Do you think feminism has been a net positive or net negative for relationships?

[Anonymous]

I do think there are some positives, but I worry it’s pushed women to prioritize careers over marriage and children.

[Anonymous]

Yawn. Wake me up when you are ready to talk about men prioritizing careers over marriage and children, and how that means they should accept being less than equal to women to save their relationships.

[Anonymous]

It's so weird to me that you guys come to a mommy board to post this drivel. Pretty sure this board was intended for women to post about menopausal sex and dating after divorce and a bunch of fat guys in suburbia who have yet to get laid at 26 have turned it into the "Any Woman Over 30 Who Likes Her Job is a B itch" show.

[Anonymous]

For me it’s been an absolute net positive. It helped me to open my eyes to how lame so many men are, and how they aren’t worth my time. Once my eyes were opened there was no turning back. No amount of propaganda in the world will turn me back. Call me a bitter old cat lady all you want. I could care less.

I live a life filled with peace and contentment. I go where I want to go, when I want to go. I have an amazing career that brings me job and pays big bucks. It’s an area that’s supposed to for men. But so what…. I like money too. I have fabulous group of friends, a beloved cat, and a boy toy to meet physical needs who I NEVER let live with me and start dirtying up my house.

[Anonymous]

If you want a relationship, yes to feminism all the way.
If you want a slave, then boo! down with feminism!

[Anonymous]

Net positive. And the conservative women who make a career out of saying otherwise are the biggest beneficiaries.

[Anonymous]

No, because my husband and I are a team. He did bar flashcards with me, I read his thesis and did mock defense practice with him. We staggered our maternity and paternity leave so we could keep our kids home longer. And because we're dual income we both have the flexibility at our jobs so we never have to miss a school recital, neither of us has to work crazy hours to support the family.

Egalitarianism has made us both have better work/life balance.

[Anonymous]

In the overall macro sense? Negative, no question. Although some positives in individual situations.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I do think there are some positives, but I worry it’s pushed women to prioritize careers over marriage and children.

Interesting how it's always "is it bad to treat women as fully human?" and never "what could we do to make men and women both prioritize their families and communities?"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I do think there are some positives, but I worry it’s pushed women to prioritize careers over marriage and children.

Interesting how it's always "is it bad to treat women as fully human?" and never "what could we do to make men and women both prioritize their families and communities?"

Yeah, the reality is rigid gender expectations are bad for both men and women, but people ignore that.

My neighborhood is full of dual income families with super involved Dads and spending time with their kids makes them happy. Or you could be my granddad in the 50s, work 14 hours a day and have your first heart attack at 55.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No, because my husband and I are a team. He did bar flashcards with me, I read his thesis and did mock defense practice with him. We staggered our maternity and paternity leave so we could keep our kids home longer. And because we're dual income we both have the flexibility at our jobs so we never have to miss a school recital, neither of us has to work crazy hours to support the family.

Egalitarianism has made us both have better work/life balance.

What does “no” mean here?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No, because my husband and I are a team. He did bar flashcards with me, I read his thesis and did mock defense practice with him. We staggered our maternity and paternity leave so we could keep our kids home longer. And because we're dual income we both have the flexibility at our jobs so we never have to miss a school recital, neither of us has to work crazy hours to support the family.

Egalitarianism has made us both have better work/life balance.

Do you like having a job? Feminism brought you that ability. You’re welcome.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No, because my husband and I are a team. He did bar flashcards with me, I read his thesis and did mock defense practice with him. We staggered our maternity and paternity leave so we could keep our kids home longer. And because we're dual income we both have the flexibility at our jobs so we never have to miss a school recital, neither of us has to work crazy hours to support the family.

Egalitarianism has made us both have better work/life balance.

What does “no” mean here?

The OP'S comment I the original post was that feminism hurts marriage and children. The "No" is to that idea. IMO feminism is good for marriage and children. It makes marriage more palatable for women, it gives Dads better lives.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No, because my husband and I are a team. He did bar flashcards with me, I read his thesis and did mock defense practice with him. We staggered our maternity and paternity leave so we could keep our kids home longer. And because we're dual income we both have the flexibility at our jobs so we never have to miss a school recital, neither of us has to work crazy hours to support the family.

Egalitarianism has made us both have better work/life balance.

Do you like having a job? Feminism brought you that ability. You’re welcome.

The PP was pro feminism. They're negating that feminism means putting career over everything else. That's not what feminism is.

There's nothing incompatible about feminism and being a stay at home parent, feminism means that being a stay at home parent is a choice, not coerced, and an equally valid one for mom or dad to make. (My brother chose to be a SAHD when his wife's career took them abroad).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I do think there are some positives, but I worry it’s pushed women to prioritize careers over marriage and children.

Why is this a question?