For the third year in a row, my BF has neither time nor money to take any summer vacation

[Anonymous]

Would you end an otherwise good relationship over this? I feel like our lifestyle expectations will never align.

[Anonymous]

You know this doesn’t work for you.
End it

[Anonymous]

Define "otherwise good relationship".

[Anonymous]

Yup. He doesn't want to. Or he really can't. Either way, wish him well and bid him goodbye.

[Anonymous]

More important, OP, why is he still your "BF" after 3 years?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:More important, OP, why is he still your "BF" after 3 years?

For all you know, OP is 21. You're saying they should just get married after 3 years for shits and giggles without any further information? Yikes.

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OP: Your post is pretty vague. Does use his PTO in other ways, or simply not get enough? Are you trying to plan an elaborate vacation that's outside of his budget? How would you feel about contributing the difference?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:More important, OP, why is he still your "BF" after 3 years?

For all you know, OP is 21. You're saying they should just get married after 3 years for shits and giggles without any further information? Yikes.

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OP: Your post is pretty vague. Does use his PTO in other ways, or simply not get enough? Are you trying to plan an elaborate vacation that's outside of his budget? How would you feel about contributing the difference?

Agree, not enough info.

[Anonymous]

Are you sure he simply doesn't want stay away using time and money as an excuse?
I have such a friend.

[Anonymous]

Where does his time and money go? Are you just not a priority?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:More important, OP, why is he still your "BF" after 3 years?

If you had spent more than a week on this forum, you'd be advocating 7+ year courtship periods prior to considering marriage and children.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Would you end an otherwise good relationship over this? I feel like our lifestyle expectations will never align.

Just break up now.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:More important, OP, why is he still your "BF" after 3 years?

For all you know, OP is 21. You're saying they should just get married after 3 years for shits and giggles without any further information? Yikes.

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OP: Your post is pretty vague. Does use his PTO in other ways, or simply not get enough? Are you trying to plan an elaborate vacation that's outside of his budget? How would you feel about contributing the difference?

There aren't any DCUM OPs that are 21. DP

[Anonymous]

You might always have to vacation without him. Always.

[Anonymous]

I mean…. We’re taking our vacation right now and not going anywhere this summer. It’s hot and crowded everywhere. What is his reasoning? Do you go on vacation at other times of the year? Weekends away?

[Anonymous]

How old are you? My DH and I didnt vacation once when we dated. We were saving and we used our limited vacation on family holidays. But we were in the same page about it all. What does he say about it?