Worried for friends teens. She is too involved with them and has few boundaries

You guys suck. OP is worried about her friend's TEENS. Maybe the parent will suffer the consequences of her actions, but the consequences involve the wellbeing of her CHILDREN. You guys are also such cowards who are always saying "Mind your own business", too afraid to say anything to anyone or maybe you just don't care enough to say anything to anyone. OP you said this person is a friend of yours, ask them what they're going to do if they turn out to be the gateway to their kids being stoners, or getting bad grades, or making really bad other decisions while wasted. Ask her why that's ok with her. You're right to worry for her and even more for her kids. None of this is your responsibility, but as a friend and as someone who cares about other children, you're right to be concerned and want to say something. So say something, kindly and not from a shaming place but from a "Hey, I'm really wondering about this" place. Good luck, hope you do it.

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11/28/2025 20:57

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Anonymous wrote:Mind your business
Don’t allow your kids in their spaces

+10

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11/28/2025 20:59

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That is seriously screwed up. I would definitely say something to your friend.

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11/29/2025 10:17

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Anonymous wrote:Worry about your own kids. She will live with the consequences of her in/actions .

You guys suck. OP is worried about her friend's TEENS. Maybe the parent will suffer the consequences of her actions, but the consequences involve the wellbeing of her CHILDREN. You guys are also such cowards who are always saying "Mind your own business", too afraid to say anything to anyone or maybe you just don't care enough to say anything to anyone. OP you said this person is a friend of yours, ask them what they're going to do if they turn out to be the gateway to their kids being stoners, or getting bad grades, or making really bad other decisions while wasted. Ask her why that's ok with her. You're right to worry for her and even more for her kids. None of this is your responsibility, but as a friend and as someone who cares about other children, you're right to be concerned and want to say something. So say something, kindly and not from a shaming place but from a "Hey, I'm really wondering about this" place. Good luck, hope you do it.

No, I disagree. These aren’t your kids. MYOB.

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11/29/2025 10:19

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In Europe, teens can drink at 15.

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11/29/2025 10:23

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Anonymous wrote:In Europe, teens can drink at 15.

And even in Europe, I would not want my 15 year old wasted. FYI - there is a difference between having a drink and being wasted.

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11/29/2025 10:25

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MYOB

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11/29/2025 10:27

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Worry about your own kids. She will live with the consequences of her in/actions .

You guys suck. OP is worried about her friend's TEENS. Maybe the parent will suffer the consequences of her actions, but the consequences involve the wellbeing of her CHILDREN. You guys are also such cowards who are always saying "Mind your own business", too afraid to say anything to anyone or maybe you just don't care enough to say anything to anyone. OP you said this person is a friend of yours, ask them what they're going to do if they turn out to be the gateway to their kids being stoners, or getting bad grades, or making really bad other decisions while wasted. Ask her why that's ok with her. You're right to worry for her and even more for her kids. None of this is your responsibility, but as a friend and as someone who cares about other children, you're right to be concerned and want to say something. So say something, kindly and not from a shaming place but from a "Hey, I'm really wondering about this" place. Good luck, hope you do it.

No, I disagree. These aren’t your kids. MYOB.

DP: Where is the line someone has to cross for you to know a child is in danger? What would it take for you to step in and protect a child?

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11/29/2025 10:28

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Anonymous wrote:In Europe, teens can drink at 15.

What does that have to do with minors getting wasted under parent supervision?

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11/29/2025 10:31

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I know a family like this and the reason why you don’t say anything is because it won’t make any difference and it brings on trouble. It’s a level of dysfunction and a world view (they are likely huge drinkers themselves) that is no accident. It’s deeply embedded in who they are. The naïveté to think you’ll mention it to your friend and she’ll be like you know what you’re right. Please.

If you say something you’re likely cutting off the relationship entirely and this person will gossip about you to others and nothing will change. So if it’s it worth it to you, say something.

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11/29/2025 10:33

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Worry about your own kids. She will live with the consequences of her in/actions .

You guys suck. OP is worried about her friend's TEENS. Maybe the parent will suffer the consequences of her actions, but the consequences involve the wellbeing of her CHILDREN. You guys are also such cowards who are always saying "Mind your own business", too afraid to say anything to anyone or maybe you just don't care enough to say anything to anyone. OP you said this person is a friend of yours, ask them what they're going to do if they turn out to be the gateway to their kids being stoners, or getting bad grades, or making really bad other decisions while wasted. Ask her why that's ok with her. You're right to worry for her and even more for her kids. None of this is your responsibility, but as a friend and as someone who cares about other children, you're right to be concerned and want to say something. So say something, kindly and not from a shaming place but from a "Hey, I'm really wondering about this" place. Good luck, hope you do it.

No, I disagree. These aren’t your kids. MYOB.

DP: Where is the line someone has to cross for you to know a child is in danger? What would it take for you to step in and protect a child?

Do you show this level of energy for all the drunk teenagers whose parents are enabling and allowing their drunkenness? You’ll be very busy. Full time job.

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11/29/2025 10:36

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Anonymous wrote:I know a family like this and the reason why you don’t say anything is because it won’t make any difference and it brings on trouble. It’s a level of dysfunction and a world view (they are likely huge drinkers themselves) that is no accident. It’s deeply embedded in who they are. The naïveté to think you’ll mention it to your friend and she’ll be like you know what you’re right. Please.

If you say something you’re likely cutting off the relationship entirely and this person will gossip about you to others and nothing will change. So if it’s it worth it to you, say something.

I agree. I know a family like this and it’s a huge part of who the parents are (in fact I suspect it’s really the only thing the mom and dad have in common with each other) and nothing will change. They take their kids day drinking with them.