Redshirting a March birthday boy

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Anonymous wrote:How is the school getting more money from her? An extra year? I don't believe they look at it that way - either way they'd fill the class, so their total intake is the same either way. They don't have incentive to hold kids back just because. I bet OP's kid is further behind maturity wise than she thinks. Otherwise they'd put the kid in K and keep moving.

Of course they do. How do you not get that?

Because it's very easy to fill the Pre-K and Kinder classes. They don't need this particular kid to fill either class. You don't now how any of this works.

Bless your innocent heart, child.

I'm good. I can see that you're new to this world. The wait lists are a mile long at the good schools. You must not be at a good school. If OP didn't already have a kid at this school her kid would have been rejected

You’re good is right. You’re good at being a naive fool.

I feel sorry for you that you're paying private tuition on a "good school" that has to trick people into paying an extra year in tuition.

So, you now admit that this does happen.

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Anonymous wrote:How is the school getting more money from her? An extra year? I don't believe they look at it that way - either way they'd fill the class, so their total intake is the same either way. They don't have incentive to hold kids back just because. I bet OP's kid is further behind maturity wise than she thinks. Otherwise they'd put the kid in K and keep moving.

Of course they do. How do you not get that?

Because it's very easy to fill the Pre-K and Kinder classes. They don't need this particular kid to fill either class. You don't now how any of this works.

Bless your innocent heart, child.

I'm good. I can see that you're new to this world. The wait lists are a mile long at the good schools. You must not be at a good school. If OP didn't already have a kid at this school her kid would have been rejected

You’re good is right. You’re good at being a naive fool.

I feel sorry for you that you're paying private tuition on a "good school" that has to trick people into paying an extra year in tuition.

So, you now admit that this does happen.

Schools hand pick their classes. They do this to optimize the class so it skews older not because they are playing shell games to maximize tuition. The school makes the same either way. Explain how the school makes more money? Where’s the scam?

[Anonymous]

Redshirting a kid with a March birthday seems excessive, absent some particular issue.

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OP here. We applied for PK and were told to wait another and keep in preschool for the PK year.

Also, our school is pretty popular and has very long waitlists so I am 110% sure money has nothing to do with it.

Finally, I am sure my son would have been rejected had he not been a sibling. He just does not stand out in any of the ways his older sister (first to attend the school) did.

I spoke to other parents and it seems the school is being really tough on boys lately… not sure. I have also heard that they are trying to increase diversity and we are white.

Again, while my son is probably not a genius, I don’t see what the admission people saw in him that his current teachers did not see in 6 months. I will try to push back and see if there is room for compromise (let him start in K and then we hold back next year if he does not meet requirements).

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Anonymous wrote:OP here. We applied for PK and were told to wait another and keep in preschool for the PK year.

Also, our school is pretty popular and has very long waitlists so I am 110% sure money has nothing to do with it.

Finally, I am sure my son would have been rejected had he not been a sibling. He just does not stand out in any of the ways his older sister (first to attend the school) did.

I spoke to other parents and it seems the school is being really tough on boys lately… not sure. I have also heard that they are trying to increase diversity and we are white.

Again, while my son is probably not a genius, I don’t see what the admission people saw in him that his current teachers did not see in 6 months. I will try to push back and see if there is room for compromise (let him start in K and then we hold back next year if he does not meet requirements).

So, you hold him back a year so they can take other kids they'd prefer to take and he doesn't get accepted the next year. Then what? It seems better to put your child at a school that wants him for him.

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What school is this?

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Anonymous wrote:Hi, private school parent here who redshirted a summer birthday. One of his friends is a redshirted spring birthday. No one cares. One thing about starting in PK or K is that the kids all know each other. Social groups are well established before that stuff is on their radar. It’s a non-issue.

And I can’t help but laugh at everyone who says that they’re trying to bill you for extra money. They are not. We were recommended for an extra year when we were on a ton of financial aid. They definitely lost money on us. Believe me, as another poster said, they filled their classes just fine. They don’t have to try and squeeze an extra year’s tuition out of anyone.

