Rough sex amongst teens

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Libs are the biggest sex pests

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Anonymous wrote:This is why porn isn’t the harmless whatever “everyone looks at it!!!!11” thing that men and pick-me women always claim it is.

Exactly!! It’s ruined so much. I often look back to times before the mid 90s and think nostalgically - men weren’t ruined yet, those were the best of times.

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Anonymous wrote:Did you read it? Some said they could not speak and they blacked out and therefore could not withdraw consent even if they had given it! Scary that this is your reaction is blaming the girls, and not concern for them and the horribly abusive culture we adults have created.

I am not blaming them but making it clear it is a problem for both sexes. OP was making it about boys only when both boys and girls need to be aware and parents need to speak to both.

Seriously, DID YOU READ IT?!?

Some of these girls have been seriously harmed or even died!!

So? It appears to be consensual. Blaming this on boys is sexist. And wrong.

Is it truly consensual as in something that the girls would want for themselves even if they had never been exposed to porn? Or porn-addled guys asking for it (or just doing it without asking) and then she comes to see it as an expectation/a normal thing?

I’m not blaming it on boys BTW, I’m blaming it on porn.

Motorcycling is more dangerous than erotic asphyxiation.

Some things that feel good are also dangerous.

It's not brainwashing, it's human nature.

Obviously consent is essential and people should be careful.

Just stop. It’s absolutely brainwashing. The average woman does not want to be choked, EVER. I’d like to think the average man also has no intrinsic desire to choke women.

And that’s exactly why I think this is the current pearl-clutcher worry of the moment. Our kids are smarter, more compassionate, kinder, more sexually conservative, than we think they are, and what they statistically should be.

Kids are actually more extreme. There are fewer kids having normal sex, and more kids into kinks or no sex at all.

This. I teach 18-22 year olds about communication in relationships and many of them have said piv sex is out.

I teach middle school and they talk about and seem to be doing oral sex like kissing. It’s crazy.

You mean girls are doing oral like kissing. That’s their currency. Boys are not equally reciprocating.

No that's not the girls' "currency." Currency makes it sound like all girls always are in control of what they give or are asked to give. Oral sex is table stakes for some of these girls if they want to be involved with someone in some circles.

Unless a girl is actually raped, then she absolutely IS in control of “what she gives”. Obviously she can’t control what is asked of her, but she is always free to use that magic word: no.

THIS is what PP’s meant when they said that you need to teach your daughters to have a freaking spine, BTW.

Fair. It is also fair that the double standards, the expectations . . .on girls is MUCH MORE pronounced than it is for boys. I know you know this. And that pressure sometimes wins. You chalking that up to "grow a spine" is repulsive and only part of htat equation. Teach your boys not to put so much pressure, not to expect 17 yos to sex it up like porn stars . . . for a start. They do play a role her too. And you will never convince me otherwise.

How can you teach a boy to not ask for something freely and eagerly given in many cases?

Wait wait wait - are you saying the girls are lunging themselves at the boys begging to give blowjobs? And then in fact how can theses poor pressured boys say no? You can not be serious.

I mean you are all sitting here saying girls besides rape, can and should say no. They shouldn't feel any pressure from boys. So why the F can't boys say no. Why are girls slut shamed but boys are cool. Why should girls say no, but how can these poor boys not say no. I can't believe boy moms think like this. Shame on you

Thank you!! boy moms are the absolute worst. That is why they are terrible MIL

Why are you moms to only daughters so afraid to talk to your girls?

Why do you assume we don't? I know that I absolutely do. It's the opposite that is not happening. It never has. Boy moms thinks only of their boys and do nothing to combat the pressure inherent in the sexual experience (that's the kindest way to put it) that exists for girls.

What is a "boy mom" most people I know have boys AND girls. This is some made up caricature in your mind.

No, it is the passive boy moms who are responsible for not stopping toxic masculinity in society. Boy moms are horrible!

[Anonymous]

How about we stop blaming moms for this and work to squash this disturbing trend by educating both sexes.

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Anonymous wrote:When I was a teen there were news stories about how kids were sticking vodka tampons up their butts, but I never encountered anyone who had done it. There’s just some quota for “troubling teen trend” stories.

Let’s not forget the whole “Tide Pods” phenomenon on TikTok.

That was an actual thing tho

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Anonymous wrote:Did you read it? Some said they could not speak and they blacked out and therefore could not withdraw consent even if they had given it! Scary that this is your reaction is blaming the girls, and not concern for them and the horribly abusive culture we adults have created.

It’s both. Some girls like to choke boys and they aren’t about to say stop as easily as girls They all need to be educated on it.

I’ve been choked for about 10 seconds while walking down a street in a foreign country. Until I got in his car, assaulted and let go. The scariest part was being choked. I don’t understand how that could not be scary with all that weight on you, you have zero control. And people can’t always control themselves especially teens.

[Anonymous]

If you’re one of these “boys will be boys and look at porn” types - you’re part of the problem.

[Anonymous]

This is one of the most disturbing threads on DCUM. The original article and these replies are just shameful.