That's why my last relationship ended which didn't feel like a true relationship |
I know 2 women with herpes and at least a couple with genital warts. All picked up in college and all are married with children. |
Our close family friend was the person who did the initial research leading to this discovery. She had completed her Ph.D and received a research grant for a study on the prevalence of Herpes by sampling cadavers; at the time she was a research scientist employed by the VA. Her initial scientific work revealed a prevalence much greater than 50%. But, we were living in SF at the time, and her sample-size might not have been indicative of the rest of the US. Nearly all people who have had a “cold sore” in/around their mouth technically carry a herpes infection. |
^^^ this all occurred in the early 1970s, BTW. |
I find I respond very suspiciously to any male attention. Husband stopped wanting to have sex 7 years ago after not wanting much before that. I am objectively attractive and of same weight as when I married. Somehow being deprived of all the ‘extras’ in the form of just general male attention makes me not know how to handle it at all. I feel like to survive I just had to shut that part of me down entirely. Multiple reasons I can’t leave yet but definitely going to eventually. He likes to gaslight a lot and pretend that this is normal when I know it’s not. This is not a way to live. |
+1 |
Men are so incredibly myopic and selfish. That's why there are so many out there who try to cajole their wives and girlfriends into having sex just days or weeks after pushing a freaking watermelon out of her vagina. :roll: |
There is more recent 2017 research that shows herpes rates are steadily going down, due to testing, better information about how it spreads and anti virals. It also varies by age (older people are more likely to have it), and race. The stars were shared on this board many times |
If they have genital warts - they should have them treated/removed. Papilloma virus clears on its own after warts are removed in most cases . And do get vaccinated ! |
Why can’t you just get on top and ride him? |
+1. It's like a part of me died. I'm a widow now, and my self-esteem in this area is so low. Mid-50s and quite attractive for my age. I don't know how many years of good sex I have left, so on the one hand, I'm eager, but on the other hand, I don't even trust myself, much less somebody else. |
I mean, maybe that happened. I did not ask them, obviously. |
It makes men emotionally dead and resentful. This is the real reason (some) men cheat in their 40s and 50s. Not judging—I get that menopause sucks for women… but it also sucks for their husbands. You have to be real stoic to get through it, knowing it’s gone for good. |
Yes. This. |
My doctor put me in sertraline, my libido died and that’s what has kept me sane |