I wish I was chill
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Anonymous
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I am just an uptight person and I don't think I'll ever be anything different. I can tell it annoys other people (or even just amuses them) sometimes, and keeps them from liking me more. Heck, it annoys me. I want to be more go with the flow but I just cannot. I have done therapy, taken SSRIs for anxiety, I do yoga and exercise, I even meditate. All this stuff helps but it doesn't change my personality. Even when my anxiety is in check, I'm still just more uptight than other people.
Not really asking a question here, just venting. I envy those of you who are just chill and easy going and don't feel like you have to be hyper vigilant about everything all the time. I wish I was not alway working through my anxious feelings (even successfully) and that instead I just... didn't get them. But I'm nearing 50 and I've always been this way. I guess it's just who I am. |
Anonymous
| Try edibles. |
Anonymous
| Are you chill in some ways? I have a friend who many would probably describe as uptight (she even apologizes to me sometimes) but she’s surprisingly chill about a few things that I am not chill about. And I love her despite our differences. |
Anonymous
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It's just how you are.
I'm the same way. There are upsides to it. |
Anonymous
| I’m like this and at times also wished I was more chill and cooler. The flip side is that I’m super diligent. My family knows I’m prepared for any contingency and am the go-to for any problem solving. My hyper vigilance has helped me rise to the top in my career. I don’t let things fall through the cracks in my personal or work life. There are benefits to being type A! |
Anonymous
| I’m not chill and thankful for it. Someone once told me that I have an engine and that they can sense it. It’s taken me far in life. If I was chill I’d be like my in laws who come off as chill but actually are fearful. I don’t know anyone in an executive role who is chill. Chill might be fun but it only takes you so far and then you just don’t have it in you to go the extra miles or do the hard staff or make a tough call. Also I take beta blockers so I don’t drive myself crazy give those a try OP. |
Anonymous
| Who cares? Life is too short to change who you are. |
Anonymous
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Everything that enters your brain doesn’t need to come out of your mouth.
Think it don’t say it. |
Anonymous
Absolutely untrue but if you need to lie to yourself go for it. |
Anonymous
Why didn't you keep this one inside your brain, friend? |
Anonymous
LOL. This cracked me up, so thanks. OP, I say embrace who you are. If you feel yourself overreacting to situations, that's a different story and probably something you can work on. But this is really how you're wired. Everyone has things about themselves that they don't like. I think it's more productive and makes for a happier life to capitalize on your strengths and run with them. Signed, Another Type A-er |
Anonymous
🙄 Telling people to do drugs. Come on. Accept yourself OP. Its ok lots of people are the same as you. |
Anonymous
| I understand, I also wish I could be a morning person. |
Anonymous
Came here to suggest the same. |
Anonymous
They are literally legal…. |