Private school is a terrible ROI for middle class people

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My kids are in college now and the kids who left for private didn’t have any better college outcomes than the kids who stayed. Bright kids are going to thrive anywhere.

You need to read the other millions of threads on this. Most of us don't send our kids to private for college outcomes. If that's your goal stay public! We send our kids private for whole child development, leadership development, social development etc. in addition to academic development - which is still better at private because of smaller more engaging classes.

I sent one of my kids for a year at TJ and on all those fronts mentioned above it was a disaster - he went back to his private school and my younger 3 never attended public.

Good for you, but nobody cares. The point of this thread was ROI for people who can’t easily afford private school

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:My kids are in college now and the kids who left for private didn’t have any better college outcomes than the kids who stayed. Bright kids are going to thrive anywhere.

It's not just about college, but I guess people can't quite grasp that concept. I prefer to have my kid happy, safe, and less stressed in her high school years vs. being in a violent environment where there might not be a place to sit in your classroom or lunchroom or a bathroom close by to use.

Obviously, a lot of public school parents don’t care about their kid’s daily environment and are instead focused on what college the kid ends up at.

Or they think being in such an environment builds their kid’s ‘resilience.’

Or it’s not as bad as you choose to believe to justify your choice. Confirmation bias.

Or it is bad and you're in denial. My parents didn't think it was that bad for me and I went to a wealthy public school. In middle school I got offered cocaine in the bathroom. I saw people having sex in the hallway. I saw a real gun that someone brought to school (it stayed in the kid's backpack) - and this was the early 90s before Columbine. I knew gang members- and even sang with one of them in our district choir - so we were kinda friends. Kids drank, smoked and did drugs. I was exposed to all of it and may parents didn't know, because I didn't say anything- it was my normal. Not a chance I'm sending my kid to the wealthy public schools I attended. I know there are no gang members or guns at my kid's schools. Sire there are sex and drugs - but not in the bathroom.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My kids are in college now and the kids who left for private didn’t have any better college outcomes than the kids who stayed. Bright kids are going to thrive anywhere.

It's not just about college, but I guess people can't quite grasp that concept. I prefer to have my kid happy, safe, and less stressed in her high school years vs. being in a violent environment where there might not be a place to sit in your classroom or lunchroom or a bathroom close by to use.

Obviously, a lot of public school parents don’t care about their kid’s daily environment and are instead focused on what college the kid ends up at.

Or they think being in such an environment builds their kid’s ‘resilience.’

Or it’s not as bad as you choose to believe to justify your choice. Confirmation bias.

Or it is bad and you're in denial. My parents didn't think it was that bad for me and I went to a wealthy public school. In middle school I got offered cocaine in the bathroom. I saw people having sex in the hallway. I saw a real gun that someone brought to school (it stayed in the kid's backpack) - and this was the early 90s before Columbine. I knew gang members- and even sang with one of them in our district choir - so we were kinda friends. Kids drank, smoked and did drugs. I was exposed to all of it and may parents didn't know, because I didn't say anything- it was my normal. Not a chance I'm sending my kid to the wealthy public schools I attended. I know there are no gang members or guns at my kid's schools. Sire there are sex and drugs - but not in the bathroom.

LOL

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My kids are in college now and the kids who left for private didn’t have any better college outcomes than the kids who stayed. Bright kids are going to thrive anywhere.

You need to read the other millions of threads on this. Most of us don't send our kids to private for college outcomes. If that's your goal stay public! We send our kids private for whole child development, leadership development, social development etc. in addition to academic development - which is still better at private because of smaller more engaging classes.

I sent one of my kids for a year at TJ and on all those fronts mentioned above it was a disaster - he went back to his private school and my younger 3 never attended public.

Good for you, but nobody cares. The point of this thread was ROI for people who can’t easily afford private school

DP

You must be thick. The point of that post is directly aligned with the topic. If college is your goal and you are middle class - stay public. The PP that this poster responded to (probably you) didn't understand why people would choose private school if college outcomes are the same - I think the post covers that. Clearly, your ISEE reading comprehension score would be too low for private school.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My kids are in college now and the kids who left for private didn’t have any better college outcomes than the kids who stayed. Bright kids are going to thrive anywhere.

It's not just about college, but I guess people can't quite grasp that concept. I prefer to have my kid happy, safe, and less stressed in her high school years vs. being in a violent environment where there might not be a place to sit in your classroom or lunchroom or a bathroom close by to use.

Obviously, a lot of public school parents don’t care about their kid’s daily environment and are instead focused on what college the kid ends up at.

Or they think being in such an environment builds their kid’s ‘resilience.’

Or it’s not as bad as you choose to believe to justify your choice. Confirmation bias.

Or it is bad and you're in denial. My parents didn't think it was that bad for me and I went to a wealthy public school. In middle school I got offered cocaine in the bathroom. I saw people having sex in the hallway. I saw a real gun that someone brought to school (it stayed in the kid's backpack) - and this was the early 90s before Columbine. I knew gang members- and even sang with one of them in our district choir - so we were kinda friends. Kids drank, smoked and did drugs. I was exposed to all of it and may parents didn't know, because I didn't say anything- it was my normal. Not a chance I'm sending my kid to the wealthy public schools I attended. I know there are no gang members or guns at my kid's schools. Sire there are sex and drugs - but not in the bathroom.

I posted up thread about how I don’t want my family subjected to the insufferable parents that are so plentiful in private school, even tough we can afford it easily. Thank you for validating my decision!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My kids are in college now and the kids who left for private didn’t have any better college outcomes than the kids who stayed. Bright kids are going to thrive anywhere.