Your child must be young. The kids definitely talk about it by 3rd/4th grade and I’m sure your child will be asked why he was “held back” and it will be implied he’s stupid. This always happens. How naive to think that because kids went to the same preschool and their moms volunteered together on the PTA that they will not be aware of Larlo being 1.5 or 1 year older than the vast majority of the class. Ask me how I know.

Nope! My kid is now 15. Perhaps the difference is that it’s normal in our school to redshirt summer birthdays (probably 90%) so the difference between them and the rarer spring redshirts isn’t that huge. But the kids really do not care. The spring redshirt kid isn’t “1.5 years older than the vast majority of the class”. He’s the oldest in his class by 3 months. That’s not enough of a difference for anyone to get excited about. It is just not a big deal. I’m not sure what else I can say.

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Anonymous wrote:Hi, private school parent here who redshirted a summer birthday. One of his friends is a redshirted spring birthday. No one cares. One thing about starting in PK or K is that the kids all know each other. Social groups are well established before that stuff is on their radar. It’s a non-issue.

And I can’t help but laugh at everyone who says that they’re trying to bill you for extra money. They are not. We were recommended for an extra year when we were on a ton of financial aid. They definitely lost money on us. Believe me, as another poster said, they filled their classes just fine. They don’t have to try and squeeze an extra year’s tuition out of anyone.

Your child must be young. The kids definitely talk about it by 3rd/4th grade and I’m sure your child will be asked why he was “held back” and it will be implied he’s stupid. This always happens. How naive to think that because kids went to the same preschool and their moms volunteered together on the PTA that they will not be aware of Larlo being 1.5 or 1 year older than the vast majority of the class. Ask me how I know.

Nope! My kid is now 15. Perhaps the difference is that it’s normal in our school to redshirt summer birthdays (probably 90%) so the difference between them and the rarer spring redshirts isn’t that huge. But the kids really do not care. The spring redshirt kid isn’t “1.5 years older than the vast majority of the class”. He’s the oldest in his class by 3 months. That’s not enough of a difference for anyone to get excited about. It is just not a big deal. I’m not sure what else I can say.

Agree. Mine is 13. Nobody asks or cares because its so common.

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Anonymous wrote:Hi, private school parent here who redshirted a summer birthday. One of his friends is a redshirted spring birthday. No one cares. One thing about starting in PK or K is that the kids all know each other. Social groups are well established before that stuff is on their radar. It’s a non-issue.

And I can’t help but laugh at everyone who says that they’re trying to bill you for extra money. They are not. We were recommended for an extra year when we were on a ton of financial aid. They definitely lost money on us. Believe me, as another poster said, they filled their classes just fine. They don’t have to try and squeeze an extra year’s tuition out of anyone.

Your child must be young. The kids definitely talk about it by 3rd/4th grade and I’m sure your child will be asked why he was “held back” and it will be implied he’s stupid. This always happens. How naive to think that because kids went to the same preschool and their moms volunteered together on the PTA that they will not be aware of Larlo being 1.5 or 1 year older than the vast majority of the class. Ask me how I know.

Nope! My kid is now 15. Perhaps the difference is that it’s normal in our school to redshirt summer birthdays (probably 90%) so the difference between them and the rarer spring redshirts isn’t that huge. But the kids really do not care. The spring redshirt kid isn’t “1.5 years older than the vast majority of the class”. He’s the oldest in his class by 3 months. That’s not enough of a difference for anyone to get excited about. It is just not a big deal. I’m not sure what else I can say.

+1

My kids range the gamut from youngest in class to oldest by a lot (not because of redshirting, but because of the difference in cutoff dates between different schools). None of them have reported or talked about any of the weird issues that the anti-redshirt posters say happens all the time. They literally do not care. They have been friends with kids a year younger and a year older than them. Now late teens and young adults.

I showed them the DCUM redshirt threads once and the oldest looked at me and said “Those moms are crazy.” 🤪

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Anonymous wrote:Hi, private school parent here who redshirted a summer birthday. One of his friends is a redshirted spring birthday. No one cares. One thing about starting in PK or K is that the kids all know each other. Social groups are well established before that stuff is on their radar. It’s a non-issue.

