So depressing - mid-life and death

[Anonymous]

I'm mid-50's and it's just starting to really hit me how fragile it all is. Our parents are all dead now. Siblings - sick. Celebrities - dropping like flies. Friends - either retiring or dying it seems.

So depressing, no wonder older people are cranky. With all the sadness and then the government drama, it really just makes me want to stop working, buy a crap place in Mexico and sit by the beach for the next few years until life gets me too. Ugh. No wonder I watch Netflix and shop so much. At least my husband and kids are doing ok. For now...only a matter of time, right?

[Anonymous]

Right. But your timeline is a bit off. Mid-50s is mid-life if you look at that as a very broad band.

But it might be helpful to realize that mid-life was actually 15 years ago when you were 40.

[Anonymous]

I'm in a similar place OP. It has been hitting me hard lately. I'm 55 and my DH is 67 and retiring within the next year and I just feel like -- where the hell did my life go? It sped by at the speed of light. My dog is ten years old and I'm suddenly crying at least once a week at the thought of losing her, even though she could live 4 to 5 more years easily. It's just weird that it feels like yesterday she was a puppy. Neither of my parents made it to 70 and my DH is 67. I'm feeling mortality, and it is really scaring me. Like you said, it all seems so fragile.

[Anonymous]

I’m the same age, OP, and I’m basically ready to die right now. Trump has ruined everything, and I just don’t want to be here anymore. I feel sad that I might not see any grandchildren, but at this point I’m so sad about our situation and do angry at Trump that I just would prefer to die.

[Anonymous]

Be greatful you don't think death is a sweet release.

[Anonymous]

I get it. I have elderly parents, one with Alzheimer’s, just became an empty nester and have aging pets. I cry all the time. And yes, life has flown by. How was it 30 years ago that I graduated from college? How did my kids get to be so old? How is it that the 80s were 40 years ago?

[Anonymous]

Geez, you all need to crack open a bottle of wine and relax. Nothing you can do about your age - just try to enjoy your life and loved ones while you are here. That's all any of us can do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m the same age, OP, and I’m basically ready to die right now. Trump has ruined everything, and I just don’t want to be here anymore. I feel sad that I might not see any grandchildren, but at this point I’m so sad about our situation and do angry at Trump that I just would prefer to die.

Please seek help.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m the same age, OP, and I’m basically ready to die right now. Trump has ruined everything, and I just don’t want to be here anymore. I feel sad that I might not see any grandchildren, but at this point I’m so sad about our situation and do angry at Trump that I just would prefer to die.

Not buying this post.

[Anonymous]

It’s normal to have feeling when you are in a change of life.

I’m retiring this week and it’s just weird, what is my purpose now. Kids grown career in the rear view.

But I’ll figure something out.

[Anonymous]

I get it. I’m younger-43 so still in the thick of having kids in the house but I am very much looking forward to a more relaxing life. I have prioritized my health and I’m really hoping to travel and enjoy life until I am very old. Not having to cook all the time, not having to bring kids to all the appointments, being able to come and go as I please, not having deadlines etc…This is all very attractive to me. I would say embrace and try to look at the positives.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm mid-50's and it's just starting to really hit me how fragile it all is. Our parents are all dead now. Siblings - sick. Celebrities - dropping like flies. Friends - either retiring or dying it seems.

So depressing, no wonder older people are cranky. With all the sadness and then the government drama, it really just makes me want to stop working, buy a crap place in Mexico and sit by the beach for the next few years until life gets me too. Ugh. No wonder I watch Netflix and shop so much. At least my husband and kids are doing ok. For now...only a matter of time, right?

Was your family vaccinated? I just turned 50, both of my parents are alive and well 79 and 80 y.o. They just returned back from Europe, very active, gardening a lot during summer. My life is very active as well, as all our kids are out of the house. I don't know anything about government drama because I don't follow it. I suggest you check with mental health provider. You still have around 20-25 active years to enjoy your life.

[Anonymous]

It’s so bad, OP. Even worse than all the people dying is having watched the decline in my parents (now dead) and in laws. It’s horrible to see what becomes of formerly vibrant and active people as you age. And eating well and exercise doesn’t save you from illness and decline.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm mid-50's and it's just starting to really hit me how fragile it all is. Our parents are all dead now. Siblings - sick. Celebrities - dropping like flies. Friends - either retiring or dying it seems.

So depressing, no wonder older people are cranky. With all the sadness and then the government drama, it really just makes me want to stop working, buy a crap place in Mexico and sit by the beach for the next few years until life gets me too. Ugh. No wonder I watch Netflix and shop so much. At least my husband and kids are doing ok. For now...only a matter of time, right?

Was your family vaccinated? I just turned 50, both of my parents are alive and well 79 and 80 y.o. They just returned back from Europe, very active, gardening a lot during summer. My life is very active as well, as all our kids are out of the house. I don't know anything about government drama because I don't follow it. I suggest you check with mental health provider. You still have around 20-25 active years to enjoy your life.

OP here - Yes they were all over 80. At 50 I was fine and cheerful too.

[Anonymous]

Seems nice that you’ve waited until mid 50s to feel this. I’m 42 and taking care of elderly demented parent along with my school aged kids. I wish I would have had 10 more years to be safe from this crappy awareness of life.