DS given melatonin gummies as prank by “friends at sleepover

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The coach is not responsible.

The event was held at a parents house.

This was not a sporting event.

This is strictly on the parent who hosted the party and the boys who drugged your son.

It was a group camp out for the members of the team. Coach needs to know what happened because this is pretty close to a hazing situation, is bullying, and is going to severely impact the team.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The coach is not responsible.

The event was held at a parents house.

This was not a sporting event.

This is strictly on the parent who hosted the party and the boys who drugged your son.

It was a group camp out for the members of the team. Coach needs to know what happened because this is pretty close to a hazing situation, is bullying, and is going to severely impact the team.

+1 The coach needs to know too.

[Anonymous]

In so sorry for your kid. Help him find new friends and a new team.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The coach is not responsible.

The event was held at a parents house.

This was not a sporting event.

This is strictly on the parent who hosted the party and the boys who drugged your son.

There is a difference between responsible (at fault) and having a stake. A coach should want to know and can fairly choose to take action once he knows.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:File a police report. Ruin their lives.

Their lives will not be ruined at the age they are, but absolutely the OP should be filing a police report ASAP.

Dosing another person with any kind of drug is ASSAULT. Period. Kids of this age know well enough to know this. They assaulted your son knowingly and intentionally.

Yes, their frontal lobes have not fully developed. Because of that they will be handled in a juvenile justice system that provides for rehabilitation and expungement so they can start their adult lives as if nothing happened - but hopefully having since developed a conscience that will keep them from doing psychopathic things to other people once they are adults.

This is absolutely not something that the offenders’ parents should be handling in house. It was a serious assault and if they’d been stupid enough to use something stronger, you could be planning your son’s funeral arrangements, I hope you understand that.

Think about it very carefully before you decide to let these budding date rapists etc. go blithely along without very serious consequences for this ASSAULT on your son.

I’m a former prosecutor who worked extensively in the juvenile justice system and have seen UMC kids do heinous things and get rehabilitated by accountability. You need to recognize that there are plenty of shit UMC parents. The system exists to protect society from kids who either aren’t learning values at home, or have some defect of personality that the values aren’t taking root because of course sometimes good parents raise a criminal.

Call the police. An officer will come to your house and the process will go from there.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Np. I am so sorry this happened. My thoughts:

1. Tell the school. I’m no longer in DMV but at our public kids can be disciplined for activities that take place outside school. They may be able to help determine whether anything has been uploaded to social media.

You also don’t want your kid to have any classes with these boys and they should have different lunch periods.

2. Tell the coach. He has a problem on his team and needs to know.

3. Tell the parents. I like the idea of a group email to all of them. You shouldn’t have to send 14 separate emails.

4. Help for your son: therapist to process the incident and confirm it was not his fault. Also, to increase confidence so he learns that these guys are not his friends and that he should not aspire to be friends with him.

Good luck and please keep us posted. Your kid sounds awesome and he does not need to hang out with these jerks.

This is unnecessary and very likely impossible.

Restraining order

At that point it’s easier to switch schools.

[Anonymous]

Tell all the parents. Tell the coach. Get your son some counseling to deal with the inevitable fall out of losing a social group that he wanted to be a part of.

When I read the title of the post, I thought "I would take that as a teaching moment and remind my son never to ingest something if he doesn't know what it is, etc." Reading your description of the event absolutely changes that initial reaction. This group of boys - all of them, the instigators and the bystanders - needs to learn NOW that this is dangerous behavior.

Frankly, if I were a parent of one of the boys who did this or stood by, I would pull my son off the team as a consequence to this sort of action. No matter how good at soccer he was.

[Anonymous]

OP, I'm so sorry this happened. These are the types of scenarios that keep me up some nights. FWIW, I agree with nearly everyone here, you have to tell the parents, coach, and police. This was a crime, and you can't count on other parents to discipline their children accordingly once they find out. Most likely, they will circle ranks and defend them. There is a chance for these boys to learn from their mistakes and be held accountable. If they aren't, it will just be a matter of time until they do it (or worse) again. I wish you luck and am keeping your family in my thoughts, I'm so sorry you have to deal with this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your DS don’t want you to contact the other kids’ parents so I wouldn’t. Don’t dismss his request. I had a similar situation and didn’t listen to my DS, we ended having to leave the school because he got branded. He struggled at the next school.. for us it wasn’t worth not listening to our child

This is horrible advice.

+1. OP’s son’s desire to sweep it under the rug is the same desire that sexual abuse victims have of not rocking the boat. If you allow your child to be violated and say nothing, you are setting the precedent for them to be silent the next time something happens.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The coach is not responsible.

The event was held at a parents house.

This was not a sporting event.

This is strictly on the parent who hosted the party and the boys who drugged your son.

There is a difference between responsible (at fault) and having a stake. A coach should want to know and can fairly choose to take action once he knows.

The coach also needs to know what the kids on his team are capable of.

[Anonymous]

The boys will be the same one trying to slip something into girls' drinks at frat parties. Go to the police, these kids drugged your son and need to get in real trouble.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would actually contact the parents to confirm that it was “just” melatonin. He was given drug laced gummies and later told it was melatonin but how do you actually know it wasn’t something else.

He son was drug tested at urgent care. OP said that in her post.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The coach is not responsible.

The event was held at a parents house.

This was not a sporting event.

This is strictly on the parent who hosted the party and the boys who drugged your son.

There is a difference between responsible (at fault) and having a stake. A coach should want to know and can fairly choose to take action once he knows.

The coach also needs to know what the kids on his team are capable of.

Yes! Such disgusting behavior and it shouldn’t be tolerated.

[Anonymous]

OP my heart breaks for your son. Sadly his reaction shows that he doesn’t get how serious this is or that those friendships never existed and definitely no longer do.

I would be careful about implicating all of them. The one you are surprised about may well not have known. For all you know he could also have been a victim or attempted victim. When I was 13 something equally nefarious happened at a sleepover. I didn’t really want to be there and could tell the girls were up to something so I had actually left the basement sleepover bday party and gone up to sleep in the guest room. I went home in the am oblivious to what had happened. The victims parents called the principal who brought everyone in and assumed guilty until the details were teased out and kids cracked and told everything. It actually made the victim feel empowered when she saw the supposed tight group of cool girls turn on each other. She saw them for what they were.

You need to send an email to all of the other parents. If it was the entire soccer team then I’d also send an email to the coach and pull my son off. Is this for a team finishing up the year or just beginning?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Melatonin is not dangerous at all.

Anything can be dangerous if you misuse it dummy.