Can’t have water, apparently

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Anonymous wrote:This thread is on its way to being a classic. Who knew this topic would bring the responses it has!

I honestly can’t believe people are defending MIL going into a bedroom and removing someone’s own water bottle that they brought themselves.

Has someone defended that? I just see people arguing about the glasses around the house.

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Anonymous wrote:Ime the older generation doesn’t understand the constant need to drink water. I swear some of my family are really camels. 8 8oz glasses of water a day was a recommendation within the last 2ish decades and I think has been debunked.

Normally I’d say that they view you having a glass of water out as leaving a mess. But that doesn’t explain the water bottle. That just seems vindictive because it’s not in their line of site and it’s not like they are missing a glass that needs to be washed.

Needing to constantly drink water isn't good. Could be a sign of diabetes. Or in OPs case gestational diabetes.

I think it becomes a habit for people, not necessarily that they MUST have water because of a medical need.

But pregnant women do need more water than they would normally drink. It’s easy to become dehydrated when you’re pregnant.

But OP says to leave her cup there so she can refill. Sounds like she's leaving empty cups around. Which isn't really necessary. She's in a home with constant access to water. It's not hard to get a new cup and put the previous one in the sink when she's thirsty. There isn't a shortage of water or cups.

How do you know how many cups there are? OP isn’t intending to dirty multiple cups and “leave them around.” She is using ONE cup. As any guest may do in the home of any semi-decent host. She’s even trying to keep it out of the way in the guest bedroom.

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I asked them to please leave my water cups alone so I could refill, and they said “we don’t keep cups and glasses out.”

I assume you know that "cupS" implies more than one?

And I assume YOU know that:
1) It’s a multi-day visit (stated in the original post) so more than one day at this house = more than one cup will be used
2) Because they keep taking the one glass she is trying to keep, she has to get another one. Moron.

She has to get another one? Oh Lord. Sounds like torture. She will have to walk a few feet to take another tiny sip of water in a different glass.

Out of curiosity if someone was sitting in chair sipping water and they put the glass down (with water still in it) to get up to go to the bathroom. What would you do?

It depends on the person. If it's one of my kids I know they're not coming back to finish that drink. So I clean it up or put it in the fridge for later. They will also tell me "they aren't done yet" which is just a way of getting out of cleaning up after themselves. Only the in-laws know what OPs habits are and why are they responding the way they are.

NP. Same question, but it’s an adult houseguest. Let’s say it was cocktail hour before a dinner party in your home. Someone has a glass of water they are actively drinking. They excuse themselves for the powder room but will be back in a moment. What would you do?

Usually glasses would be cleaned up. If I set down my glass and come back I can't be sure someone didn't take a sip or confuse it with another one. If I was to leave I would ask my husband to hold my glass. I wouldn't put it down and expect it to be there when I got back.

You can’t be serious. If I were sitting around a living room with friends at a dinner party and asked my husband to hold my glass for me while I visited the restroom for three minutes, he would look at me like I had two heads. What, you think someone’s going to roofie your drink at someone’s house in Bethesda?

Sorry I didn't give you the answer you were looking for.

Sorry you are mentally unstable and don’t know how to host or act semi-normal in social settings.

Luckily I don't know slobs who leave cups lying about waiting for kids or dogs to know them over. You do you.

Way to try to move the goalposts, but nope. We were talking about cocktail hour before a dinner party. You tried so hard, though! I’m kind of getting that something is “off” with you, so no need to respond.

DP. Actually, you are not coming off any better here. You are very aggressive and nasty in your posts. Perhaps go take a walk? Why has this topic got you so worked up?

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Anonymous wrote:This thread is on its way to being a classic. Who knew this topic would bring the responses it has!

I honestly can’t believe people are defending MIL going into a bedroom and removing someone’s own water bottle that they brought themselves.

The OCD nutballs are like a dog with a bone. They will defend their rude behavior til death!

As the parent of an child with OCD, you can take your attempt at a funny insult and shove it so far up your rear end it comes out your nose. D-bag.

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Anonymous wrote:They sell water bottle straps.

That said this is insane have they said why they are like this. Seems very strange.

A pregnant woman does not to lug around a water bottle on her body all day.

You must have missed the part where OP put her water bottle in the guest bedroom where she was staying and MIL retrieved it and washed it. That’s not lugging it around.

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Anonymous wrote:This thread is on its way to being a classic. Who knew this topic would bring the responses it has!

I honestly can’t believe people are defending MIL going into a bedroom and removing someone’s own water bottle that they brought themselves.

Has someone defended that? I just see people arguing about the glasses around the house.

