Do you tolerate strangers calling you “sweetie, doll, dear” etc

[Anonymous]

I’m a 30 something and still have random strangers call me things like “doll, dear, sweetie” etc. I’m wondering if I should say something or let it go. I feel like I’m too old at this point to be called this.

[Anonymous]

Lol. Happens on DCUM a lot.

[Anonymous]

It doesn’t phase me.

[Anonymous]

Doesn't bother me at all and I'm almost 40 and still get called those names.

[Anonymous]

If I'm never going to see them again, like a waitress in a restaurant in a town I'm passing through, then I let it go. If it's someone I work with, I reply "My name is Lauren."

[Anonymous]

Dear is fine.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It doesn’t phase me.

Faze

[Anonymous]

Depends on the context. An elderly person, not a problem. A condescending male (I am female), I cut them off and say, "excuse me, but you do not know me well enough to refer to me as 'honey' or 'deer,' it's Mrs. Smith."

[Anonymous]

Gen X male here: I’ve discovered (through years of careful observation and evaluation) that I get appreciably better service in places like restaurants, stores, car rental and airline counters, and other such service-oriented places, if in my interactions with female staff, I call them “darlin’ “ or “ma’am”, and smile a lot. Appreciably better service. Not just a little better.

[Anonymous]

I live it

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Gen X male here: I’ve discovered (through years of careful observation and evaluation) that I get appreciably better service in places like restaurants, stores, car rental and airline counters, and other such service-oriented places, if in my interactions with female staff, I call them “darlin’ “ or “ma’am”, and smile a lot. Appreciably better service. Not just a little better.

Gen X female here: I'd consider it sexual harassment if you called me that. And if I were your waitress I'd accidentally-on=purpose spill a drink or soup in your lap. Oops, sorry darlin'.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Gen X male here: I’ve discovered (through years of careful observation and evaluation) that I get appreciably better service in places like restaurants, stores, car rental and airline counters, and other such service-oriented places, if in my interactions with female staff, I call them “darlin’ “ or “ma’am”, and smile a lot. Appreciably better service. Not just a little better.

Are you wearing a 10-gallon Stetson hat when you do this?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Gen X male here: I’ve discovered (through years of careful observation and evaluation) that I get appreciably better service in places like restaurants, stores, car rental and airline counters, and other such service-oriented places, if in my interactions with female staff, I call them “darlin’ “ or “ma’am”, and smile a lot. Appreciably better service. Not just a little better.

Gen X female here: I'd consider it sexual harassment if you called me that. And if I were your waitress I'd accidentally-on=purpose spill a drink or soup in your lap. Oops, sorry darlin'.

And yet courts wouldn't consider it sexual harassment.

[Anonymous]

Life is to short - if I don’t think they are trying to be an a** I let it go.

[Anonymous]

I’m 53. It’s a term of endearment, I’m ok with it.