Nanny injury?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here - thanks all for the feedback over the last week. The update is that she went to the doctor today and has had a miraculous recovery. The doctor said she’s fine and does not have a concussion, but she’s not coming back to work with us because her husband said she’s ‘not allowed to’.
My guess is that the reason for all of the excuses over the last month is stress in her marriage. We’re going to save all of the details of this situation in case she tries to file any kind of claim against us in the future.
As a learning lesson for myself, I’m going to trust my gut and not engage or send money to anyone who’s not showing up and performing their duties. We didn’t have to pay her for last week or various days off last month. It’s an expensive lesson

Good riddance, OP. Don’t be hard on yourself for being a decent human being.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here - thanks all for the feedback over the last week. The update is that she went to the doctor today and has had a miraculous recovery. The doctor said she’s fine and does not have a concussion, but she’s not coming back to work with us because her husband said she’s ‘not allowed to’.
My guess is that the reason for all of the excuses over the last month is stress in her marriage. We’re going to save all of the details of this situation in case she tries to file any kind of claim against us in the future.
As a learning lesson for myself, I’m going to trust my gut and not engage or send money to anyone who’s not showing up and performing their duties. We didn’t have to pay her for last week or various days off last month. It’s an expensive lesson

Please post a review on care.com Nobody else needs to fall for her BS. The way she handled this is absurd. I know the DCUM apologists are going to jump on that, but there are other ways to quit or leave a job other than to jerk your employer around and try to milk them for a few weeks'pay.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here - thanks all for the feedback over the last week. The update is that she went to the doctor today and has had a miraculous recovery. The doctor said she’s fine and does not have a concussion, but she’s not coming back to work with us because her husband said she’s ‘not allowed to’.
My guess is that the reason for all of the excuses over the last month is stress in her marriage. We’re going to save all of the details of this situation in case she tries to file any kind of claim against us in the future.
As a learning lesson for myself, I’m going to trust my gut and not engage or send money to anyone who’s not showing up and performing their duties. We didn’t have to pay her for last week or various days off last month. It’s an expensive lesson

Please post a review on care.com Nobody else needs to fall for her BS. The way she handled this is absurd. I know the DCUM apologists are going to jump on that, but there are other ways to quit or leave a job other than to jerk your employer around and try to milk them for a few weeks'pay.

Yes especially during the holidays. At least I have in writing that she’s fully recovered! Hopefully that means it’s less likely she’ll try to file a claim later

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here - thanks all for the feedback over the last week. The update is that she went to the doctor today and has had a miraculous recovery. The doctor said she’s fine and does not have a concussion, but she’s not coming back to work with us because her husband said she’s ‘not allowed to’.
My guess is that the reason for all of the excuses over the last month is stress in her marriage. We’re going to save all of the details of this situation in case she tries to file any kind of claim against us in the future.
As a learning lesson for myself, I’m going to trust my gut and not engage or send money to anyone who’s not showing up and performing their duties. We didn’t have to pay her for last week or various days off last month. It’s an expensive lesson

Please post a review on care.com Nobody else needs to fall for her BS. The way she handled this is absurd. I know the DCUM apologists are going to jump on that, but there are other ways to quit or leave a job other than to jerk your employer around and try to milk them for a few weeks'pay.

Yes especially during the holidays. At least I have in writing that she’s fully recovered! Hopefully that means it’s less likely she’ll try to file a claim later

She has gone on to a better job and will never give you another thought. I don't blame her.

[Anonymous]

I don’t know how real this thread is. The details coming out seem far fetched.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don’t know how real this thread is. The details coming out seem far fetched.

OP - it has been my reality for the last ten days! Fortunately it’s now over, I appreciate a lot of good feedback that several posters shared.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I don’t know how real this thread is. The details coming out seem far fetched.

OP - it has been my reality for the last ten days! Fortunately it’s now over, I appreciate a lot of good feedback that several posters shared.

I do not believe anything you have posted.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don’t know how real this thread is. The details coming out seem far fetched.

OP - it has been my reality for the last ten days! Fortunately it’s now over, I appreciate a lot of good feedback that several posters shared.

I do not believe anything you have posted.