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Anonymous wrote:Jeez. Why don’t you just put the water bottle inside your purse/backpack and zip it up? They like a neat house and are afraid about slippery slope (starts with one unwashed item, leads to more). It’s their house and they’re your DH’s parents who you have to deal with more than once.

And if she can have a water bottle, it certainly can't be anywhere except in the kitchen.

Anonymous wrote:I have to wonder if all these posts are fake. We don't allow water/drinks all over the house. Keep a bottle in the kitchen or fridge.

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Anonymous wrote:WTF? That’s bizarre OP. I’d leave. They don’t seem well.

+1

I'd leave.

Another +1. The ILs are being ridiculous.

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Anonymous wrote:Ime the older generation doesn’t understand the constant need to drink water. I swear some of my family are really camels. 8 8oz glasses of water a day was a recommendation within the last 2ish decades and I think has been debunked.

Normally I’d say that they view you having a glass of water out as leaving a mess. But that doesn’t explain the water bottle. That just seems vindictive because it’s not in their line of site and it’s not like they are missing a glass that needs to be washed.

Needing to constantly drink water isn't good. Could be a sign of diabetes. Or in OPs case gestational diabetes.

You sound dehydrated. Have some refreshing water.

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Anonymous wrote:Ime the older generation doesn’t understand the constant need to drink water. I swear some of my family are really camels. 8 8oz glasses of water a day was a recommendation within the last 2ish decades and I think has been debunked.

Normally I’d say that they view you having a glass of water out as leaving a mess. But that doesn’t explain the water bottle. That just seems vindictive because it’s not in their line of site and it’s not like they are missing a glass that needs to be washed.

Needing to constantly drink water isn't good. Could be a sign of diabetes. Or in OPs case gestational diabetes.

OP is pregnant! Water is super important.

Not chugging water constantly.

NP. The whole point of OP having an active glass or bottle of water is that she isn’t “chugging” it, moron. She is taking a few sips, setting it down, and coming back to it later. Did I go slow enough for you to follow along? Did I confound you with too much logic? You really are stupid, aren’t you?

They clearly have trouble with reading comprehension. Dehydration can cause brain fog, so it’s understandable.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, you can't be so thirsty that you have to have a glass of water nearby at all times. Just drink at the sink when you need to.

This is not the hill to die on.

What universe do you live in that, when you have guests, they don’t each have their own glass, to refill as needed? Good god.

How does that work? You issue each guest a glass upon arrival? And you're cool with them leaving that glass anywhere (I'm guessing it's monogrammed or something so each guest knows which randomly placed glass is theirs to refill as needed?)

I'm saying OP is overstating her need for constant water on demand -- she could just go drink a glass of water when she's thirsty and put the glass in the dishwasher as MIL prefers.

This business of always having water by your side is a very recent thing. Once upon a time, we drank a glass of water and that was it. We didn't need to continually sip at a nasty, bacteria laden $100 thermos all day long.

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Anonymous wrote:Ime the older generation doesn’t understand the constant need to drink water. I swear some of my family are really camels. 8 8oz glasses of water a day was a recommendation within the last 2ish decades and I think has been debunked.

Normally I’d say that they view you having a glass of water out as leaving a mess. But that doesn’t explain the water bottle. That just seems vindictive because it’s not in their line of site and it’s not like they are missing a glass that needs to be washed.

Needing to constantly drink water isn't good. Could be a sign of diabetes. Or in OPs case gestational diabetes.

I think it becomes a habit for people, not necessarily that they MUST have water because of a medical need.

But pregnant women do need more water than they would normally drink. It’s easy to become dehydrated when you’re pregnant.

But OP says to leave her cup there so she can refill. Sounds like she's leaving empty cups around. Which isn't really necessary. She's in a home with constant access to water. It's not hard to get a new cup and put the previous one in the sink when she's thirsty. There isn't a shortage of water or cups.

How do you know how many cups there are? OP isn’t intending to dirty multiple cups and “leave them around.” She is using ONE cup. As any guest may do in the home of any semi-decent host. She’s even trying to keep it out of the way in the guest bedroom.

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I asked them to please leave my water cups alone so I could refill, and they said “we don’t keep cups and glasses out.”

I assume you know that "cupS" implies more than one?

And I assume YOU know that:
1) It’s a multi-day visit (stated in the original post) so more than one day at this house = more than one cup will be used
2) Because they keep taking the one glass she is trying to keep, she has to get another one. Moron.

She has to get another one? Oh Lord. Sounds like torture. She will have to walk a few feet to take another tiny sip of water in a different glass.

