I married money and regret it

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Anonymous wrote:The problem isn’t that you married money. It is that it just isn’t enough money for the dad to be the checked out big earner dad who has household help for everything. That’s why you are stressed and unhappy. If you had a cook, nanny, housekeeper and cleaner, you wouldn’t regret it

400-500k is literally the 1% of earners in the U.S. They have a nanny and a housekeeper. Most women who work part time cook and raise their kids.

I know they have a nanny but where does it say that they have a daily housekeeper? That’s different from a cleaning lady who does a deep clean once a week. Housekeepers make life way easier because they help with all the daily pick up, all laundry, dishwasher, mess from the kids. Those kinds of things are what makes kids so exhausting and not enjoyable. I don’t think 500 k is enough for a FT nanny AND housekeeper unless there are very little savings

The she's doing it wrong. OP only works part time. What she should do is consolidate down to one person who works FT, watches the kids when she's working but can also help with some cleaning and meal prep.

OP, that's your parenting partner -- the FT nanny/housekeeper. Your DH is their dad but the person who is going to help you get through these little kid years with your sanity is going to be hired and paid. And then keep her when the kids start school and your whole world will open up.

I enjoy spending time with my children. I do not want a daily housekeeper or house manager.
I have zero interest in quitting my job.

I do not feel comfortable with someone handling our food. I have watched too many cooking videos and stuff to know the vast majority of people are unhygienic when it comes to preparing food. Not washing hands thoroughly between steps, trying food and then putting it back in the food, eating from the pot, etc. The same reason we don’t really eat at people’s houses. You never can trust their cooking.

You are a lot of the problem OP. You don’t eat at other peoples houses? What a weirdo.

+1

OP, I assume you don't eat at restaurants either?

Rarely. We prefer to eat better food made at home.

I am just a stickler for hygiene. One host from a playdate for my oldest was licking dip off her fingers and still touching the food she was putting out to serve. She tasted food and put the same spoon back into the pot. That’s just gross. The other touched raw meat and then touched seasonings and other ingredients without washing her hands. We wash our hands throughly, use food grade gloves for meat ( still wash hands afterwards), and we don’t eat out of the same dish or use the same spoon we ate off.

Only low class people do things like this. Surely you have normal friends who follow basic rules of hygiene and make fresh, wholesome foods?

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OP the only thing I can say for sure is that you are NOT going to be able to do better than what you’ve got right now. Just be grateful that your husband doesn’t realize that he can.

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Anonymous wrote:You haven't said anything that lets us offer helpful feedback.

What responsibility are you shouldering? How big a paycheck? What access do you have to the money he makes? ARE you expecting too much? Can't say without knowing what you expect.

He is an active father but sucks at anything house related. I do all the shopping, cooking, managing outsourcing crews, 95% of the childcare, scheduling/taking kids to appointments, handling childcare.

I work part time making 60k. He works full time and makes 400-500k a year.

I have full access to our money.

I just want him to step up more with the household labor. He has said he is busy working to support our family to give me the ability to stay home.

Why don’t you have hired help? What are you waiting for?

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Anonymous wrote:The problem isn’t that you married money. It is that it just isn’t enough money for the dad to be the checked out big earner dad who has household help for everything. That’s why you are stressed and unhappy. If you had a cook, nanny, housekeeper and cleaner, you wouldn’t regret it

400-500k is literally the 1% of earners in the U.S. They have a nanny and a housekeeper. Most women who work part time cook and raise their kids.

I know they have a nanny but where does it say that they have a daily housekeeper? That’s different from a cleaning lady who does a deep clean once a week. Housekeepers make life way easier because they help with all the daily pick up, all laundry, dishwasher, mess from the kids. Those kinds of things are what makes kids so exhausting and not enjoyable. I don’t think 500 k is enough for a FT nanny AND housekeeper unless there are very little savings

The she's doing it wrong. OP only works part time. What she should do is consolidate down to one person who works FT, watches the kids when she's working but can also help with some cleaning and meal prep.

