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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I’ve never seen a thread on DCUM woth so much ignorance and mean-girl hate.  Every thread has it - its like people come here to lash out at others from the safety and comfort of their keyboards.  Its like anonymity allows people to be who they truly are, or want to be.  [/quote]

While I agree with your second sentence, I have seen MANY threads on DCUM like this. There was a thread last year about whether men are more attracted to very short women and it was INSANE. The issue is that all it takes is for a few people to post mean statements about certain body types, and this people will come back and be equally mean in response. Like a very common back and forth is something like:

1: Men like women who have some curves, really thin women are very unattractive.
2: Some curves, sure. But most men will prefer a thin woman over a heavy one. A lot of women are fooling themselves with "I'm curvy!" -- no, girl, you're fat.
3: Women with more fat age better. Thin women all look like shriveled, haggard, old women after the age of 40. Especially in the face.
4: Counterpoint: "curvy" women might look good in their 20s when it's easy to stay relatively thin, but they can't get the baby weight off. No one will care how youthful your face is when your carrying 40 extra pounds and your cut C cup is now a EE and shopping for clothes is impossible.

And so on. I used to think it was just fat shaming but I've seen people post really terrible, cruel things about thin women too. Actually I think the thin-woman hate on DCUM might be stronger than the fat shaming, even thought there is also plenty of fat shaming. Anyway, everyone feels implicated by these comments and they respond in kind. And the anonymity is a huge part of it. But I don't think this is who any of us truly is, or wants to be. I think most people who say these things don't even believe them, they are just feeling defensive and lashing out. Especially because a lot of the comments on here are just blatantly false. Not all curvy women are overweight, for instance. Not all thin women age poorly. There are many kinds of diverse beauty and people are attracted to all kinds of body types. It's just that if someone online is like "Everyone who has your body type is ugly, and also probably has either an overeating problem or is anorexic" it triggers this deep rage and makes people want to lash out.[/quote]

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