And I can’t help but laugh at everyone who says that they’re trying to bill you for extra money. They are not. We were recommended for an extra year when we were on a ton of financial aid. They definitely lost money on us. Believe me, as another poster said, they filled their classes just fine. They don’t have to try and squeeze an extra year’s tuition out of anyone.

Your child must be young. The kids definitely talk about it by 3rd/4th grade and I’m sure your child will be asked why he was “held back” and it will be implied he’s stupid. This always happens. How naive to think that because kids went to the same preschool and their moms volunteered together on the PTA that they will not be aware of Larlo being 1.5 or 1 year older than the vast majority of the class. Ask me how I know.

Nope! My kid is now 15. Perhaps the difference is that it’s normal in our school to redshirt summer birthdays (probably 90%) so the difference between them and the rarer spring redshirts isn’t that huge. But the kids really do not care. The spring redshirt kid isn’t “1.5 years older than the vast majority of the class”. He’s the oldest in his class by 3 months. That’s not enough of a difference for anyone to get excited about. It is just not a big deal. I’m not sure what else I can say.

Maybe in privates but in public I’d talked about and kids do care.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Hi, private school parent here who redshirted a summer birthday. One of his friends is a redshirted spring birthday. No one cares. One thing about starting in PK or K is that the kids all know each other. Social groups are well established before that stuff is on their radar. It’s a non-issue.

And I can’t help but laugh at everyone who says that they’re trying to bill you for extra money. They are not. We were recommended for an extra year when we were on a ton of financial aid. They definitely lost money on us. Believe me, as another poster said, they filled their classes just fine. They don’t have to try and squeeze an extra year’s tuition out of anyone.

Your child must be young. The kids definitely talk about it by 3rd/4th grade and I’m sure your child will be asked why he was “held back” and it will be implied he’s stupid. This always happens. How naive to think that because kids went to the same preschool and their moms volunteered together on the PTA that they will not be aware of Larlo being 1.5 or 1 year older than the vast majority of the class. Ask me how I know.

Nope! My kid is now 15. Perhaps the difference is that it’s normal in our school to redshirt summer birthdays (probably 90%) so the difference between them and the rarer spring redshirts isn’t that huge. But the kids really do not care. The spring redshirt kid isn’t “1.5 years older than the vast majority of the class”. He’s the oldest in his class by 3 months. That’s not enough of a difference for anyone to get excited about. It is just not a big deal. I’m not sure what else I can say.

Agree. Mine is 13. Nobody asks or cares because its so common.

It is not that common and yes kids talk.

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Anonymous wrote:Hi, private school parent here who redshirted a summer birthday. One of his friends is a redshirted spring birthday. No one cares. One thing about starting in PK or K is that the kids all know each other. Social groups are well established before that stuff is on their radar. It’s a non-issue.

And I can’t help but laugh at everyone who says that they’re trying to bill you for extra money. They are not. We were recommended for an extra year when we were on a ton of financial aid. They definitely lost money on us. Believe me, as another poster said, they filled their classes just fine. They don’t have to try and squeeze an extra year’s tuition out of anyone.

Your child must be young. The kids definitely talk about it by 3rd/4th grade and I’m sure your child will be asked why he was “held back” and it will be implied he’s stupid. This always happens. How naive to think that because kids went to the same preschool and their moms volunteered together on the PTA that they will not be aware of Larlo being 1.5 or 1 year older than the vast majority of the class. Ask me how I know.

Nope! My kid is now 15. Perhaps the difference is that it’s normal in our school to redshirt summer birthdays (probably 90%) so the difference between them and the rarer spring redshirts isn’t that huge. But the kids really do not care. The spring redshirt kid isn’t “1.5 years older than the vast majority of the class”. He’s the oldest in his class by 3 months. That’s not enough of a difference for anyone to get excited about. It is just not a big deal. I’m not sure what else I can say.

Agree. Mine is 13. Nobody asks or cares because its so common.

It is not that common and yes kids talk.

Maybe in your bubble but don’t pretend to speak for others.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Hi, private school parent here who redshirted a summer birthday. One of his friends is a redshirted spring birthday. No one cares. One thing about starting in PK or K is that the kids all know each other. Social groups are well established before that stuff is on their radar. It’s a non-issue.

