What’s more attractive: fit/athletic or just thin?
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Anonymous
Swimming is actually non-endurance sport relative other sports. You took only one sport (weight lifting which is a very specific exception from most other sports) and said that other athletes are less strong than you. In reality, most sports are endurance related and require a lot of cardio training. Adding extra weight/bulk is a disaster for many sports - skiing, basketball, tennis, swimming etc. Mobility in all sports is very important. If you look at top tennis players (Andre Agassi, Rafael Nadal, Novak Djokovic) they are between 6 ft - 6'3 ft tall and are all extremely light! Around 180-190 lbs at a max Kobe Bryant was 6'6 210 pounds. It's the shortest basketball player I could find similar to your height and even him is way lighter than your 235 lbs! Other basketball players would be 7 ft tall to be your weight! |
Anonymous
Completely different body type. Look at football players stats. You will find plenty that add 6’3” 235 lbs. |
Anonymous
Maradona is 150 lbs, Ronaldo 180 lbs, Messi 157. When meatheads confuse sports with steroids 235 lbs of s…t happens. Body builders are showmen like porn stars with fake boobs. Majority of sports require light frame and no extra bulk which kills mobility |
Anonymous
| I’ve never seen a thread on DCUM woth so much ignorance and mean-girl hate. Every thread has it - its like people come here to lash out at others from the safety and comfort of their keyboards. Its like anonymity allows people to be who they truly are, or want to be. |
Anonymous
Sure thing, yeah, go ahead and cite some Olympic athletes but the PPs husband is not an Olympic athlete he is just skinny and weak. |
Anonymous
| I think a young actress Keira Knightley I had a perfect physique back in the day. |
Anonymous
And you have the same weak muscles under steroid instigated layer of meat and fat. |
Anonymous
While I agree with your second sentence, I have seen MANY threads on DCUM like this. There was a thread last year about whether men are more attracted to very short women and it was INSANE. The issue is that all it takes is for a few people to post mean statements about certain body types, and this people will come back and be equally mean in response. Like a very common back and forth is something like: 1: Men like women who have some curves, really thin women are very unattractive. 2: Some curves, sure. But most men will prefer a thin woman over a heavy one. A lot of women are fooling themselves with "I'm curvy!" -- no, girl, you're fat. 3: Women with more fat age better. Thin women all look like shriveled, haggard, old women after the age of 40. Especially in the face. 4: Counterpoint: "curvy" women might look good in their 20s when it's easy to stay relatively thin, but they can't get the baby weight off. No one will care how youthful your face is when your carrying 40 extra pounds and your cut C cup is now a EE and shopping for clothes is impossible. And so on. I used to think it was just fat shaming but I've seen people post really terrible, cruel things about thin women too. Actually I think the thin-woman hate on DCUM might be stronger than the fat shaming, even thought there is also plenty of fat shaming. Anyway, everyone feels implicated by these comments and they respond in kind. And the anonymity is a huge part of it. But I don't think this is who any of us truly is, or wants to be. I think most people who say these things don't even believe them, they are just feeling defensive and lashing out. Especially because a lot of the comments on here are just blatantly false. Not all curvy women are overweight, for instance. Not all thin women age poorly. There are many kinds of diverse beauty and people are attracted to all kinds of body types. It's just that if someone online is like "Everyone who has your body type is ugly, and also probably has either an overeating problem or is anorexic" it triggers this deep rage and makes people want to lash out. |
Anonymous
| To most people healthy balance and activity is good. Artificially enhanced or built is unhealthy vanity. That being said, you do you. If you look fine to others but feel insecure and sad, go on and do whatever adds to your sense of self worth. |
Anonymous
You are just revealing your ignorance about me and about weightlifting. My muscles are strong because I squat and deadlift over 400lbs. No steroids were involved. And for those lifters who do use roids, which I do not, they do not get the injections and then the muscles magically pop out, which is what dumb people think, they still have to do the work and lift a lot of weights. |
Anonymous
| Short and slim people tend to live longer, which is a bigger benefit than vanity. Obviously, it would be an issue for person's vanity if they are 4 ft and emaciated but extremes are never good. |
Anonymous
| Every moderately intelligent person can draw the line when health fitness ends and vanity fitness starts. It starts looking odd because people get obsessed. |
Anonymous
| "Fit and fat" is an oxymoron. |
Anonymous
The 6'3"/165 lb. guy who exercises all the time is most likely, an excercise anorexic. That sounds very underweight for a man who is constantly exercising. A naturally "skinny" type dude wouldn't have to be doing all that cardio and jogging to keep his weight down. This is the male analog of the more typical female dietary anorexic, although both genders can be both kinds of anorexic, sometimes simultaneously. |
Anonymous
First pp here with the dh. He's very strong. Sure, he's skinny (31 in pants) but he can lift a lot. No, he doesn't go to the gym, nor lift weights. He has a large chest and biceps. I googled and Michael Phelps is 6'4 and weighed 165 lbs (although it says 194lbs now). My dh is no where near that muscled, but similar body. |