Why can’t men just…be better?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Many relationship forum threads seem to devolve into the notion that “good” men (employed, functional) are rare - and I think we can all agree on that. That being the case, why can’t men just…improve themselves? Dress better, aim higher, work harder, get out there? What is stopping them??

Why can’t women improve themselves? Dress better, aim higher, work harder, get out there? What is stopping them?

Women are constantly doing all of the above. Single women looking for relationships are frequently advised to lose weight, dress better, improve their job/financial prospects, be friendlier, take up a hobby, go to therapy, work on themselves, etc. There are entire cottage industries dedicated to the self-improvement if women.

Men don't do this and it's rarely suggested to them. Single men looking for relationships just listen to podcasts and get red pilled.

But they stop once they find a guy to feed them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why can’t women be better?

women are more educated then men; they do most of the house chores and childcare even as they work FT. They are less violent.

Seems they are doing better than men.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m baffled by this whole thread and the overwhelming agreement that an employed, functional man is so rare.

I am a mid 50s divorced dad of two teenaged daughters with shared custody. I am employed and pretty well compensated while being actively involved in every aspect of both daughters lives.

I’m not perfect and I am always looking to do better. I don’t expect perfection in any partner.

I don’t know if this applies to another generation or not but I don’t believe I am a rare case.

What I have found in trying to date at this stage is many women who are always looking for something better. I’m sure women will say that applies to most men and it’s probably not a gender thing.

Not everyone is a good fit. But I have found so many people searching for that magic chemistry and dismissing people while complaining good men don’t exist or are rare. Relationships should be built and not be spontaneous with a stranger in a two hour interaction.

Agree. My DH is pretty great. Obviously, not perfect (neither am I), and there are things that annoy me about him, but generally, he's great.

He's not bad looking, but he's never had a great body. He has two of the three 6s -- 6ft+ and made six figures when I met him. We've been married for 20+ years. We've had our share of fights and annoyances, but IMO, our marriage is still pretty strong. The passion faded a while ago, but we are committed to each other and our marriage and family.

Women who seek the "perfect guy" will always be disillusioned.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There are rare functional men. But the rest are just not up to our expectations-men are inferior to women. Once you accept this, everything is easier to navigate.

+1

Unfortunately, men are just plain inferior to women in almost every single way (other than sheer physical strength). As a woman: once you get old enough or have enough life experience, this becomes incredibly obvious.

There are some exceptions. Not many.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why can’t women be better?

women are more educated then men; they do most of the house chores and childcare even as they work FT. They are less violent.

Seems they are doing better than men.

Better marry a woman! Men seem to have moved on from women these days.

[Anonymous]

Most of you can't even support yourself without your man's money.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Most of you can't even support yourself without your man's money.

You wish. 45% of women are the breadwinners. My husband makes 87,700, I make 250.

[Anonymous]

True.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why can’t women be better?

Better at what?

Executive functioning?
Health matters?
Schooling matters?
Financial matters and work?
Emotional support?
Climbing a ladder?
Verbally communicating?
Advocating for their children?
Planning meaningful things to do?
Supporting and running the entire household themselves?


What, what do women, wives, and mothers need to be better at PP?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Many relationship forum threads seem to devolve into the notion that “good” men (employed, functional) are rare - and I think we can all agree on that. That being the case, why can’t men just…improve themselves? Dress better, aim higher, work harder, get out there? What is stopping them??

Because they can have sex without having to improve themselves. There are always plenty of desperate women willing to offer sex for free or for a little money.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why can’t women be better?

Better at what?

Executive functioning?
Health matters?
Schooling matters?
Financial matters and work?
Emotional support?
Climbing a ladder?
Verbally communicating?
Advocating for their children?
Planning meaningful things to do?
Supporting and running the entire household themselves?


What, what do women, wives, and mothers need to be better at PP?

That's a good start. I'd add weight management and rational problem-solving.

[Anonymous]

Would be nice if the women in the DMV took better care of themselves, especially in the “hygiene” department.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why can’t women be better?

women are more educated then men; they do most of the house chores and childcare even as they work FT. They are less violent.

Seems they are doing better than men.

That means that men need more resources and help than women do. Funny how that’s always a non-starter with the misandrists lol.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Would be nice if the women in the DMV took better care of themselves, especially in the “hygiene” department.

Because we don’t get Brazilians?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Most of you can't even support yourself without your man's money.

You wish. 45% of women are the breadwinners. My husband makes 87,700, I make 250.

Why do you keep pumping this fake stat? Do you know what breadwinner means?