And I can’t help but laugh at everyone who says that they’re trying to bill you for extra money. They are not. We were recommended for an extra year when we were on a ton of financial aid. They definitely lost money on us. Believe me, as another poster said, they filled their classes just fine. They don’t have to try and squeeze an extra year’s tuition out of anyone.

Your child must be young. The kids definitely talk about it by 3rd/4th grade and I’m sure your child will be asked why he was “held back” and it will be implied he’s stupid. This always happens. How naive to think that because kids went to the same preschool and their moms volunteered together on the PTA that they will not be aware of Larlo being 1.5 or 1 year older than the vast majority of the class. Ask me how I know.

Nope! My kid is now 15. Perhaps the difference is that it’s normal in our school to redshirt summer birthdays (probably 90%) so the difference between them and the rarer spring redshirts isn’t that huge. But the kids really do not care. The spring redshirt kid isn’t “1.5 years older than the vast majority of the class”. He’s the oldest in his class by 3 months. That’s not enough of a difference for anyone to get excited about. It is just not a big deal. I’m not sure what else I can say.

Maybe in privates but in public I’d talked about and kids do care.

This is the private school forum. Are you lost?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Hi, private school parent here who redshirted a summer birthday. One of his friends is a redshirted spring birthday. No one cares. One thing about starting in PK or K is that the kids all know each other. Social groups are well established before that stuff is on their radar. It’s a non-issue.

And I can’t help but laugh at everyone who says that they’re trying to bill you for extra money. They are not. We were recommended for an extra year when we were on a ton of financial aid. They definitely lost money on us. Believe me, as another poster said, they filled their classes just fine. They don’t have to try and squeeze an extra year’s tuition out of anyone.

Your child must be young. The kids definitely talk about it by 3rd/4th grade and I’m sure your child will be asked why he was “held back” and it will be implied he’s stupid. This always happens. How naive to think that because kids went to the same preschool and their moms volunteered together on the PTA that they will not be aware of Larlo being 1.5 or 1 year older than the vast majority of the class. Ask me how I know.

Nope! My kid is now 15. Perhaps the difference is that it’s normal in our school to redshirt summer birthdays (probably 90%) so the difference between them and the rarer spring redshirts isn’t that huge. But the kids really do not care. The spring redshirt kid isn’t “1.5 years older than the vast majority of the class”. He’s the oldest in his class by 3 months. That’s not enough of a difference for anyone to get excited about. It is just not a big deal. I’m not sure what else I can say.

Maybe in privates but in public I’d talked about and kids do care.

Okay? This discussion isn’t about public schools. In private schools I assure you it is NBD.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Hi, private school parent here who redshirted a summer birthday. One of his friends is a redshirted spring birthday. No one cares. One thing about starting in PK or K is that the kids all know each other. Social groups are well established before that stuff is on their radar. It’s a non-issue.

And I can’t help but laugh at everyone who says that they’re trying to bill you for extra money. They are not. We were recommended for an extra year when we were on a ton of financial aid. They definitely lost money on us. Believe me, as another poster said, they filled their classes just fine. They don’t have to try and squeeze an extra year’s tuition out of anyone.

Your child must be young. The kids definitely talk about it by 3rd/4th grade and I’m sure your child will be asked why he was “held back” and it will be implied he’s stupid. This always happens. How naive to think that because kids went to the same preschool and their moms volunteered together on the PTA that they will not be aware of Larlo being 1.5 or 1 year older than the vast majority of the class. Ask me how I know.

Nope! My kid is now 15. Perhaps the difference is that it’s normal in our school to redshirt summer birthdays (probably 90%) so the difference between them and the rarer spring redshirts isn’t that huge. But the kids really do not care. The spring redshirt kid isn’t “1.5 years older than the vast majority of the class”. He’s the oldest in his class by 3 months. That’s not enough of a difference for anyone to get excited about. It is just not a big deal. I’m not sure what else I can say.

Maybe in privates but in public I’d talked about and kids do care.

I have had kids in public and private and no kids care. At least, no kids without the weird parents. It is true that occasionally some of the weird kids with the badly socialized moms everyone avoided would try to use age as a bullying technique sometimes. It failed, of course, but they did sometimes try.