OP, that's your parenting partner -- the FT nanny/housekeeper. Your DH is their dad but the person who is going to help you get through these little kid years with your sanity is going to be hired and paid. And then keep her when the kids start school and your whole world will open up.

I enjoy spending time with my children. I do not want a daily housekeeper or house manager.
I have zero interest in quitting my job.

I do not feel comfortable with someone handling our food. I have watched too many cooking videos and stuff to know the vast majority of people are unhygienic when it comes to preparing food. Not washing hands thoroughly between steps, trying food and then putting it back in the food, eating from the pot, etc. The same reason we don’t really eat at people’s houses. You never can trust their cooking.

You are a lot of the problem OP. You don’t eat at other peoples houses? What a weirdo.

+1

OP, I assume you don't eat at restaurants either?

Rarely. We prefer to eat better food made at home.

I am just a stickler for hygiene. One host from a playdate for my oldest was licking dip off her fingers and still touching the food she was putting out to serve. She tasted food and put the same spoon back into the pot. That’s just gross. The other touched raw meat and then touched seasonings and other ingredients without washing her hands. We wash our hands throughly, use food grade gloves for meat ( still wash hands afterwards), and we don’t eat out of the same dish or use the same spoon we ate off.

Only low class people do things like this. Surely you have normal friends who follow basic rules of hygiene and make fresh, wholesome foods?

Beg to differ
Over the holidays I observed a judge Neigbor swipe her chips in the croc pot at a holiday party.
Low brow and disgusting..

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Anonymous wrote:The problem isn’t that you married money. It is that it just isn’t enough money for the dad to be the checked out big earner dad who has household help for everything. That’s why you are stressed and unhappy. If you had a cook, nanny, housekeeper and cleaner, you wouldn’t regret it

400-500k is literally the 1% of earners in the U.S. They have a nanny and a housekeeper. Most women who work part time cook and raise their kids.

I know they have a nanny but where does it say that they have a daily housekeeper? That’s different from a cleaning lady who does a deep clean once a week. Housekeepers make life way easier because they help with all the daily pick up, all laundry, dishwasher, mess from the kids. Those kinds of things are what makes kids so exhausting and not enjoyable. I don’t think 500 k is enough for a FT nanny AND housekeeper unless there are very little savings

The she's doing it wrong. OP only works part time. What she should do is consolidate down to one person who works FT, watches the kids when she's working but can also help with some cleaning and meal prep.

OP, that's your parenting partner -- the FT nanny/housekeeper. Your DH is their dad but the person who is going to help you get through these little kid years with your sanity is going to be hired and paid. And then keep her when the kids start school and your whole world will open up.

I enjoy spending time with my children. I do not want a daily housekeeper or house manager.
I have zero interest in quitting my job.

I do not feel comfortable with someone handling our food. I have watched too many cooking videos and stuff to know the vast majority of people are unhygienic when it comes to preparing food. Not washing hands thoroughly between steps, trying food and then putting it back in the food, eating from the pot, etc. The same reason we don’t really eat at people’s houses. You never can trust their cooking.

You are a lot of the problem OP. You don’t eat at other peoples houses? What a weirdo.

+1

OP, I assume you don't eat at restaurants either?

Rarely. We prefer to eat better food made at home.

I am just a stickler for hygiene. One host from a playdate for my oldest was licking dip off her fingers and still touching the food she was putting out to serve. She tasted food and put the same spoon back into the pot. That’s just gross. The other touched raw meat and then touched seasonings and other ingredients without washing her hands. We wash our hands throughly, use food grade gloves for meat ( still wash hands afterwards), and we don’t eat out of the same dish or use the same spoon we ate off.

Only low class people do things like this. Surely you have normal friends who follow basic rules of hygiene and make fresh, wholesome foods?

Beg to differ
Over the holidays I observed a judge Neigbor swipe her chips in the croc pot at a holiday party.
Low brow and disgusting..

One can be high income and low class at once. High earning director would shit in the toilet and leave the bathroom without glancing at the sink to wash her hands. I had absolutely no respect for her after witnessing this.

