Moral dilemma over a necklace?

[Anonymous]

I bought a $45 casual statement necklace at a popular retail store to wear to a work conference. It’s very “me” stylistically, and I assumed I’d be able to wear it for other things too.

Well, the entire evening it sat funny on my neck. It’s one of those necklaces with an extender chain, and no matter how I adjusted it (shorter/longer), it just wouldn’t lay right. There’s nothing technically wrong with it, it just fits weird. I ended up taking it off halfway through the event.

I kept the original packaging and brought it back to return. When they asked if anything was wrong, I explained that it didn’t sit right. They told me they couldn’t process the return because it had been worn.

I left, but now I’m annoyed. I had no way of knowing that without actually wearing it for more than 30 seconds in a dressing room.
Would you try returning it at a different location and just say you didn’t wear it? I feel weird about them putting it back on the shelf if I say it wasn’t worn, but also, it’s $45.

Curious what DCUM would do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I bought a $45 casual statement necklace at a popular retail store to wear to a work conference. It’s very “me” stylistically, and I assumed I’d be able to wear it for other things too.

Well, the entire evening it sat funny on my neck. It’s one of those necklaces with an extender chain, and no matter how I adjusted it (shorter/longer), it just wouldn’t lay right. There’s nothing technically wrong with it, it just fits weird. I ended up taking it off halfway through the event.

I kept the original packaging and brought it back to return. When they asked if anything was wrong, I explained that it didn’t sit right. They told me they couldn’t process the return because it had been worn.

I left, but now I’m annoyed. I had no way of knowing that without actually wearing it for more than 30 seconds in a dressing room.
Would you try returning it at a different location and just say you didn’t wear it? I feel weird about them putting it back on the shelf if I say it wasn’t worn, but also, it’s $45.

Curious what DCUM would do.

Yes. I don't feel compelled to follow some immoral policy just because they say so. There are two parties to the purchase and I disagree. Their "policy" is not more valid than mine.

If I had damaged it and was trying to hide that fact, that would be immoral--policy or no policy. But that's not your set of facts. You are behaving morally.

[Anonymous]

When you return, say “When I tried it on in front of the mirror at home,” not “When I wore it for more than an hour”

[Anonymous]

Yup. Return to a different location.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I bought a $45 casual statement necklace at a popular retail store to wear to a work conference. It’s very “me” stylistically, and I assumed I’d be able to wear it for other things too.

Well, the entire evening it sat funny on my neck. It’s one of those necklaces with an extender chain, and no matter how I adjusted it (shorter/longer), it just wouldn’t lay right. There’s nothing technically wrong with it, it just fits weird. I ended up taking it off halfway through the event.

I kept the original packaging and brought it back to return. When they asked if anything was wrong, I explained that it didn’t sit right. They told me they couldn’t process the return because it had been worn.

I left, but now I’m annoyed. I had no way of knowing that without actually wearing it for more than 30 seconds in a dressing room.
Would you try returning it at a different location and just say you didn’t wear it? I feel weird about them putting it back on the shelf if I say it wasn’t worn, but also, it’s $45.

Curious what DCUM would do.

Yes. I don't feel compelled to follow some immoral policy just because they say so. There are two parties to the purchase and I disagree. Their "policy" is not more valid than mine.

If I had damaged it and was trying to hide that fact, that would be immoral--policy or no policy. But that's not your set of facts. You are behaving morally.

Gross! Someone will buy the necklace, and the OP wore it all evening, sweating on it, coughing on it, etc. Just cut your loss, OP. Sell it on Marketplace and be done with it.

[Anonymous]

No, I wouldn’t try to return it. You got 1 wear out of it, and it cost you $45. Seems reasonable.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When you return, say “When I tried it on in front of the mirror at home,” not “When I wore it for more than an hour”

No need. Don't say sh!t. Just say you want to return it. If pressed, say you didn't like it. If pressed further, say never worn.

It's just a game at that point.

[Anonymous]

I bet you PP’s tell your kids to lie about their ages to get lower kids pricing too. You should be ashamed of yourselves.

[Anonymous]

$45? I would give it to someone else rather than lie about wearing it. If you need the money, sell it on eBay or Poshmark.

[Anonymous]

Yes, return it.

[Anonymous]

You could also say "I changed my mind" as the return reason, which is true.

[Anonymous]

What store refused the return?

I would keep it or gift it. You wore it for a night out. You shouldn't be able to return it.

[Anonymous]

Would you want to wear a necklace with someones elses neck oil/skin cells were on? No gross. Keep it!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Would you want to wear a necklace with someones elses neck oil/skin cells were on? No gross. Keep it!

I mean, you can just wipe it off with a wipe before returning.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Would you want to wear a necklace with someones elses neck oil/skin cells were on? No gross. Keep it!

I will say if you gave your guy a BJ while wearing it, you probably should not return it. That's my line.