You need to read the other millions of threads on this. Most of us don't send our kids to private for college outcomes. If that's your goal stay public! We send our kids private for whole child development, leadership development, social development etc. in addition to academic development - which is still better at private because of smaller more engaging classes.

I sent one of my kids for a year at TJ and on all those fronts mentioned above it was a disaster - he went back to his private school and my younger 3 never attended public.

Good for you, but nobody cares. The point of this thread was ROI for people who can’t easily afford private school

DP

You must be thick. The point of that post is directly aligned with the topic. If college is your goal and you are middle class - stay public. The PP that this poster responded to (probably you) didn't understand why people would choose private school if college outcomes are the same - I think the post covers that. Clearly, your ISEE reading comprehension score would be too low for private school.

Not thick at all. Please try to stay on topic.!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My kids are in college now and the kids who left for private didn’t have any better college outcomes than the kids who stayed. Bright kids are going to thrive anywhere.

True, but life is about the journey not the destination. Everyone has the same destination- death.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My kids are in college now and the kids who left for private didn’t have any better college outcomes than the kids who stayed. Bright kids are going to thrive anywhere.

True, but life is about the journey not the destination. Everyone has the same destination- death.

This has also been my experience. I went to what this board would consider a subpar public high school and ended up at the same law school as elite private schoolers, one of whom is now my dear friend. I honestly don’t think either of us benefited more or less from our high school experiences. There were good and bad for both. We ended up in the same place in the end. I think it’s a lot more about natural ability and family support than anything else.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My kids are in college now and the kids who left for private didn’t have any better college outcomes than the kids who stayed. Bright kids are going to thrive anywhere.

It's not just about college, but I guess people can't quite grasp that concept. I prefer to have my kid happy, safe, and less stressed in her high school years vs. being in a violent environment where there might not be a place to sit in your classroom or lunchroom or a bathroom close by to use.

Obviously, a lot of public school parents don’t care about their kid’s daily environment and are instead focused on what college the kid ends up at.

Or they think being in such an environment builds their kid’s ‘resilience.’

Or it’s not as bad as you choose to believe to justify your choice. Confirmation bias.

Or it is bad and you're in denial. My parents didn't think it was that bad for me and I went to a wealthy public school. In middle school I got offered cocaine in the bathroom. I saw people having sex in the hallway. I saw a real gun that someone brought to school (it stayed in the kid's backpack) - and this was the early 90s before Columbine. I knew gang members- and even sang with one of them in our district choir - so we were kinda friends. Kids drank, smoked and did drugs. I was exposed to all of it and may parents didn't know, because I didn't say anything- it was my normal. Not a chance I'm sending my kid to the wealthy public schools I attended. I know there are no gang members or guns at my kid's schools. Sire there are sex and drugs - but not in the bathroom.

Well I went to public and it was fine. Anecdotes are meaningless.

[Anonymous]

These pro private school posters are simply not middle class. They just aren’t. The only true middle class people paying for private school are doing it for religious reasons which tend to be cheaper anyway, plus you can see the financial sacrifices they are making in their homes, vacations etc.

This ain’t rocket science.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:These pro private school posters are simply not middle class. They just aren’t. The only true middle class people paying for private school are doing it for religious reasons which tend to be cheaper anyway, plus you can see the financial sacrifices they are making in their homes, vacations etc.

This ain’t rocket science.

I am one of these posters and sent my kids to Catholic schools with nothing beyond a 401K for savings and a one income family of $200K at the time. Of course our income got better as time went on (significantly actually) so we were lucky. But we took the risk and sacrifice and it was 100% worth it!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My kids are in college now and the kids who left for private didn’t have any better college outcomes than the kids who stayed. Bright kids are going to thrive anywhere.

You need to read the other millions of threads on this. Most of us don't send our kids to private for college outcomes. If that's your goal stay public! We send our kids private for whole child development, leadership development, social development etc. in addition to academic development - which is still better at private because of smaller more engaging classes.

I sent one of my kids for a year at TJ and on all those fronts mentioned above it was a disaster - he went back to his private school and my younger 3 never attended public.

Good for you, but nobody cares. The point of this thread was ROI for people who can’t easily afford private school

Yes- what’s what I was referring to- people who can’t easily afford private school. People are just very defensive they miss the point.

[Anonymous]

These pro-public school parents will do anything to justify their poor decisions to expose their kids to the cut-throat (literally!!) environment of public schools. Just admit you were too selfish to sacrifice or make any effort to find a better place for your kid. I hope they are ok.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My kids are in college now and the kids who left for private didn’t have any better college outcomes than the kids who stayed. Bright kids are going to thrive anywhere.

You need to read the other millions of threads on this. Most of us don't send our kids to private for college outcomes. If that's your goal stay public! We send our kids private for whole child development, leadership development, social development etc. in addition to academic development - which is still better at private because of smaller more engaging classes.

I sent one of my kids for a year at TJ and on all those fronts mentioned above it was a disaster - he went back to his private school and my younger 3 never attended public.

Good for you, but nobody cares. The point of this thread was ROI for people who can’t easily afford private school

DP

You must be thick. The point of that post is directly aligned with the topic. If college is your goal and you are middle class - stay public. The PP that this poster responded to (probably you) didn't understand why people would choose private school if college outcomes are the same - I think the post covers that. Clearly, your ISEE reading comprehension score would be too low for private school.

You’re thick- my question was why middle class people who can’t easily afford college would choose private over public. I know why parents choose private because I’ve heard them opine about it time and time again.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:These pro-public school parents will do anything to justify their poor decisions to expose their kids to the cut-throat (literally!!) environment of public schools. Just admit you were too selfish to sacrifice or make any effort to find a better place for your kid. I hope they are ok.

Lol zero points for trolling