Do your in-laws attend college graduation?

[Anonymous]

My parents and siblings just attended my graduation. Grandparents were either older or deceased and did not attend and would not have traveled to attend. My in-laws are very pushy and want to attend but many of the events are for the graduates and their parents (us) and siblings only. I do not hear of too many grandparents attending the weekend events. Question - what percentage of you have grandparents attend college graduation? Mind you they would be traveling a long distance and do not know anyone in said town which means husband would end up having to entertain them all weekend for every meal, etc...

[Anonymous]

Will not be inviting ours. Nope.

[Anonymous]

Only graduate’s mother (me) and graduate’s younger sibling. Tickets are limited and it’s a lot going on.
Ultimately, it’s up to what the graduate wants.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Only graduate’s mother (me) and graduate’s younger sibling. Tickets are limited and it’s a lot going on.
Ultimately, it’s up to what the graduate wants.

Husband is insisting they come. They came to highschool graduation and husband ended up spending the whole weekend picking them up (even though they both drive) and are able to drive and are in good health. They are very very pushy. Husband is insisting and I know it will ruin the flow of the weekend. Many events are only for families as graduate has large friend group so events are already like 50-80 just with parents and siblings.

[Anonymous]

My parents and my FIL will be attending. Probably more extended family too. My dc is glad to have all of the support and we will have big dinner somewhere for everyone including those who don't have ceremony tickets.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My parents and siblings just attended my graduation. Grandparents were either older or deceased and did not attend and would not have traveled to attend. My in-laws are very pushy and want to attend but many of the events are for the graduates and their parents (us) and siblings only. I do not hear of too many grandparents attending the weekend events. Question - what percentage of you have grandparents attend college graduation? Mind you they would be traveling a long distance and do not know anyone in said town which means husband would end up having to entertain them all weekend for every meal, etc...

It all depends on how long you've known your in-laws and how close you all are. There is no rule.

For grandparents, same. If they are local and close to their grandchildren, yes but otherwise no need.

What's odd is ants, uncles and cousins. Unless you are first in your extended family to ever go to college, may be but otherwise why add unnecessary crowd?

Mom and dad are the only ones who actually are invested in your education so makes sense to include them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Only graduate’s mother (me) and graduate’s younger sibling. Tickets are limited and it’s a lot going on.
Ultimately, it’s up to what the graduate wants.

Husband is insisting they come. They came to highschool graduation and husband ended up spending the whole weekend picking them up (even though they both drive) and are able to drive and are in good health. They are very very pushy. Husband is insisting and I know it will ruin the flow of the weekend. Many events are only for families as graduate has large friend group so events are already like 50-80 just with parents and siblings.

Sounds like a husband problem not an IL problem. Maybe this is how he is avoiding things.

[Anonymous]

I'm assuming its your graduation not your child's because you are asking about in-laws attending.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Only graduate’s mother (me) and graduate’s younger sibling. Tickets are limited and it’s a lot going on.
Ultimately, it’s up to what the graduate wants.

Husband is insisting they come. They came to highschool graduation and husband ended up spending the whole weekend picking them up (even though they both drive) and are able to drive and are in good health. They are very very pushy. Husband is insisting and I know it will ruin the flow of the weekend. Many events are only for families as graduate has large friend group so events are already like 50-80 just with parents and siblings.

It’s about the graduate. If they aren’t begging for in-laws, then it’s a no. Just say “only enough tickets for immediate family”. Then it’s done. Remind your husband this is graduates moment, and it’s about making graduate center of attention.

[Anonymous]

I see no sense in taking people under 10 or over 70 to large gatherings. Why inconvenience them? Graduations are boring and tiring in most cases. Your focus should be on your graduate not on younger siblings or elderly grandparents. Include them in a celebration at home that weekend.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm assuming its your graduation not your child's because you are asking about in-laws attending.

No. It is my child's college graduation and husband is insisting on inviting his parents. They would be traveling a long distance to come. I do not want to deal with them as we will be with child's friends and their parents.

[Anonymous]

My MIL would live to attend my son’s college graduation but tickets are limited. She would be welcome otherwise. I know my son would live to have her there.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My parents and my FIL will be attending. Probably more extended family too. My dc is glad to have all of the support and we will have big dinner somewhere for everyone including those who don't have ceremony tickets.

There will be a big dinner for the college graduates and their freinds and their parents and siblings. College graduate wants to be with his friends. He does not want to go out alone with grandparents and us (parents). He wants to be with all of his friends and their parents/ siblings.

[Anonymous]

Yes, if grandparents want to attend and tickets are available. All my grandparents came to mine. My parents were divorced, so that was the last time they were all together.

[Anonymous]

OP, invite them next day and have a little celebration with giving them little mementos of graduation, take their pictures with the grad, cut a small cake with them, etc. This way, you can enjoy graduation your way but still make them feel included and valued. This may help keep peace between them and your hubby.