I wonder if this is from one of the posters that was previously aghast that anyone would question the likelihood of the concussion story that was always wildly implausible.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here - thanks all for the feedback over the last week. The update is that she went to the doctor today and has had a miraculous recovery. The doctor said she’s fine and does not have a concussion, but she’s not coming back to work with us because her husband said she’s ‘not allowed to’.
My guess is that the reason for all of the excuses over the last month is stress in her marriage. We’re going to save all of the details of this situation in case she tries to file any kind of claim against us in the future.
As a learning lesson for myself, I’m going to trust my gut and not engage or send money to anyone who’s not showing up and performing their duties. We didn’t have to pay her for last week or various days off last month. It’s an expensive lesson

Please post a review on care.com Nobody else needs to fall for her BS. The way she handled this is absurd. I know the DCUM apologists are going to jump on that, but there are other ways to quit or leave a job other than to jerk your employer around and try to milk them for a few weeks'pay.

Yes especially during the holidays. At least I have in writing that she’s fully recovered! Hopefully that means it’s less likely she’ll try to file a claim later

Yeah, I bet you’re safe there. It seems like you’d have a pretty straightforward countersuit for the payments you made to her based on fraudulent representations on the part of the former nanny.

Definitely post a review. You can try to prevent the next person from getting scammed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here - thanks all for the feedback over the last week. The update is that she went to the doctor today and has had a miraculous recovery. The doctor said she’s fine and does not have a concussion, but she’s not coming back to work with us because her husband said she’s ‘not allowed to’.
My guess is that the reason for all of the excuses over the last month is stress in her marriage. We’re going to save all of the details of this situation in case she tries to file any kind of claim against us in the future.
As a learning lesson for myself, I’m going to trust my gut and not engage or send money to anyone who’s not showing up and performing their duties. We didn’t have to pay her for last week or various days off last month. It’s an expensive lesson

Please post a review on care.com Nobody else needs to fall for her BS. The way she handled this is absurd. I know the DCUM apologists are going to jump on that, but there are other ways to quit or leave a job other than to jerk your employer around and try to milk them for a few weeks'pay.

Yes especially during the holidays. At least I have in writing that she’s fully recovered! Hopefully that means it’s less likely she’ll try to file a claim later

Yeah, I bet you’re safe there. It seems like you’d have a pretty straightforward countersuit for the payments you made to her based on fraudulent representations on the part of the former nanny.

Definitely post a review. You can try to prevent the next person from getting scammed.

But if I post a negative review now, don’t you think I’m just opening myself up for trouble? She could claim I interfered with her ability to get another job, after she got a concussion while working for us. I think she’s capable of saying anything. Also I never interview anyone with negative reviews so I imagine it would definitely hurt her ability to get another position.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here - thanks all for the feedback over the last week. The update is that she went to the doctor today and has had a miraculous recovery. The doctor said she’s fine and does not have a concussion, but she’s not coming back to work with us because her husband said she’s ‘not allowed to’.
My guess is that the reason for all of the excuses over the last month is stress in her marriage. We’re going to save all of the details of this situation in case she tries to file any kind of claim against us in the future.
As a learning lesson for myself, I’m going to trust my gut and not engage or send money to anyone who’s not showing up and performing their duties. We didn’t have to pay her for last week or various days off last month. It’s an expensive lesson

Please post a review on care.com Nobody else needs to fall for her BS. The way she handled this is absurd. I know the DCUM apologists are going to jump on that, but there are other ways to quit or leave a job other than to jerk your employer around and try to milk them for a few weeks'pay.

Yes especially during the holidays. At least I have in writing that she’s fully recovered! Hopefully that means it’s less likely she’ll try to file a claim later

Yeah, I bet you’re safe there. It seems like you’d have a pretty straightforward countersuit for the payments you made to her based on fraudulent representations on the part of the former nanny.

Definitely post a review. You can try to prevent the next person from getting scammed.

But if I post a negative review now, don’t you think I’m just opening myself up for trouble? She could claim I interfered with her ability to get another job, after she got a concussion while working for us. I think she’s capable of saying anything. Also I never interview anyone with negative reviews so I imagine it would definitely hurt her ability to get another position.

