Is there any scenario where it's not okay for male/female friends to hang out when they are in relationships?

[Anonymous]

I know the standard is " if you don't trust them why are you in a relationship with them?: which broadly I agree with.

But I still come back to why do you need to go on these one on one hang outs with them? Movies? Dinner? coffee etc?

Why are you okay of giving the appearance of being a couple to outside observers?

[Anonymous]

Why does anyone need to spend time with friends?

I'm sure people have seen me and thought I and someone else were a couple. By the same token, I know people have seen me and my wife and thought we were siblings. What other people think doesn't matter much to me.

[Anonymous]

Because some people share long lasting interests that are not shared with their spouses and their friend happens to be of the opposite sex. I've gone to concerts, Home Depot shopping, tennis matches, fishing putingd with good guy friends who are not my husband. It was never a problem until they got a girlfriend or partner that had an issue (not all of them did just some). Sometimes my DH (then boyfriend) came a long and sometime she didn't. Same on their end. DH has two women friend very into similar historical and political stuff he is into. He has gone to book signing, just dinner to discuss their dissertations etc with them. I don't care.

[Anonymous]

Because I don't care what people think. I refuse to buy into societal oppression in this way. We are not in Iran.

I have a male movie buddy and a female movie buddy. Why do you have a problem with only one of them? I've done home reno stuff with my best friend's husband, and my husband has gone shopping with another (female) friend of mine. Because - gasp! - we're all friends.

[Anonymous]

As someone with many close opposite sex relationships that have never even been borderline a problem in my long marriage, I guess I think: if it’s a problem to a significant other, then it’s a problem. Your standard of “appearance of a couple” is dumb though.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Because I don't care what people think. I refuse to buy into societal oppression in this way. We are not in Iran.

I have a male movie buddy and a female movie buddy. Why do you have a problem with only one of them? I've done home reno stuff with my best friend's husband, and my husband has gone shopping with another (female) friend of mine. Because - gasp! - we're all friends.

why though?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:As someone with many close opposite sex relationships that have never even been borderline a problem in my long marriage, I guess I think: if it’s a problem to a significant other, then it’s a problem. Your standard of “appearance of a couple” is dumb though.

so you'tr cool with other people thinking some other woman is your husband's wife?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Because I don't care what people think. I refuse to buy into societal oppression in this way. We are not in Iran.

I have a male movie buddy and a female movie buddy. Why do you have a problem with only one of them? I've done home reno stuff with my best friend's husband, and my husband has gone shopping with another (female) friend of mine. Because - gasp! - we're all friends.

why though?

NP. Why though what?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Because I don't care what people think. I refuse to buy into societal oppression in this way. We are not in Iran.

I have a male movie buddy and a female movie buddy. Why do you have a problem with only one of them? I've done home reno stuff with my best friend's husband, and my husband has gone shopping with another (female) friend of mine. Because - gasp! - we're all friends.

why though?

Because I like them as people. Is this tripping you up? That you could never actually find common ground and platonic affection for a member of the opposite sex?

You've got issues, OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As someone with many close opposite sex relationships that have never even been borderline a problem in my long marriage, I guess I think: if it’s a problem to a significant other, then it’s a problem. Your standard of “appearance of a couple” is dumb though.

so you'tr cool with other people thinking some other woman is your husband's wife?

What country are you posting from babe

[Anonymous]

I went to an event the other night with a male relative of my DH and a close female friend. Our spouses couldn’t come bc they were all on childcare duty but the 3 of us had a blast and no one cares or is jealous or weird!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I know the standard is " if you don't trust them why are you in a relationship with them?: which broadly I agree with.

But I still come back to why do you need to go on these one on one hang outs with them? Movies? Dinner? coffee etc?

Why are you okay of giving the appearance of being a couple to outside observers?

Why are you okay with letting what strangers think dictate your behavior? This is your one and only precious life. Spend it with the people you care about as you see fit.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I know the standard is " if you don't trust them why are you in a relationship with them?: which broadly I agree with.

But I still come back to why do you need to go on these one on one hang outs with them? Movies? Dinner? coffee etc?

Why are you okay of giving the appearance of being a couple to outside observers?

What do you think about honor killings, OP? Please tell us why they are or are not okay.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Because I don't care what people think. I refuse to buy into societal oppression in this way. We are not in Iran.

I have a male movie buddy and a female movie buddy. Why do you have a problem with only one of them? I've done home reno stuff with my best friend's husband, and my husband has gone shopping with another (female) friend of mine. Because - gasp! - we're all friends.

why though?

Because I like them as people. Is this tripping you up? That you could never actually find common ground and platonic affection for a member of the opposite sex?

You've got issues, OP.

do you flirt with people other than your spouse?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I know the standard is " if you don't trust them why are you in a relationship with them?: which broadly I agree with.

But I still come back to why do you need to go on these one on one hang outs with them? Movies? Dinner? coffee etc?

Why are you okay of giving the appearance of being a couple to outside observers?

What do you think about honor killings, OP? Please tell us why they are or are not okay.

What a stupid question? Of course murder is wrong.

Do you flirt with people who are not your spouse?