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Anonymous wrote:The problem isn’t that you married money. It is that it just isn’t enough money for the dad to be the checked out big earner dad who has household help for everything. That’s why you are stressed and unhappy. If you had a cook, nanny, housekeeper and cleaner, you wouldn’t regret it

400-500k is literally the 1% of earners in the U.S. They have a nanny and a housekeeper. Most women who work part time cook and raise their kids.

I know they have a nanny but where does it say that they have a daily housekeeper? That’s different from a cleaning lady who does a deep clean once a week. Housekeepers make life way easier because they help with all the daily pick up, all laundry, dishwasher, mess from the kids. Those kinds of things are what makes kids so exhausting and not enjoyable. I don’t think 500 k is enough for a FT nanny AND housekeeper unless there are very little savings

The she's doing it wrong. OP only works part time. What she should do is consolidate down to one person who works FT, watches the kids when she's working but can also help with some cleaning and meal prep.

OP, that's your parenting partner -- the FT nanny/housekeeper. Your DH is their dad but the person who is going to help you get through these little kid years with your sanity is going to be hired and paid. And then keep her when the kids start school and your whole world will open up.

I enjoy spending time with my children. I do not want a daily housekeeper or house manager.
I have zero interest in quitting my job.

I do not feel comfortable with someone handling our food. I have watched too many cooking videos and stuff to know the vast majority of people are unhygienic when it comes to preparing food. Not washing hands thoroughly between steps, trying food and then putting it back in the food, eating from the pot, etc. The same reason we don’t really eat at people’s houses. You never can trust their cooking.

You are a lot of the problem OP. You don’t eat at other peoples houses? What a weirdo.

+1

OP, I assume you don't eat at restaurants either?

Rarely. We prefer to eat better food made at home.

I am just a stickler for hygiene. One host from a playdate for my oldest was licking dip off her fingers and still touching the food she was putting out to serve. She tasted food and put the same spoon back into the pot. That’s just gross. The other touched raw meat and then touched seasonings and other ingredients without washing her hands. We wash our hands throughly, use food grade gloves for meat ( still wash hands afterwards), and we don’t eat out of the same dish or use the same spoon we ate off.

Only low class people do things like this. Surely you have normal friends who follow basic rules of hygiene and make fresh, wholesome foods?

Beg to differ
Over the holidays I observed a judge Neigbor swipe her chips in the croc pot at a holiday party.
Low brow and disgusting..

One can be high income and low class at once. High earning director would shit in the toilet and leave the bathroom without glancing at the sink to wash her hands. I had absolutely no respect for her after witnessing this.

Absolutely agree. I lost ALL respect after what I saw

Declined an invite recently actually ..

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Anonymous wrote:The problem isn’t that you married money. It is that it just isn’t enough money for the dad to be the checked out big earner dad who has household help for everything. That’s why you are stressed and unhappy. If you had a cook, nanny, housekeeper and cleaner, you wouldn’t regret it

400-500k is literally the 1% of earners in the U.S. They have a nanny and a housekeeper. Most women who work part time cook and raise their kids.

I know they have a nanny but where does it say that they have a daily housekeeper? That’s different from a cleaning lady who does a deep clean once a week. Housekeepers make life way easier because they help with all the daily pick up, all laundry, dishwasher, mess from the kids. Those kinds of things are what makes kids so exhausting and not enjoyable. I don’t think 500 k is enough for a FT nanny AND housekeeper unless there are very little savings

The she's doing it wrong. OP only works part time. What she should do is consolidate down to one person who works FT, watches the kids when she's working but can also help with some cleaning and meal prep.

OP, that's your parenting partner -- the FT nanny/housekeeper. Your DH is their dad but the person who is going to help you get through these little kid years with your sanity is going to be hired and paid. And then keep her when the kids start school and your whole world will open up.

I enjoy spending time with my children. I do not want a daily housekeeper or house manager.
I have zero interest in quitting my job.

I do not feel comfortable with someone handling our food. I have watched too many cooking videos and stuff to know the vast majority of people are unhygienic when it comes to preparing food. Not washing hands thoroughly between steps, trying food and then putting it back in the food, eating from the pot, etc. The same reason we don’t really eat at people’s houses. You never can trust their cooking.

