Petty vent- hate my dh on snow days

[Anonymous]

This is petty but I just have so much rage against my dh on snow days. He’s normally helpful. Today his work was closed, but I had to telework, kids school was closed.

He acts like a child on snow days. He slept in until 10am, spent 3 hours on the toilet (cumulatively) on his phone, hours on his laptop after, fed the kids “lunch” but left plates everywhere. The puppy needs extra help forcing her to go outside in snow so she repeatedly pooped everywhere indoors. The kids bugged me nonstop for help with their snow gear, waters and snacks. They were all upset their snow gear hadn’t been dried during lunch and was wet when they tried to go back out (he hadn’t put it in the dryer or boot dryer). You can’t believe the mess that is my house right now.

Im sure the kids will be off school all week and I’ll get zero work done and will need to take leave, so this was my only chance. He’ll likely have to drive to work tomorrow and leave me alone. I’m just angry. Friday I took annual leave because the kids school was closed and the house was immaculate when he came home.

Anyone else annoyed? Snow days suck.

[Anonymous]

I would be livid, OP. My husband is a little weird on snow days as well - anytime he's out of his routine, basically. I'm lucky my work is flexible. But DH did most of the shoveling, so I can't complain this time.

The poo thing is gross. So sorry you've had to deal with that.

[Anonymous]

This is not a “petty” vent OP - I would be fuming 😡 angry too!!

Your husband sounds useless to me.
The household responsibilities as well as the familial ones should not only lay on your shoulders here!!
He needs to contribute and be efficient!

Why should your house be a wreck and why should you take leave just because he is LAZY??

[Anonymous]

Not petty at all. My DH can be selfish at times but he was way better than that today and he actually had to work! I would sit down with him when you are feeling calm and explain why his behavior today was unfair to you and what your expectations are the next time your family is in this situation.

It sounds like he is treating it like the snow days he had as a kid. I guess his parents didn't make him spend his snow day shoveling the driveway like mine did!

[Anonymous]

Yeah, there would definitely be a “Didn’t feel like I had a partner/teammate”’conversation. I’d ask him what he thought his obligations might be to support the family when you still have to work and kids are there.

[Anonymous]

I would be angry. My dh is not like that, this isn’t a general husband issue, this is a problem with yours. How is he other times besides snow days? Capable everywhere but home? Mama’s boy? I would have a big talk with him, unacceptable.

[Anonymous]

My ex wife divorced me because I was working too many hours for too many years. She was lonely! But when I was present, I truly was. There were just not enough of those days. When we had storms, I was up by 6:30 am shoveling, walking the dog, etc.

Am I worse than your husband? Of course I am subjectively claiming that it was the only issue in our marriage. My ex wife would probably differ.

Having said that a lot of women on this forum are still married to men like OP's DH. I guess the bigger an ass**e you are, the more they owe you around.

[Anonymous]

So sorry to hear this, OP.

I basically have always been a person who is hyper-prepared, because DH and kids don't think of all of the details. I have a long checklist before the storm - which also includes laying out the winter gear before the storm arrives.

So, outerwear needs to be dried, boots need to be dried, dogs needs to pee and poop, dogs needs to be fed and given water to drink, dishwasher run a couple times, counters cleaned, floors vacuumed, kids need to be supervised outside...these are tasks that are assigned and I check do check up. I send a group text about an hour before these tasks need to be completed.

[Anonymous]

Hire someone for the rest of the week.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So sorry to hear this, OP.

I basically have always been a person who is hyper-prepared, because DH and kids don't think of all of the details. I have a long checklist before the storm - which also includes laying out the winter gear before the storm arrives.

So, outerwear needs to be dried, boots need to be dried, dogs needs to pee and poop, dogs needs to be fed and given water to drink, dishwasher run a couple times, counters cleaned, floors vacuumed, kids need to be supervised outside...these are tasks that are assigned and I check do check up. I send a group text about an hour before these tasks need to be completed.

Wow snow days sound fun in your house

[Anonymous]

hire the person above

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So sorry to hear this, OP.

I basically have always been a person who is hyper-prepared, because DH and kids don't think of all of the details. I have a long checklist before the storm - which also includes laying out the winter gear before the storm arrives.

So, outerwear needs to be dried, boots need to be dried, dogs needs to pee and poop, dogs needs to be fed and given water to drink, dishwasher run a couple times, counters cleaned, floors vacuumed, kids need to be supervised outside...these are tasks that are assigned and I check do check up. I send a group text about an hour before these tasks need to be completed.

Wow snow days sound fun in your house

She sounds GREAT. Organized PP, how much do you charge?

[Anonymous]

Your husband sounds like an extra child.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:hire the person above

I am actually super-duper organized. I posted my blizzard checklist on another thread.

Good Wife/Mom Points - I hired out the snow shoveling and all the cooking, cleaning, laundry etc was done before the storm hit. We were sorted if we had lost electricity.

Here is the thing - my DH is a very good DH and my kids are good kids. They are motivated and successful in most other parts of their life. I manage for those occasions where their executive functioning skill is not up to par, and I ignore the minor behavior quirks that I don't quite like.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So sorry to hear this, OP.

I basically have always been a person who is hyper-prepared, because DH and kids don't think of all of the details. I have a long checklist before the storm - which also includes laying out the winter gear before the storm arrives.

So, outerwear needs to be dried, boots need to be dried, dogs needs to pee and poop, dogs needs to be fed and given water to drink, dishwasher run a couple times, counters cleaned, floors vacuumed, kids need to be supervised outside...these are tasks that are assigned and I check do check up. I send a group text about an hour before these tasks need to be completed.

So your husband is a man child. Got it.