Men, would you date or marry someone considered fat?

[Anonymous]

No. Next question.

[Anonymous]

Most of men's attraction is towards- whatever other men will think is cool.

This was a lie the first time you wrote it, and it’s still a lie.

[Anonymous]

I’m 130 & would be my best at 115

Would a guy still date me? And say, ok she just needs to get in the gym?

Or would he say ew no she’s fat?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m 130 & would be my best at 115

Would a guy still date me? And say, ok she just needs to get in the gym?

Or would he say ew no she’s fat?

Depends on the guys but a lot of guys would not say or think “she needs to go to the gym” at all. Good me exist (they just don’t often comment on DCUM)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m 130 & would be my best at 115

Would a guy still date me? And say, ok she just needs to get in the gym?

Or would he say ew no she’s fat?

Depends on the guys but a lot of guys would not say or think “she needs to go to the gym” at all. Good me exist (they just don’t often comment on DCUM)

I take that back. In both sexless marriage threads and “what kind of women are you attracted to at age 30” threads I have seen lots of men say that women who are insecure about their bodies for being a little overweight are crazy, they find them gorgeous.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m 130 & would be my best at 115

Would a guy still date me? And say, ok she just needs to get in the gym?

Or would he say ew no she’s fat?

Depends on the guys but a lot of guys would not say or think “she needs to go to the gym” at all. Good me exist (they just don’t often comment on DCUM)

A guy is not bad because he doesn't want to date someone who is overweight.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m 130 & would be my best at 115

Would a guy still date me? And say, ok she just needs to get in the gym?

Or would he say ew no she’s fat?

My question would be why hasn't she gotten to the gym? Because if she's not going to do it on her own she's unlikely to get more fit in a relationship? And why is her fitness and image so dependent on what I think? Just seems like someone too insecure for a relationship.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m 130 & would be my best at 115

Would a guy still date me? And say, ok she just needs to get in the gym?

Or would he say ew no she’s fat?

You're already demonstrating that you don't have much knowledge of health/fitness if you think gym time is the way to lose 15 instead of diet. If anything, the gym should help you build muscle to remain at 130 and look great at that weight.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m 130 & would be my best at 115

Would a guy still date me? And say, ok she just needs to get in the gym?

Or would he say ew no she’s fat?

Depends on the guys but a lot of guys would not say or think “she needs to go to the gym” at all. Good me exist (they just don’t often comment on DCUM)

A guy is not bad because he doesn't want to date someone who is overweight.

I didn’t say a guy was “bad” for thinking somebody needs to go to the gym. Defensive much?

And I would absolutely not want to be with somebody who acted like he was so gracious to overlook 15lbs and think that it meant the gym is in order. It’s douchey and entitled. I have a husband who understands that he doesn’t get to have an opinion on my weight. Crazy, right? Like I said, good men exist.

(Although I think gyms are seriously underrated and if somebody can afford it and they should go! With the understanding that it’s for mental and physical health and unlikely to make you lose weight)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m 130 & would be my best at 115

Would a guy still date me? And say, ok she just needs to get in the gym?

Or would he say ew no she’s fat?

You're already demonstrating that you don't have much knowledge of health/fitness if you think gym time is the way to lose 15 instead of diet. If anything, the gym should help you build muscle to remain at 130 and look great at that weight.

No she suggested that a guy might have that misunderstanding. (She might too though. Lots of people do.)

[Anonymous]

I like thick women and large brea$t$

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I like thick women and large brea$t$

No such thing as the woke "thick" it's really fat.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I like thick women and large brea$t$

No such thing as the woke "thick" it's really fat.

Not according to young men. Among young men that's the ideal type. You must be very old and out of it

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m 130 & would be my best at 115

Would a guy still date me? And say, ok she just needs to get in the gym?

Or would he say ew no she’s fat?

Depends on the guys but a lot of guys would not say or think “she needs to go to the gym” at all. Good me exist (they just don’t often comment on DCUM)

A guy is not bad because he doesn't want to date someone who is overweight.

I didn’t say a guy was “bad” for thinking somebody needs to go to the gym. Defensive much?

And I would absolutely not want to be with somebody who acted like he was so gracious to overlook 15lbs and think that it meant the gym is in order. It’s douchey and entitled. I have a husband who understands that he doesn’t get to have an opinion on my weight. Crazy, right? Like I said, good men exist.

(Although I think gyms are seriously underrated and if somebody can afford it and they should go! With the understanding that it’s for mental and physical health and unlikely to make you lose weight)

Well said.Any man that would be scrutinizing a woman over 15 pounds anyway is extremely low value

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I like some fat on women. I actually visualize Sarah Jessica Parker whenever I have to slow down.

I never got more attention from men then when I was 140 lbs at 5'5. I prefer myself at a slimmer weight so I'm about 120 now. After a particularly indulgent holiday season a couple years ago my weight crept up to around 130 and there it was again with way more male attention and stares and such. I have to keep my weight down for job related reasons but yeah... definitely seems to me that men like women at a somewhat higher weight.

Exactly this.