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Agreed. But I assume most idiots don’t know what OCD actually is. |
OP sounds a bit unhinged herself. |
As an adult with OCD I found it funny. |
I have three kids and am a bit confused by OP’s constant need for water by her side. In any case, just use your water bottle. When you step away, (1) take it with you or (2) place in fridge or bag. Not difficult or something to get worked up over. |
Really glad my family is not as anal retentive as some of these posters!!! |
Oh, I just know these are the same in-laws that have closed kitchens and meager portions. I live for those threads during the holidays. As an Italian-American whose cultural standard is excessive food for guests, I find these reports endlessly fascinating. I think it would make an interesting documentary. |
Get a Camelbak and wear it all day. That will show them who's boss! |
Hahaha +1. My MIL is like this, but my husband tells her these are our water glasses for the day, we will keep them by the sink, please don’t bother washing them because we plan to keep using them. She respects that because she’s not mentally ill. Glad I don’t know any other water glass snatching nutballs. |
At my in-laws I keep my water bottle in my purse - a large tote - and just keep the tote with me. That way no one throws out my water bottle, and they don't have to tolerate the horror of seeing a plastic bottle. |
When people come to my house, they all usually get their own water glass plus often a wine glass, coffee or tea cup, or other cup. We don’t pick up the glasses and cups until everyone leaves. It’s up to each guest to keep track of their glasses while they’re here. If they forget, they can grab a new one.
It’s rude to keep collecting people’s glasses if they move away to use the bathroom, talk to a different guest, etc. It’s inhospitable. |
It’s their house and it’s the MIL so is she supposed to tell MIL she’s rude and inhospitable? Just keep the water in your bag when not in use. |
Just get a new glass every time. My mil gets mad at me for doing this but a cup sitting on my counter for hours annoys me. I keep my home clutter free, we clean up after every meal or snack. She will leave her coffee up on the counter and come back to drink it 3 or 4 hours later. We don't leave clutter out. I would prefer just getting a new cup and pouring another cup of coffee. She hates washing dishes and feels I do also.
My best friend gets annoyed when sharing a beach house with my family because my family uses about 5 glasses each a day. Her family has water bottles that they use all day, we generally only use water bottles if we are away from home. Every house is different just adjust op. Going into your room may be extreme especially for a short trip. |
DP. No, MIL is unhospitable whether or not anyone says anything. Maybe not raised right, maybe mental problems or even dementia. Regardless, inhospitable behavior, and likely not going to change at this late stage. |
If the MIL actually has OCD, I would be more sympathetic toward her behavior. However, I think she's actually just lacking boundaries and rude. Ithink most of what is on this thread is just people discussing preferences. |