Just limit yourself to what you know is true. She claimed she got a concussion, missed a week of work, and was unwilling or unable to provide medical documentation when requested. After receiving a paid week off, not granted by the employment agreement, she quit.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here - thanks all for the feedback over the last week. The update is that she went to the doctor today and has had a miraculous recovery. The doctor said she’s fine and does not have a concussion, but she’s not coming back to work with us because her husband said she’s ‘not allowed to’.
My guess is that the reason for all of the excuses over the last month is stress in her marriage. We’re going to save all of the details of this situation in case she tries to file any kind of claim against us in the future.
As a learning lesson for myself, I’m going to trust my gut and not engage or send money to anyone who’s not showing up and performing their duties. We didn’t have to pay her for last week or various days off last month. It’s an expensive lesson

If you didn’t pay her, how was it an expensive lesson for you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here - thanks all for the feedback over the last week. The update is that she went to the doctor today and has had a miraculous recovery. The doctor said she’s fine and does not have a concussion, but she’s not coming back to work with us because her husband said she’s ‘not allowed to’.
My guess is that the reason for all of the excuses over the last month is stress in her marriage. We’re going to save all of the details of this situation in case she tries to file any kind of claim against us in the future.
As a learning lesson for myself, I’m going to trust my gut and not engage or send money to anyone who’s not showing up and performing their duties. We didn’t have to pay her for last week or various days off last month. It’s an expensive lesson

Please post a review on care.com Nobody else needs to fall for her BS. The way she handled this is absurd. I know the DCUM apologists are going to jump on that, but there are other ways to quit or leave a job other than to jerk your employer around and try to milk them for a few weeks'pay.

Yes especially during the holidays. At least I have in writing that she’s fully recovered! Hopefully that means it’s less likely she’ll try to file a claim later

Yeah, I bet you’re safe there. It seems like you’d have a pretty straightforward countersuit for the payments you made to her based on fraudulent representations on the part of the former nanny.

Definitely post a review. You can try to prevent the next person from getting scammed.

More simple: Nanny was employed for X months (or work days). During that time she missed, X number of days off. When asked for medical documentation after taking Thanksgiving week off, she quit.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here - thanks all for the feedback over the last week. The update is that she went to the doctor today and has had a miraculous recovery. The doctor said she’s fine and does not have a concussion, but she’s not coming back to work with us because her husband said she’s ‘not allowed to’.
My guess is that the reason for all of the excuses over the last month is stress in her marriage. We’re going to save all of the details of this situation in case she tries to file any kind of claim against us in the future.
As a learning lesson for myself, I’m going to trust my gut and not engage or send money to anyone who’s not showing up and performing their duties. We didn’t have to pay her for last week or various days off last month. It’s an expensive lesson

If you didn’t pay her, how was it an expensive lesson for you?

We did pay her for last week, because we thought it was the right thing to do even though it wasn’t required per our employment agreement. We also paid her for many of the days she missed over the last few months. We use a payroll service so it’s not easy to switch it off or change when she kept flaking.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here - thanks all for the feedback over the last week. The update is that she went to the doctor today and has had a miraculous recovery. The doctor said she’s fine and does not have a concussion, but she’s not coming back to work with us because her husband said she’s ‘not allowed to’.
My guess is that the reason for all of the excuses over the last month is stress in her marriage. We’re going to save all of the details of this situation in case she tries to file any kind of claim against us in the future.
As a learning lesson for myself, I’m going to trust my gut and not engage or send money to anyone who’s not showing up and performing their duties. We didn’t have to pay her for last week or various days off last month. It’s an expensive lesson

Please post a review on care.com Nobody else needs to fall for her BS. The way she handled this is absurd. I know the DCUM apologists are going to jump on that, but there are other ways to quit or leave a job other than to jerk your employer around and try to milk them for a few weeks'pay.

Yes especially during the holidays. At least I have in writing that she’s fully recovered! Hopefully that means it’s less likely she’ll try to file a claim later

Yeah, I bet you’re safe there. It seems like you’d have a pretty straightforward countersuit for the payments you made to her based on fraudulent representations on the part of the former nanny.

Definitely post a review. You can try to prevent the next person from getting scammed.

But if I post a negative review now, don’t you think I’m just opening myself up for trouble? She could claim I interfered with her ability to get another job, after she got a concussion while working for us. I think she’s capable of saying anything. Also I never interview anyone with negative reviews so I imagine it would definitely hurt her ability to get another position.

Just limit yourself to what you know is true. She claimed she got a concussion, missed a week of work, and was unwilling or unable to provide medical documentation when requested. After receiving a paid week off, not granted by the employment agreement, she quit.

Ok thanks. BTW we never asked for the documentation because she didn’t come back!