Fight with husband

[Anonymous]

We already were close yesterday morning, and he came at me again that night. I was exhausted and said, “Not tonight, tomorrow. Totally reasonable, right?

He didn’t take it well, so I called him a “entitled jerk” because seriously, I was tired. And then he lost it and called me a “stupid F’ing b**.”**

I know I teased him first, but his response was too much. I apologized to him and but he didn’t apologize to me, so I’ve stopped talking to him, left to work, and didn’t make him coffee this morning or pack his lunch.

Am I in the wrong?

[Anonymous]

You didn't tease, you were abusing. You should both seek therapy to see why you are both so toxic.

[Anonymous]

We can’t fairly say who is in the wrong.

That is a really big escalation over declining sex and you’re withholding too much information for us to make a judgment. Like the history of this behavior, whether you get along, your sex life, what happened that day, etc.

[Anonymous]

Waiting until the morning is recommended.. talking while emotional is not.

Don’t apologize because he acted like a jerk … JFC.

[Anonymous]

The first poster is ridiculous.
If you say, “not tonight, tomorrow,” then that should be the end of the discussion. If he keeps bringing it up, then he is being a jerk, and you should be allowed to call him out on it without repercussions.

I mean, I would expect this from my six year old if I told him that we couldn’t get ice cream tonight, but we will tomorrow.

[Anonymous]

Sorry to hear this OP.
How old are you and your husband?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The first poster is ridiculous.
If you say, “not tonight, tomorrow,” then that should be the end of the discussion. If he keeps bringing it up, then he is being a jerk, and you should be allowed to call him out on it without repercussions.

I mean, I would expect this from my six year old if I told him that we couldn’t get ice cream tonight, but we will tomorrow.

This!!!!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The first poster is ridiculous.
If you say, “not tonight, tomorrow,” then that should be the end of the discussion. If he keeps bringing it up, then he is being a jerk, and you should be allowed to call him out on it without repercussions.

I mean, I would expect this from my six year old if I told him that we couldn’t get ice cream tonight, but we will tomorrow.

OP conveniently does not tell us exactly what happened between her saying “not tonight, tomorrow,” and calling him and entitled jerk. People who escalate like this usually feed each other that energy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The first poster is ridiculous.
If you say, “not tonight, tomorrow,” then that should be the end of the discussion. If he keeps bringing it up, then he is being a jerk, and you should be allowed to call him out on it without repercussions.

I mean, I would expect this from my six year old if I told him that we couldn’t get ice cream tonight, but we will tomorrow.

OP conveniently does not tell us exactly what happened between her saying “not tonight, tomorrow,” and calling him and entitled jerk. People who escalate like this usually feed each other that energy.

Sounds like he was asking for sex

[Anonymous]

You were both wrong. You were wrong first.

[Anonymous]

I’m confused I don’t see what OP did wrong. Also “entitled jerk” is totally different from what her DH called her. There are verbal lines that shouldn’t be crossed.

[Anonymous]

No, Op is abusive.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The first poster is ridiculous.
If you say, “not tonight, tomorrow,” then that should be the end of the discussion. If he keeps bringing it up, then he is being a jerk, and you should be allowed to call him out on it without repercussions.

I mean, I would expect this from my six year old if I told him that we couldn’t get ice cream tonight, but we will tomorrow.

OP conveniently does not tell us exactly what happened between her saying “not tonight, tomorrow,” and calling him and entitled jerk. People who escalate like this usually feed each other that energy.

She said that “he didn’t take it well.”

What are you thinking happened, pp? I really can’t imagine any acceptable scenario other than him dropping it and letting her go to sleep.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The first poster is ridiculous.
If you say, “not tonight, tomorrow,” then that should be the end of the discussion. If he keeps bringing it up, then he is being a jerk, and you should be allowed to call him out on it without repercussions.

I mean, I would expect this from my six year old if I told him that we couldn’t get ice cream tonight, but we will tomorrow.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sorry to hear this OP.
How old are you and your husband?

OP: 15
DH: 16