You are a lot of the problem OP. You don’t eat at other peoples houses? What a weirdo.

+1

OP, I assume you don't eat at restaurants either?

Rarely. We prefer to eat better food made at home.

I am just a stickler for hygiene. One host from a playdate for my oldest was licking dip off her fingers and still touching the food she was putting out to serve. She tasted food and put the same spoon back into the pot. That’s just gross. The other touched raw meat and then touched seasonings and other ingredients without washing her hands. We wash our hands throughly, use food grade gloves for meat ( still wash hands afterwards), and we don’t eat out of the same dish or use the same spoon we ate off.

Only low class people do things like this. Surely you have normal friends who follow basic rules of hygiene and make fresh, wholesome foods?

Beg to differ
Over the holidays I observed a judge Neigbor swipe her chips in the croc pot at a holiday party.
Low brow and disgusting..

One can be high income and low class at once. High earning director would shit in the toilet and leave the bathroom without glancing at the sink to wash her hands. I had absolutely no respect for her after witnessing this.

She need a lota, tp just doesn’t cut it for us.

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Anonymous wrote:The problem isn’t that you married money. It is that it just isn’t enough money for the dad to be the checked out big earner dad who has household help for everything. That’s why you are stressed and unhappy. If you had a cook, nanny, housekeeper and cleaner, you wouldn’t regret it

400-500k is literally the 1% of earners in the U.S. They have a nanny and a housekeeper. Most women who work part time cook and raise their kids.

I know they have a nanny but where does it say that they have a daily housekeeper? That’s different from a cleaning lady who does a deep clean once a week. Housekeepers make life way easier because they help with all the daily pick up, all laundry, dishwasher, mess from the kids. Those kinds of things are what makes kids so exhausting and not enjoyable. I don’t think 500 k is enough for a FT nanny AND housekeeper unless there are very little savings

The she's doing it wrong. OP only works part time. What she should do is consolidate down to one person who works FT, watches the kids when she's working but can also help with some cleaning and meal prep.

OP, that's your parenting partner -- the FT nanny/housekeeper. Your DH is their dad but the person who is going to help you get through these little kid years with your sanity is going to be hired and paid. And then keep her when the kids start school and your whole world will open up.

I enjoy spending time with my children. I do not want a daily housekeeper or house manager.
I have zero interest in quitting my job.

I do not feel comfortable with someone handling our food. I have watched too many cooking videos and stuff to know the vast majority of people are unhygienic when it comes to preparing food. Not washing hands thoroughly between steps, trying food and then putting it back in the food, eating from the pot, etc. The same reason we don’t really eat at people’s houses. You never can trust their cooking.

You are a lot of the problem OP. You don’t eat at other peoples houses? What a weirdo.

+1

OP, I assume you don't eat at restaurants either?

Rarely. We prefer to eat better food made at home.

I am just a stickler for hygiene. One host from a playdate for my oldest was licking dip off her fingers and still touching the food she was putting out to serve. She tasted food and put the same spoon back into the pot. That’s just gross. The other touched raw meat and then touched seasonings and other ingredients without washing her hands. We wash our hands throughly, use food grade gloves for meat ( still wash hands afterwards), and we don’t eat out of the same dish or use the same spoon we ate off.

Only low class people do things like this. Surely you have normal friends who follow basic rules of hygiene and make fresh, wholesome foods?

Beg to differ
Over the holidays I observed a judge Neigbor swipe her chips in the croc pot at a holiday party.
Low brow and disgusting..

Dipping one new chip in the dip?!?! At a neighborhood party?!??

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Anonymous wrote:OP the only thing I can say for sure is that you are NOT going to be able to do better than what you’ve got right now. Just be grateful that your husband doesn’t realize that he can.

+1 Well said.

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I stopped reading when OP described her real struggle— making meals, surface cleaning, infant, tedium of early motherhood, and a hubs that doesn’t help clean up after the kids are in bed.

She’s unhappy because married for money instead of love. Only true deep love can survive the early years of parenthood.

