What would you do? E Coast (fed job, no family) vs. W Coast (no job, family)

[Anonymous]

OP, it's kind of obnoxious to go on a forum for another city and talk about how horrifying living there would be. If you're wondering why people are being so little harsh in their delivery, that's a big part of it. It's not because people are mean here, like you would prefer to believe. People are people (and I've lived out West and in the Midwest). Be nice, and people are nice back.

And regarding your Centreville comment, it's also good to teach your kids to be responsible, to live within their means, to provide for their family, that home is where the heart is, etc.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We are thinking of our kids. We want to teach them that they can aspire to more than living in crappy Centreville in a crappy townhouse with crappy schools.

Yeah, like being on the dole.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:But after 49 years of either freezing or baking, great weather is AMAZING.

It's incredibly superficial compared to criteria like a great job market and wonderful schools. The public schools suck in SoCal and the job market is nowhere near as recession-proof as DC.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:But after 49 years of either freezing or baking, great weather is AMAZING.

It's incredibly superficial compared to criteria like a great job market and wonderful schools. The public schools suck in SoCal and the job market is nowhere near as recession-proof as DC.

Why is it superficial? Some people have different priorities/lifestyles.

[Anonymous]

Not the op. I'm a nurse, so I have a job. My kids are grown, so schools don't matter tho from what I can tell they're fine.

[Anonymous]

I lived in DC, moved to SoCal for two years, then moved back. Hated it there, people were vapid and/or boring. Personally, I found it unnatural for it not to rain for 10 months of the year.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:But after 49 years of either freezing or baking, great weather is AMAZING.

It's incredibly superficial compared to criteria like a great job market and wonderful schools. The public schools suck in SoCal and the job market is nowhere near as recession-proof as DC.

Why is it superficial? Some people have different priorities/lifestyles.

What would be a superficial criterion, to you, in referencing where to live?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I lived in DC, moved to SoCal for two years, then moved back. Hated it there, people were vapid and/or boring. Personally, I found it unnatural for it not to rain for 10 months of the year.

No one has any social graces. They don't have people over to their homes for dinner, there aren't baby showers, thank you notes are unheard of. The discussion is cars, money, the wacky CA politics, Hollywood. Talk about vapid.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We are thinking of our kids. We want to teach them that they can aspire to more than living in crappy Centreville in a crappy townhouse with crappy schools.

Yeah, like being on the dole.

But they're doing IMPORTANT things, don't you understand?

[Anonymous]

"We are thinking of our kids. We want to teach them that they can aspire to more than living in crappy Centreville in a crappy townhouse with crappy schools."

I live in DC, but work in NOVA. I have many NOVA coworkers. The schools in Centreville are excellent. I don't have huges issues with OP, but do think its funny to be a snob and talk about going on welfare in the same breath.

[Anonymous]

NP: And everyone wears flip-flops all.the.time. Including for job interviews. LOL.

Still love San Diego/La Jolla - go visit family there at least 2x a yr.

[Anonymous]

I love my flip-flops. And my shorts. And the fact that right now, it is 68 with a breeze and I had to close the windows.

No one in Va writes thank you notes either, so I'm not sure you can blame that on location.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:"We are thinking of our kids. We want to teach them that they can aspire to more than living in crappy Centreville in a crappy townhouse with crappy schools."

I live in DC, but work in NOVA. I have many NOVA coworkers. The schools in Centreville are excellent. I don't have huges issues with OP, but do think its funny to be a snob and talk about going on welfare in the same breath.

Bingo!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

First of all, I do not WANT to be on public assistance. I want DH to find a full-time job out here until grad school so the assistance would just get us by until that happens. BUT I don't know if/when that will happen.

Your calling someone an idiot who is just asking for some input here is one of the reasons I want to not live on the E Coast. I don't want to raise my kids around people like you.

OP, I think if your kids had the choice they would want you to have stable jobs, WHEREVER they might be. Read The Glass Castle if they are too young to answer you in sentences.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I love my flip-flops. And my shorts. And the fact that right now, it is 68 with a breeze and I had to close the windows.

No one in Va writes thank you notes either, so I'm not sure you can blame that on location.

I live in No VA, as do many of my friends, and we all write thank you notes. We also are socially savvy enough to know that anyone whose name is not on an invite is not invited. We also entertain at home, instead of always meeting at a restaurant.