that's just labeling issues. -- Signed, child of the '60s |
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Am raising siblings. One affected by FASD. One not. Same bio-mom. No evidence she drank more than one pregnancy than the other. It is a total crap shoot depending upon what is happening in fetal development at the time the alcohol is being consumed. FASD (which can vary widely in severity) is a miserable, miserable condition that can impair a child for life---ADHD, oppositional defiance, impaired judgment, inability to understand consequences, learning disabilities, emotional dysmaturity and lack of regulation.
And yes, women drank during the 1960s and you know what---they gave birth to a lot of FASD kids but no one recognized it for what it was back then---the kids were just deemed "difficult". You can 100% prevent FASD by not drinking during pregnancy. |
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Good grief. I like alcohol as much as the next person but I totally abstained from it when I was pregnant with my kids. Why risk harming your developing child? No one knows what tips the scales into the "too much" territory for any given woman and her baby.
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We judge women who are pregnant and chose to drink for the same reason we'd judge a mother feeding her baby an alcoholic beverage, or hitting her child, or calling her child a hateful name. Nothing about the act of consuming alcohol benefits the fetus; nothing about alcohol, hitting, or name called benefits a baby or young child. Your cortisol example is a joke. Try meditation or a walk in nature - those things never caused FASD. Your examples of the risks associated with things like driving a car are also a joke. Cars have a purpose of transporting you from one place to another; alcohol has the purpose of altering your state through complex chemical processes that react on the brain, other organs, and YES, the fetus as well. Those of us who would never take such a risk reserve the right to think you are completely out of line for drinking while pregnant. One does not have to be a woman-hating martyr to urge others to give up booze for 9 months and to give it up yourself. I am fully pro-choice, and fully anti-child abuse. |
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I mean... do you really NEED to drink, considering what the potential risks are? It's not like you're abstaining for life. It's less than a year.
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Aren't critical thinking skills and the ability to think logically, like, the same thing? Not sure why you think judging someone who knowingly puts her helpless child in harm's way is such a bad thing. |
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I am anti incubator status within reason. There is zero, and I mean ZERO evidence to suggest that a very occasional glass of wine causes any issues. So I am deeply opposed to giving anyone crap for that.
Modern parenthood is measured by pain. How much did you sacrifice/give up/suffer for your child. The more you did the better you are as a parent or something. I do not drink often when pregnant and never more than a glass. Anyone who wants to give me a hard time about that can give me a report on everything they do day in and day out and see if they meet all the recommendations. |
Unfortunately, yes, these women REALLY need to drink. Even if it's just really, truly, OMG occasionally. They really need that drink. It's sad. |
In the absence of randomized controlled studies, there is zero, and I mean ZERO evidence to show that a very occaisional glass of wine DOESN'T cause any issues. |