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Anonymous wrote:The problem isn’t that you married money. It is that it just isn’t enough money for the dad to be the checked out big earner dad who has household help for everything. That’s why you are stressed and unhappy. If you had a cook, nanny, housekeeper and cleaner, you wouldn’t regret it

400-500k is literally the 1% of earners in the U.S. They have a nanny and a housekeeper. Most women who work part time cook and raise their kids.

I know they have a nanny but where does it say that they have a daily housekeeper? That’s different from a cleaning lady who does a deep clean once a week. Housekeepers make life way easier because they help with all the daily pick up, all laundry, dishwasher, mess from the kids. Those kinds of things are what makes kids so exhausting and not enjoyable. I don’t think 500 k is enough for a FT nanny AND housekeeper unless there are very little savings

The she's doing it wrong. OP only works part time. What she should do is consolidate down to one person who works FT, watches the kids when she's working but can also help with some cleaning and meal prep.

OP, that's your parenting partner -- the FT nanny/housekeeper. Your DH is their dad but the person who is going to help you get through these little kid years with your sanity is going to be hired and paid. And then keep her when the kids start school and your whole world will open up.

I enjoy spending time with my children. I do not want a daily housekeeper or house manager.
I have zero interest in quitting my job.

I do not feel comfortable with someone handling our food. I have watched too many cooking videos and stuff to know the vast majority of people are unhygienic when it comes to preparing food. Not washing hands thoroughly between steps, trying food and then putting it back in the food, eating from the pot, etc. The same reason we don’t really eat at people’s houses. You never can trust their cooking.

You are a lot of the problem OP. You don’t eat at other peoples houses? What a weirdo.

+1

OP, I assume you don't eat at restaurants either?

Rarely. We prefer to eat better food made at home.

I am just a stickler for hygiene. One host from a playdate for my oldest was licking dip off her fingers and still touching the food she was putting out to serve. She tasted food and put the same spoon back into the pot. That’s just gross. The other touched raw meat and then touched seasonings and other ingredients without washing her hands. We wash our hands throughly, use food grade gloves for meat ( still wash hands afterwards), and we don’t eat out of the same dish or use the same spoon we ate off.

Only low class people do things like this. Surely you have normal friends who follow basic rules of hygiene and make fresh, wholesome foods?

Beg to differ
Over the holidays I observed a judge Neigbor swipe her chips in the croc pot at a holiday party.
Low brow and disgusting..

Dipping one new chip in the dip?!?! At a neighborhood party?!??

Why not use the provided utensils to serve yourself some instead of double dipping and using the croc pot as your own personal serving ?

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Anonymous wrote:The problem isn’t that you married money. It is that it just isn’t enough money for the dad to be the checked out big earner dad who has household help for everything. That’s why you are stressed and unhappy. If you had a cook, nanny, housekeeper and cleaner, you wouldn’t regret it

400-500k is literally the 1% of earners in the U.S. They have a nanny and a housekeeper. Most women who work part time cook and raise their kids.

I know they have a nanny but where does it say that they have a daily housekeeper? That’s different from a cleaning lady who does a deep clean once a week. Housekeepers make life way easier because they help with all the daily pick up, all laundry, dishwasher, mess from the kids. Those kinds of things are what makes kids so exhausting and not enjoyable. I don’t think 500 k is enough for a FT nanny AND housekeeper unless there are very little savings

The she's doing it wrong. OP only works part time. What she should do is consolidate down to one person who works FT, watches the kids when she's working but can also help with some cleaning and meal prep.

OP, that's your parenting partner -- the FT nanny/housekeeper. Your DH is their dad but the person who is going to help you get through these little kid years with your sanity is going to be hired and paid. And then keep her when the kids start school and your whole world will open up.

I enjoy spending time with my children. I do not want a daily housekeeper or house manager.
I have zero interest in quitting my job.

I do not feel comfortable with someone handling our food. I have watched too many cooking videos and stuff to know the vast majority of people are unhygienic when it comes to preparing food. Not washing hands thoroughly between steps, trying food and then putting it back in the food, eating from the pot, etc. The same reason we don’t really eat at people’s houses. You never can trust their cooking.