Out of curiosity if someone was sitting in chair sipping water and they put the glass down (with water still in it) to get up to go to the bathroom. What would you do?

It depends on the person. If it's one of my kids I know they're not coming back to finish that drink. So I clean it up or put it in the fridge for later. They will also tell me "they aren't done yet" which is just a way of getting out of cleaning up after themselves. Only the in-laws know what OPs habits are and why are they responding the way they are.

NP. Same question, but it’s an adult houseguest. Let’s say it was cocktail hour before a dinner party in your home. Someone has a glass of water they are actively drinking. They excuse themselves for the powder room but will be back in a moment. What would you do?

Usually glasses would be cleaned up. If I set down my glass and come back I can't be sure someone didn't take a sip or confuse it with another one. If I was to leave I would ask my husband to hold my glass. I wouldn't put it down and expect it to be there when I got back.

You can’t be serious. If I were sitting around a living room with friends at a dinner party and asked my husband to hold my glass for me while I visited the restroom for three minutes, he would look at me like I had two heads. What, you think someone’s going to roofie your drink at someone’s house in Bethesda?

Sorry I didn't give you the answer you were looking for.

Sorry you are mentally unstable and don’t know how to host or act semi-normal in social settings.

Luckily I don't know slobs who leave cups lying about waiting for kids or dogs to know them over. You do you.

Of course you don’t know anyone. No one wants to be around you.

Keep trying. But OP announces to the room that she won't be deprived of her personal water bottle is rude. Instead of just following a basic rule of the house she's a guest in. But, manners and polite tones aren't really your thing. I get it.

Every time you post one of these adolescent level snotty retorts, you embarrass yourself further. Please, do continue (as I know you will, because you just can’t help yourself). It’s fun to watch.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, you need one of these:

https://www.amazon.com/CamelBak-HydroBak-Reservoir-Hydration-Graphite/dp/B01L8JENFO/ref=asc_df_B01L8JENFO/?tag=hyprod-20&linkCode=df0&hvadid=167126940649&hvpos=&hvnetw=g&hvrand=16682241393792644210&hvpone=&hvptwo=&hvqmt=&hvdev=c&hvdvcmdl=&hvlocint=&hvlocphy=9008062&hvtargid=pla-307620037577&psc=1

I love it! Camelbak or a beer helmet, but with water bottles instead of beers.

What about one of those gag gift beer helmets from the 80s, where it’s a baseball cap with holders on each side for a can and two straws that bend down to the mouth?

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Anonymous wrote:Tell your dh you guys are going to stay at a hotel. Mil wants to play those games gotta nip it in the bud before the baby comes.

Absolutely agree. They are rude and bad hosts. Set the precedent now. Hotels only.

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Anonymous wrote:Wow! My mom does this but switching to a water bottle fixed it. This is a lot.

Just do what you need to do, including getting a new glass every time.

My FIL did this taking a glass all the time too… I just always get a new glass. For FIL, it’s an OCD thing to wash dishes. So, with me there, he just has extra glasses!

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Anonymous wrote:Ime the older generation doesn’t understand the constant need to drink water. I swear some of my family are really camels. 8 8oz glasses of water a day was a recommendation within the last 2ish decades and I think has been debunked.

Normally I’d say that they view you having a glass of water out as leaving a mess. But that doesn’t explain the water bottle. That just seems vindictive because it’s not in their line of site and it’s not like they are missing a glass that needs to be washed.

Needing to constantly drink water isn't good. Could be a sign of diabetes. Or in OPs case gestational diabetes.

You sound dehydrated. Have some refreshing water.

Pregnant women especially need to stay hydrated. Dehydration can lead to premature labor. DH and I would have been out of there with the first glass removed. Obstetrics nurse told me to keep a glass of water beside my bed every night and I still bring one every night 20 years later.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, you can't be so thirsty that you have to have a glass of water nearby at all times. Just drink at the sink when you need to.

This is not the hill to die on.

What universe do you live in that, when you have guests, they don’t each have their own glass, to refill as needed? Good god.

How does that work? You issue each guest a glass upon arrival? And you're cool with them leaving that glass anywhere (I'm guessing it's monogrammed or something so each guest knows which randomly placed glass is theirs to refill as needed?)

I'm saying OP is overstating her need for constant water on demand -- she could just go drink a glass of water when she's thirsty and put the glass in the dishwasher as MIL prefers.

This business of always having water by your side is a very recent thing. Once upon a time, we drank a glass of water and that was it. We didn't need to continually sip at a nasty, bacteria laden $100 thermos all day long.

Weirdo