Busy on Valentines Day
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Anonymous
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Curious if others would be bummed by this. I asked the woman that I’ve been seeing for the past two months if she’d like to go out for Valentines. Told her I’d like to plan a surprise date for her. She told me she has plans to watch women’s basketball with her friends V day night and could we do it some other time.
She has a full life with a nice support system of friends, which I’ve always thought is great. We don’t get to spend as much time together as I’d like because she’s with them a lot, but I don’t mind compromising. For V day though this kinda bothers me. She likes romance and I always take her on thoughtful dates. I was really hoping to spend V-day together. I’m feeling like she isn’t prioritizing dating when I’m looking to settle down. |
Anonymous
| She’s married, or dating, and you’re the backup plan. |
Anonymous
| Let me guess.. she's in her late 30s? She's already built a life around her friends, and they come first. |
Anonymous
| I think it’s ok. If it was important to you asking sooner would have made more sense. She made plans. |
Anonymous
OP here. Yes, this is the case. I’m realizing I wrote 2 months but it’s actually been 3 months. I’m not sure if I should wait more or just figure we don’t want the same thing. |
Anonymous
| Schedule something for Sunday. Easy, done. You should be happy she has friends and a life. They probably planned this when you were in the early stages of dating. Plus as a woman I would think spending Valentine’s Day with someone in the few months of a relationship would be way too intense. |
Anonymous
| She's going to see a game or just watching on TV with friends? If the former and they all bought tix, I can see not wanting to back out. If just a casual thing at a friend's house, this is still advance notice and I agree someone excited about a new relationship would want to spend valentines day together. Just my opinion. |
Anonymous
Just watching on tv. I don’t want to be a baby about it, but I do try really hard to make her happy to show I’m serious and I wanted to spend some couple time together. |
Anonymous
I would start dating other people. |
Anonymous
| Ask her out to dinner on the 15th. See what she says. |
Anonymous
Seems like an overreaction to breakup over Valentine’s Day. She could have made these plans a few weeks ago, when you first started dating and she didn’t want to presume you’d do something big that early on. Is it really that big of a deal to celebrate it on a different day? |
Anonymous
| Sorry, I don't think she likes you that much. |
Anonymous
She shouldn’t have assumed they’d do something on Vday. But once she got the invite she should’ve accepted. I would if I liked someone. I can watch tv with my friends anytime. |
Anonymous
| V day is a lot of pressure and it’s only been 2 months. |
Anonymous
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Watching basketball on tv with girlfriends instead of going out for a Valentine's dinner? She isn't that into you, and going on a V-Day date would suggest more to the relationship than she wants to commit to.
I would start dating other women. Sorry, OP. |