You are a lot of the problem OP. You don’t eat at other peoples houses? What a weirdo.

+1

OP, I assume you don't eat at restaurants either?

Rarely. We prefer to eat better food made at home.

I am just a stickler for hygiene. One host from a playdate for my oldest was licking dip off her fingers and still touching the food she was putting out to serve. She tasted food and put the same spoon back into the pot. That’s just gross. The other touched raw meat and then touched seasonings and other ingredients without washing her hands. We wash our hands throughly, use food grade gloves for meat ( still wash hands afterwards), and we don’t eat out of the same dish or use the same spoon we ate off.

Only low class people do things like this. Surely you have normal friends who follow basic rules of hygiene and make fresh, wholesome foods?

Beg to differ
Over the holidays I observed a judge Neigbor swipe her chips in the croc pot at a holiday party.
Low brow and disgusting..

One can be high income and low class at once. High earning director would shit in the toilet and leave the bathroom without glancing at the sink to wash her hands. I had absolutely no respect for her after witnessing this.

And I have no respect for you after learning that you watch people poop. Talk about disgusting.

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Anonymous wrote:Ok, I’m the wife who makes $400-500k a year while my husband makes anything from $0-150k a year with his own business. I don’t get to just opt out of all mundane chores. And frankly, even with seven day a week help (which I’ve had for years), it still requires a lot of managerial work.

For example, this morning I have worked with my husband to plan out a list for the handyman and gone online to make the appointment for the handyman to come Monday for an estimate. We both need to understand the list because, while we are both currently free in the Monday time slot, we never know which one of us might have an urgent meeting — so both have to be prepared to talk to the handyman. While I was doing this, my weekend helper was getting my special needs teenager dressed, brushing her teeth and cycling the dishwasher. This afternoon my husband has to take a continuing Ed class for four hours. I will plan meals for the week and grocery shop while he does that. I sometimes outsource grocery shopping, but the truth is that I like picking out my own produce, etc. I can also pivot when the mushrooms look bad and think of another recipe I could make and get those ingredients instead. I do outsource shorter shopping lists to my Tuesday/Thursday helper that are a little more foolproof basics. My weekend helper will help me cook a couple of things, prep school lunches, prep meds for special needs kids, etc. I will then pick up my other kid’s friend and order pizza for the kids. My husband will take the friend home tonight. I don’t get to just be like “I am not going to think about household needs or food because I make all the money” and help still requires me to manage them and tell them what to do. My weekend helper will do kid laundry today while my husband does the grown up laundry tomorrow. I will be planning our summer vacation while he does that and then we both go shopping for a new refrigerator for our second kitchen in the in law suite (which we use as bonus room and office and extra kitchen). Stuff has to get done and it would absolutely be wrong for me to peace out all weekend because “my job is harder.”

If the OP works part time, she should certainly do more than her husband. But it doesn’t sound like this guy does much and money doesn’t get him off the hook entirely. It is insane to pretend I’m not rich when I make $500k most years. But it is also nutty for people to think that you can hire help at that level which opts you out of all household matters — you cannot. And I’m not the kind of mom that is over the top about anything parenting related.

You sound exhausting given how much help you have. What do you do? You don't do anything in the house or care for the kids.

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Anonymous wrote:I stopped reading when OP described her real struggle— making meals, surface cleaning, infant, tedium of early motherhood, and a hubs that doesn’t help clean up after the kids are in bed.

She’s unhappy because married for money instead of love. Only true deep love can survive the early years of parenthood.

I did marry my husband for love. Sometimes you need more than love to keep a marriage going. I will agree that adding kids into the mix and been very hard on our marriage. I love my husband and would still marry him all over again.

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Anonymous wrote:OP the only thing I can say for sure is that you are NOT going to be able to do better than what you’ve got right now. Just be grateful that your husband doesn’t realize that he can.

+1 Well said.

Yep. Hold on tight before he realizes he doesn't need to be with a neurotic nag.